Advice or controlling..........
@proudmammabear (556)
Canada
March 28, 2007 2:53am CST
I am curious to know if any of you find it annoying that everyone seems to tell you WHAT is best for your children, instead of simply expressing an opinion on their thoughts about a situation you are going through with your children?
Here is teh story: My second youngest son turns 5 this fall, and he will be going into kindergarten, though he won't be 5 until the end of October. He has now has 2 full years of preschool, and is from an academic stand point, more than ready, however he had trouble hearing, and only got ear tubes and started speech therapy last november, and his speech is really behind, though he is making progress.
I feel that because he is achademically ready for kindergarten he should go, but I also feel that he would benefit more socially to be in preschool at the same time as going to school. (one is tues&thurs, the other 1/2 days on wed and fri) A lot of people are very supportive of my choice but I am hearing alot of people telling me NO do not put him in pre school too, he'll be in kindergarten that is good enough"
Is it good enough though, are we failing our children by adopting a "good enough" ideal rather than fighting to give our children the best start possible in life because it might save us a couple bucks?
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@muscare (3068)
• Australia
28 Mar 07
I think it would be a benefit to your son to attend both, if he is happy with that. And if YOU are happy with that! The problem when you get so much advice coming from lots of different people is that it messes with your own personal thoughts. I hate it when certain people give me advice on how to raise my child, especially when they finish by saying something like ' I've raised 4 kids, I think I know what I'm talking about'.
@proudmammabear (556)
• Canada
28 Mar 07
I definately agree with you on that one. My mom has raised 7 of us and that is her logic, she knows what she's talking about because she has raised 7 kids! Well that may be true, I was one of those kids and while I respect her because she did the best job she could do, I also know that we were raised with no accountability of any of our negative actions, so when it comes to certain things, she really has no idea. The other lady that tells me how it should go, well she has bore no child, and has not had one around day in and day out.
I appreciate your time and thought here.
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@Saskmommy (55)
• Canada
29 Mar 07
Personally, I believe that it is your choice as to wether you decide to put him in pre-school, Kindergarden or both... Who says that he cant be in both, and when DID they make up the rules..Go with what you think is best for your son because when it all comes down to it, you are the one that is responsible for his over all well being..
@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
30 Mar 07
Iagree with those who ever advise me the good and i neglect those who ever see just to boss us and even they doesnot keep that in practise but go on advising just others, but i never hurt them and always been quite to them and it does not matter us in any way and i always respected them and their advise as we lack good advices nw-a-days in the casse of children nursing.
@lyndee22 (1210)
• Philippines
28 Mar 07
well for me its' better to put him in just one institution that is best suited for him to avoid confussion, and for his better development. of course there are many advantages in attending both these ins. but the question is, is he capable? he maybe able but his capalibities may hinder him.
@proudmammabear (556)
• Canada
28 Mar 07
very good points. In my reasoning, because he will be one of the youngest in his class, and because he will not be speaking well, I along with his speech therapist feel that he would benefit from the pre school interactions, where the kids are less judgemental, and not only that but by keeping him in preschool he can still attend pre school speech therapy. With going to Kindergarten at the same time, he will be taught on a more scheduled time placement, able to do more academics and actual learning rather than 'playing' which he is ready for as with having 2 older siblings that loved to play 'school' he has been printing his name since he was 2 1/2, he knows his abc's, colors, numbers etc.
He is a very active child that would respond well to kindergarten's routine, but he may not fit in because his speech is quite a bit behind, so in going to preschool, he will be able to interact with kids at a more equal level. Not to mention if he does both, that is 3 days of speech therapy, as opposed to 1 or 2, which he needs.
thank you for your post.
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@KissThis (3003)
• United States
28 Mar 07
I think that noone should ever settle for "good enough". The more time and effort you put into something or someone the better the situation turns out.
My nephew had a speech problem from having a growth on his growing stem which prevented him from talking till he was almost 5.My sister not only had him enroled in kindergarten but also had him going to a speech therapist a couple times a week.He is now 18 , you would never had known that he had this speech problem.
I think that you should do whatever you can to help your son.
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@proudmammabear (556)
• Canada
28 Mar 07
Thank-you very much for your post. I appreciate it.
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