Why Do I Get So Nervous Around Girls?

@pinokkio (352)
Bahrain
March 28, 2007 1:19am CST
Whenever I get near a girl in my college, my tongue gets tied and I get real nervous. I can talk easily about studies, teachers, etc.. But when I try to say something funny ,I change my mind at the last second and stay quiet. It's just that I want whatever I'm going to say to be perfect, but that's hard to do in the 1 or 2 seconds I have. I end up feeling like I'm not wanted. What should I do to be more confident around girls?
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10 responses
@tess1960 (2386)
• United States
28 Mar 07
First of all stop prejudging what the girl is going to think. Read up on events happening in and around your college or college town. take a deep breath and just go for it. A question that requires more than just a yes or no answer is a good conversation opener. If you can talk about classes then you are already half way there. if you are afraid to be funny then don't. Be eloquent, be mysterious, be enticing.........be yourself!
• Philippines
28 Mar 07
Nice suggestion.....wooooh
@pinokkio (352)
• Bahrain
28 Mar 07
That's a real good advice, tess1960. I'll try to focus less on how I should be funny and just be myself whatever the outcome. Thanks.
@yanstill (1491)
• China
9 Apr 07
yes,it's true,be yourself,lol,i love that way.
@webbyman (183)
• Philippines
7 Apr 07
When i was at your age i also felt the same thing but as i grow older i become more confident maybe it's because of the experience i gain in life. It's only now that i realize that girls or women prefer men who are real, cool & relax. Just be yourself and don't pretend that you are somebody just to impress that lady.:)
@pinokkio (352)
• Bahrain
7 Apr 07
I'm growing each day and I don't think women will be that hard to impress just by being yourself. It's girls, not women, who are kind of weird sometimes.
@frodloo (424)
• Indonesia
31 Mar 07
just positive thinking pinokkio ;) girl doesn`t like if you didn`t be your self. u can try to talk about your lecture or get a small jokes with them. believe that they are best. stay cool and say in your heart " I CAN DO THAT " and go to talk with them ;) okey, be confidence and don`t eat junk food before because its smell :( trust me. Gud Luck pinokkio.
@pinokkio (352)
• Bahrain
6 Apr 07
Thanks for the heads up about the junk food.. It really does have a bad smell.. But it also gives me a reason to live.. But I wouldn't eat it before talking to a girl.
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
28 Mar 07
It makes you nervous because you have a fear of rejection. Just be calm and be natural. Be yourself always, girls love to go with people who has a good sense of humor. If you feel like saying something funny, dont think twice it might open the door for a lasting relationship. If it doesn't work then you've learned something and try another means of gaining friends. Just be confident, nobody's perfect and be true to them.
@pinokkio (352)
• Bahrain
6 Apr 07
Rejection is dreadful but I'm not scared of being rejected by a girl, I'm afraid of being disliked by most girls. It's not that I want them to be attracted, I just don't want to be the person that they for some reason don't like to hang out with.
@obang1483 (250)
• Philippines
28 Mar 07
yeah.....girls like that when you're just cool about yourself...not pretending to be somebody...just enjoy your passion and soon you'll never know she's the one giving you a hint that she likes you too
@pinokkio (352)
• Bahrain
6 Apr 07
I am trying to be myself all the time with everyone but that's the problem.. I don't think girls like someone being himself.. I think they like someone either really funny, really manly or really mysterious.
@aciddrop (798)
10 Apr 07
you have good girls friends or sisters?maybe trying to talk more with them would help.just practise those jokes in front of them!also,there's no need to say perfectly funny.maybe being urself and being spontaneous are attractive enough to those girls!
• India
1 Apr 07
It's just natural for a guy to get nervous around a girl unless he doesn't think much of that girl or he's very familiar with that girl.It's some problem no teenager escapes from, I guess you are a teenager too.If you try to ignore them or you aren't much concerned about what they think of you, then you won't feel nervous around them.
@Bell88 (370)
• Malaysia
31 Mar 07
Maybe you trying too hard to impress the girl. Just relax. And the girls will come to you automatically. You don't have to say the perfect stuff. If you like the girl, let her know in subtle ways. She might like you back. Or just be open to her.
• India
31 Mar 07
Only solution of this problem is to make a girl friend. Spend time with her as much as possible. This will keep you fear away in front of girls community. Otherwise for years you will be the same as you are at present. When someone will in your life, you will start loosing fear slowly and one day you will be able to talk, discuss anything with any girl. Girlfriend will give you inner courage. So first step should be to make a close girl friend.
• India
29 Mar 07
stop trying to impress....... be what ur!!! and be confident and think ur the best!!!!!! and it will be done buddy.