Is he a good husband?
By lucy67
@lucy67 (819)
China
March 27, 2007 9:17pm CST
My brother-in-law is a successful businessman and he loves my sister and their kid. He helps the kid with his lessons and helps my sister with housework in his spare time. My sister feels happy most of the time. But what sometimes makes her upset is that her husband likes to chat with girls especially beautiful ones. His ex-girlfriend is among them. He is always ready to help them but my sister doesn't like it. My brother-in-law argues that they are only friends, nothing else and he has no fault in making friends with girls even though he has got married because it has nothing to do with marriage. They only talk about common interest and sometimes he will help them if they ask. My sister doesn't know if she is too sensitive to such a thing or there is really some problem in her husband's action. What do you think of my brother-in-law? Do you think he is a good husband?
3 responses
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
28 Mar 07
I think your brother-in-law needs more discretion.
One of the most important things required from a husband is to make his wife feel secure. He may enjoy talking to pretty ladies and pretty ladies might like talking to him too, but he's got to be aware that he is one married man.
So to make his wife feel secure, he would just have to sacrifice a bit and stop this "hobby" of his. :P
@sarah22 (3979)
• United States
28 Mar 07
he sounds like a good husband and father, but he made the choice to get married and build a life with her. yes its ok to have friends, but if he sees its hurting her, why with the ex. there are plenty of others out there. whould he like it if your sister was still friends with any of her ex's?
@EvanHunter (4026)
• United States
28 Mar 07
I can sympathise with your sister. I was pretty hot headed and didnt like my wife talking to other guys most of it had to do with my first wifes betrayels. I stil cant say that I like it but I know now that it was an irrational fear I had, I would say phobia that I was going to end up being hurt again. I am not to sure how I would handle the friends with the X thing thats a rough call. But if your sister is sure that he loves her and that there is nothing going on than she needs not to stress over it. Reguardless of what you do get mad or not if the person you love is going to cheat on you than there is nothing you can do but leave them when the time comes.
