Mom's Taxi Service!

If it disturbs you so much, why don't you talk it out with them? But before you do that, I would urge that you first rationalize with yourself why you feel upset. Is it because they are treating you as a chauffeur? Is it because they are not paying you enough? Is it because they actually pay you? Is it because they do not say thanks? Is it because they take you for granted? Once you know the true reason for you feeling disturbed, I think it would be easier to sort things out. :)

i used to go through this all the time when my kids were younger. they were all in sports or other extra curricular activities. it was so frustrating because someone always needed a ride. now as adults i don't have this problem. , so i feel bad for you! sometimes i wish we were all birds, have those eggs, feed em a while, then push em right out and maybe pass them in flight!!! kids!!!

Think of it as Mom's Love Mobile, not a taxi service. You will be rewarded someday for your kindness when you least expect it. My kids jokeingly ( or at least I hope it is a joke) say "Mom you had better be nice to me, I will picking our your old folks home some day."

I can so understand your feelings hun. there are times when I feel like I am little more than an unpaid taxi service myself. My partner overslept this morning and expected me to drive him to work. The other evening I got a call from a friend who wanted me to drive over and pick them up from work because she had shopping she didn't want to carry on a bus. Yup, I undertstand your venting completely :-)

I dont have a license yet and sometimes have to use my mom to drive me places. You sound like my mom who always joked about being a taxi to me and my sister. My sister started driving a few yrs ago but I havent got a car nor license and I'm the oldest. If they are giving you cash, you could explain to them the problem. How "adult" are we talking here? I'm 27 so thats really adult for me.

Honestly, I've heard people complain about this before. It's tough but it pays to say no, and mean it. It's not the gas thing, it's the principle. If they need to get around then they either need to learn to drive and get themselves a car, or figure out how to use Public Transport. Many of us have no choice, and with the way gas prices are rising so alarmingly, I would definitely be saying no at times. Try to toughen up that heart of yours. Trust me, it'll pay dividends in the end.

Don't feel so bad about it. I used to live out in the country where there was no bus service and I had to drive my chidren to school and collect them again in the evening. If they wanted to meet their friends at weekends I had to drive them to their friends houses and collect them again. When they got a little older I had to drive them to their clubs and collect them at unearthly hours of the mornings. I never expected to be paid or thanked, and I was always happy to do it for them. At least I knew where they were and that they were safe. Time flies and they are all grown up and married now, and I would give anything to have my taxi service again.

well ..if you have nothing to do then it keeps you busy then lol joke ok..however driving them somewhere is a good way of spending your quality of them even though they are already adult...bonding still continues..arent you lucky to have those kids??

Yes, you can only blame yourself but I know what it is like and we will always do the best for our children even when they are adults and can well look after themselves but that is because we love and care for them so much that we go out of our way for them.

Maybe they don't realize just how often they are asking? Maybe you should say something to them and let them know how you feel. I know sometimes I ask my mom for more than I should or really need. I think it's just something kids do..this kid is 46.lol

Why don't any of your 4 adult children have a car? I guess they are expensive to buy, maintain & insure. Is there public transport nearby? I know I am a taxi service to my three, but two of them still have 2 to 2 1/2 years before being allowqed to get a license. I know my daughter will buy a car, & i can't wait for her to do her own driving to & from school & swimming. I doubt whether my step son will own a car for a good while, he is hopeless at saving money. And the effort of learning!! Hmm. You can only do what you can do, & not being a permanent taxi driver for 4 adults is one of them.

Oh no--- I had hoped that being a taxi driver would stop when my daughter was old enough to drive herself around- She is only 10.. so I don't mind being her taxi driver now.. But if you are still giving your adult kids rides-- I'm in for it! LOL.. Although I know if I needed it my mom or dad would be here in a heartbeat to help me out- But then again not all the time! You're a great mom butterfly!

One kid, there could be a temporary problem. All 4 kids, sounds like they need some tough love. You have been letting them do this and now they expect it. It is time to put your foot down, get another job, save your money, get a car! You are available only for emergencies and car shopping when they are ready. You are right to feel frustrated. When you are working, do not under any circumstance let them borrow the car. They need to feel some pain.

I don't blame you for being frustrated. It sounds as if you started off by wanting to help, then they started to take advantage of your good will. Maybe you could sit down with them and tell them your concerns. Maybe you could suggest that they try to do all of their errands on one afternoon and try to schedule it in advance with you (that is if you still want to drive them around). Let them know they should call a taxi sometimes. Let them know that your time is valuable and they are not taking into account that you have a life. If you told them that you would drive them only one day a week then they might try to plan a little better and would see you as more of a mother than a taxi driver. Good luck!

I'm sorry you feel used and taken for granted honey. You must say something to your children.

This is NOT venting.This was your way of saying something is upsetting you but you know what it is and how to correct it.Venting is when you go on and on about a problemto get it all out of your system.Since you taught us how to relieve stress by saying "no",this is a life lesson.

Well Elusive it used to be the same with me even when they where younger lol but Like you I could not say no and most of the time I did not mind but yes sometimes it gets to you I agree The worse used to be when you are settled and they come and say Mum can you just go to the Shop for us or take us to the Shops. That is when I did mind lol

This is true, you have enabled these adult children to depend on you for too long. Might be difficult but time to get busy with your life and let them begin to fend for themselves. Good luck with this since it might be difficult at first. Tis ok for you to have shared so we could give you our 2 cents worth.

I'm sorry you are feeling like that. I'd tell them how you feel and don't let them take advantage of you. They are adults and should know that you can't take them everywhere they want to go.

i'm so guilty of this crime i ask my mom to take me everywhere.she never says no and never complains but i bet she hates it lol..after reading your post i'm going to be a little more respectful of how many times i ask and why thanks for the reminder hon hugs Cheryl