How do you handle people who love drama?

United States
March 28, 2007 7:23am CST
I am at my wits end because my sister is a total drama queen. I'm so tired of her constantly being able to put our entire family (we're a small family with just me and sis and both parents) in an uproar. Anyone have suggestions for perhaps bringing a drama "Queen" down to at least "Princess" size?
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
28 Mar 07
Well, it sounds like she has some issues. You can do a few things 1) Make sure she gets some help. She needs counseling 2) How often does she do this? Look for a pattern and try and beat her to it, maybe she will learn she does not have to act up to get attention, that you love her anyhow! If you know her brithday is coming up, sit down a few months before - maybe discuss going to a local hotspot to celebrate her b'day - let her know that you are are thinking about her - when she is not. 3) Call her - let her know that you are thinking of her. Send her e-cards to say Hi. 4) Invite her to some of your kids activities - let her know you enjoy her company - bring her to a hockey tournament, a family cookout or whatever. Let her know that she is part of your family. 5) Call her...make plans for a girl's day out - go shoppping with her, take her to a day spa etc. Don't know what else to tell you.
• United States
28 Mar 07
Thanks. Those are great suggestions and might help alleviate some issues. She is in counseling but to be honest I'm not so sure it's even made a difference with her. She's had medication after medication and she simply can't seem to come down even a notch to mellow out some. She has 2 boys, 8 years old that are so sweet but I see them going through hell with her. She loves them, there's no question, but she's just simply so selfish and self centered that they often suffer. Then add on my parents, who are getting up in age and can't deal with these stresses and still come out without being completely frustrated and taxed to their fullest. It's just getting harder and harder. Thanks for the ideas though!
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
30 Mar 07
If her medication is helping and she is in counseling, maybe it is time to try a different pshyciatrist and try different meds. Sometimes it takes a while to get it right and the person has to be willing to work with her. Good luck
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28 Mar 07
My brother can be something of a "drama king" and as I also have a small family, it makes our lives difficult to say the least. The best way I hve to deal with him is to ignore him. They want the attention and crave the attention, therefore don't give them the attention. My brother has learnt the hard way that he cannot get everything his own way now, and has backed off
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• United States
28 Mar 07
I would tell her point blank that if she is having problems that she needs to consult someone who is trained in dealing with them. There have been times when I needed to say this to people that I know. They back down for a while. Often they take my advise and often find that they have nothing wrong with them. It is just their nature to be overly dramatic.
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• United States
28 Mar 07
I think you're right. She does have "professional" help but it's done nothing for her. I think the reason behind that is that she's not 100% honest with herself. I love her dearly. That's why I am in such turmoil over how to handle her and her stresses. I just simply don't know what else to do. I am hoping others in this situation can shed some light and tell me what they've done to make the relationships work, etc. Thanks!
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@bindishah (2062)
• India
29 Mar 07
Im a drama queen myself:) My parents usually indulge me but my bf usually just ignores me when i behave that way.
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• United States
30 Mar 07
LOL... how funny that you admit to being the drama queen. I didn't really think most know or realize that they are one!!!! Enlighten me, WHY do you do it?
@howard96h (11640)
• New York, New York
28 Mar 07
I try and stay away from drama queens, it gets on my nerves and I loose patience with people like this. Sometimes a taste of their own medicine helps.
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• United States
28 Mar 07
Seems like you and Kebpete have the same thoughts on that one! I might try it to see. The only issue I have with that is that I don't want my parents stressed any more and she might go to them and complain about my complaints. LOL
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• Singapore
28 Mar 07
I have a question for you, my friend. Why do you want to do that? Having a drama queen around is VERY ideal in my opinion. This means that there is never a dull moment and there will always be something to laugh about every next minute. I think your sis would be one popular guest at many parties. ;-) I would say, play along with her. When you play along with a drama queen, you will then stop finding her irritating or tiring. Instead, you will have as much fun as her. Not to mention that this will forge a stronger bond between your sister and you, I am sure life will change for the better once you "give in". ^^
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@applsofgld (2506)
• United States
29 Mar 07
I do know how you feel. I have one in our family who loves "drama". It is all for ATTENTION!! The best advice I can give you is to quit giving her the attention she is wanting and she will tone it down. People like her want sympathy and to be the center of attention. It really gets my goat, there are actually really needy people and situations out there that require attention and these drama queens/kings want it all for themselves b/c they are selfish. Hope I didn't hurt anyone's feelings, but that's my opinion.
@denden (802)
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
i dont know how to minimize of being drama queen to a princess size.my grandmother loves drama and she has her favorite drama movie and if she watch those drama movie she is very affected and very emotional and also she apply it to her personla life. she always think about discrimation of being a poor woman. she thinks of that always and we keep on telling her that its not true and she is just being influence by the movie she always watch but she dont listen.all we have to do is to banned him of watching drama movies.
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