Willing to Raise a Child

@sashby (16)
United States
March 28, 2007 5:47pm CST
I was just curious as to the number of people who would take on the role of raising a child that is not theirs. I am 22 and have a four year old daughter, and scared of dating and getting close to people because I automatically assume that a guy will not really want to date me seriously, because they are not willing to take on the responsbility of raising a child that is not theirs. I can't really blame them though, because I am not so sure that I would do it myself. Am I crazy for thinking this? What are your thoughts?
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@Anakata2007 (1785)
• Canada
31 Mar 07
I would do it, gladly. In fact I'm a woman but I would have always wanted to meet a guy that had kids already. My husbad felt the same way before we married. He would have loved to be a step dad. We both love kids. Also my stepdad did it. My mom had two kids, me and my brother and my stepdad was only 24 and came into our lives and never left and used to carry a phot of the three of us in his wallet. I think what happens is that the man will not only fall in love with you, but with your daughter as well.
• Canada
28 Mar 07
I would be able to do this as I have . My oldest is seventeen and although I say she is my daughter she is not my biological child . She is a child that no one cared about what happened in her life and when I got to know her I offered her the chance to come live with us and become a part of our family . I love her as much as the other children and told her many times that even though she may not be my bilogical child , she is still my child . Her mom who I don't even know called me one day and asked if it was true that I would be willing to take her and pay for all her expenses and take over the raising of her . I of course said yes as I do care about her very much . I have never met her real father and don't know anything about him other then what she has told me . I have agreed to raise her as my own and pay for any of her expenses and give her the best I can in life . We have considered adoption but her mother does not want to give up all her rights to her even though she doesn't care where she is or who she is with so we have not done this but did contact a lawyer and were told that because she has not been in shcool for years ( since grade 6 ) and because she has never had a home to say was hers before and because the child wants to be with us that we could do this without her parents even knowning anything about it . I would adopt her in a heartbeat if I thought it would not offend her natural parents ( even though they do not seem to have much intersts in her ) , but I can't understand how any parent could not want their own child and feel that because they don't want me to adopt her that they must have some love for her even if we are unable to see it . But she is living with us and is to live with us until she of age to be on her own . We are now her legal gurardians and although she is not biologically one of my children she is my child .