What if I said yes.

United States
March 28, 2007 8:15pm CST
Even though I had a baby and was 18 at the time. My best friend of 14 years told me he wanted to be more then a friend. He said that he loved me for 3 years and didn't know how to tell me. we were such best friends and I didn't want to ruin it. Plus at the time I was with my child's father. Which turned out to be a big mistake. So I said I just wanted to be friends, and he looked so heart broken. Its been 2 years and I haven't seen or spoken to him since. I still think about him everyday, and wonder what if I said yes and we got together. My life would be so much different and he would still be in my life.
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@kyran_12 (643)
• India
29 Mar 07
you are right but then you stil have to think about it ,,,there is lot of difference in love and affection so till you guys figure it out i think you should be a best friend to him......at this age many decisions fails ..so people alwyas seek for the people who are better went through this ...i think a senior person or parents can get you to the better decision....love is not the heart play only ....rather than love there practicality in the world which is more important for less complications........as i feel......cheers
• Canada
29 Mar 07
We often wonder in life what things would have been like if we had said or did something differently in the past . You still have the option of seeing how things would be though by trying to find him and getting to know him again . You will never know for sure what it would have been like if you had said yes as there is no way to go back in time to find out but by looking for him and getting to know him again you would be giving yourself a chance that you may have missed out on . Best of luck :)
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• United States
29 Mar 07
I think tha you need to take it slow. If he does want to talk to you, you just need to be settle and be his friend. You were that one that said you just wanted to be friends. It seems like you really hurt his feelings. Guys biggest fear is to be rejected. He loved you for a long time and probably still does, he is just scaried. My best suggestion is to show that you care and maybe apologize for hurting him, only if you do mean it. Telling someone that you love them is a very difficult thing to do. Just start out friends again and if he doesn't want to be with you like in a relationship you might just have to swallow it and just enjoy his friendship. I mean having him as a friend is better than nothing at all.
• United States
29 Mar 07
I want to talk to him, but don't know were he is. I feel so bad and want to tell him I'm so sorry. I think he forgot about me, and I hope he found someone to love and that loves him back.
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• United States
29 Mar 07
That is probably the best thing that you can do is just to hope the best for him. You could always try to find him just to let him know that you are sorry, but if he doesn't response you probably know why. I hope that your heart heals and that you can find love. Good luck to you in your search.
• United States
29 Mar 07
Thanks