newly wedd

United States
March 27, 2007 8:54pm CST
I just got married in october and my husband is so differnt now is that normal, he was so nice to me before we got married now all he likes to do is make me mad and laugh about he drives me crazy
5 responses
• United States
28 Mar 07
Well you are newly weds and this marriage thing is still new to you. It's a life long journey that helps you both discover you and to help each other grow. It is statisticallly proven that women are mature then men and they normally don't peak until 27. So him laughing at you and think it's funny it's just simply him being a man. It's not right but you should just continue to express your feelings to one another and if that doesn't work. Seek counseling which is really not a bad thing but a helpful tool to get marriages on track and to see the big picture.
@Aurone (4757)
• United States
28 Mar 07
I swear all guys change after marriage. My husband and I dated for over a year and lived together for almost a year before we got married and I swear he changed as soon as we said those vows! He used to be so nice and considerate. But now I think he just takes me for granted. You might try talking with your husband and telling him how is making you feel. Secondly, I have found it is nice to have a mediator when trying to talk to your husband--so if just talking to him doesn't work then try counseling it has helped us a lot. Thirdly, could there be some external pressures like work that are effecting his behavior or yours? If either one of you (my husband is in graduate school and that stress is responsible for most of our problems I believe) is under any kind of external pressure or stress it could cause a behavior change towards the other. Maybe he is taking out his frustration or stress from work out on you or maybe you are stressed so that you irritate or get mad more easily? Good luck and don't give up just yet. I have learned that marriage takes work, compromise and adjustment--just so long as you aren't doing all the work, compromising and adjusting!
• India
28 Mar 07
Try to think deep about the situation. May be your husband is behaving just normal as he is like this only. Actually after marriage generally girls become more possessive and they want full attention of thier hubby towards thm only. But now you are not just a girl-friend, you are his wife and a part of his family. Now he has taken you for granted and become a bit casual but it never meant that he doesn't love u.May be he also thinks that you have been changed after marriage and you irritate so easily. so, dear jus skip out all these thoughts and enjoy your married life. best wishes, shalini
@Debbera (22)
• United States
28 Mar 07
Sometimes, during the "dating process", people are not themselves. They're nicer, they're more polite, they're more thoughtful.. you get the idea. However, if you're in the "dating process" long enough, you'll see their "true colors". I'm thinking that your husband never showed his true colors while you were dating and now you're not so sure about him. The best advise I could give is to talk to him. Tell him how frustrated you are with his behaviors. Tell him it hurts your feelings when he laughs about it. Talk to him.. try to do it without nagging, because most people "shut down" when nagging starts. My husband and I have been married 2.5yrs. We dated for 4yrs prior to getting married. So, when we finally got married, there wasn't much of his "true colors" that I hadn't seen. The one thing that shocked me, after we got married, was how messy he is.. but, that's the worst of it. If your husband won't agree to have a civil conversation regarding these very important issues, I'd suggest counceling.
@myklaire (437)
• Philippines
28 Mar 07
How long did you know each other before you got married? You might think that "I should have known better" and never get married? Well, maybe this is just a test. You're still in the stage of adjustments. Talk it over with him so he knows how you feel.