Moving, should I tell his father?

United States
March 27, 2007 11:10pm CST
I'm moving far away week after next, I've told my son's bio father that i'm moving to either or place. I know which one of the two places i'm going for sure, but i haven't told him yet. I don't want him to have anything to do with his son because he's a drinker, stoner, and a liar. He has three different children with three different women, and has failed to pay his child support for the better part of 10 months. I don't want him to know, but should i tell him? Is it wrong for me to feel that him being out of the picture is the better interest for my child? Should I keep my son safe, or leave his father in the picture? SilentRose
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• United States
28 Mar 07
ok i can relate to this in many ways.. my sons father is a drinker and stoner as well, and it is and was best that he stayed out of my sons life. now on the bright side when i broke up with him he decided to move 1000 miles away from us which was just super dandy with me! when i moved i did however let him know our new address since he does have a right to know. i think you should tell him unless u think that he will come after you and hurt your or your son physically. its probably a good thing that your moving far away, this way he shouldnt be able to cause too many problems for you and your son. and its not wrong at all for you to feel the way you do about this, like said i can relate!
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@sedel1027 (17851)
• United States
28 Mar 07
Since he is the child father, he does have the legal right to know where you are moving to. To cover yourself, I would tell him where you are moving to (you can give him the town, not necessarily an address) and a way to contact you.
• United States
28 Mar 07
Yes thats what I thought as well, I think maybe I should just tell him the town i'm moving to. He does have a cell number that I plan on keeping when I move, he can contact me on that, I just worry about him coming and trying to harm me or the baby. SilentRose
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
28 Mar 07
yes, I think you should tell him. When you do, tell him only what he needs to know. If he doesn't really have contact with his kid now, hopefully he wont try to pursue him, but He does have a legal rigt to know. If you fear for you and your child, and he has ever done anything to make you fear him I would report him immeiately, that way there is a record in case there is ever an incident. Good luck!
@aprilsong (1886)
• China
28 Mar 07
Well,i think it depends. I mean do your son and his father love each other very much? Or his father cares little about him? If they love each other very much and you don't let he know,maybe something unhappy may happen. And if they mean little to each other.You 'd better not let him know.Anyway a father with lots of shortcomings can do little good to your son.And on the contrary,if they keep meet each other till you son are grown up,his father may influences him.By that i mean as the saying goes:like the father,like the son".So why not keep such bad father away from your son and let him have a happy childhood and can grow in a good environment?