Where do broken hearts go?

Philippines
March 28, 2007 11:48pm CST
2 months had passed and im still broken. Where do broken hearts go? Or should i say where will i end up? I'm lost in love and i don't know where to find it.
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14 responses
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
They say love is sweeter the second time. A past is past the only thing to do is learn so as, not to commit the same mistakes again. Evalaute yourself what must have been wrong with your relationship and change. Life must go on sweet angel your young and pretty their are lots of guys out there better than your X!
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
Thanks for that. But sometimes, i feel frustrated in falling inlove again. How can you handle this? We have to understand that with brokenhearts, there is frustration.
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• Philippines
29 Mar 07
Frustrations are part of life but one's you deal with it. It will make you a better person.
• Philippines
1 May 07
Yah, you're right. Without frustration, you won't appreciate success. right?!
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
Nice question! well, in my experience, there can never be broken hearts you see, when you love, it is felt somewhere in your mind. Your heart only pumps oxygen that your body needs to survive. I am not here to change your mind and the people who read this. I just say what I feel. The right question for this matter is... "Where do broken brains go?"... The only cure for love is love itself. If a man hurts you and you find it hard to pick yourself up, the answer to that problem is another man. The poison that kills you can be used as a cure and heal you. Don't worry yourself too much.... You are beautiful! -Gelo of Las PiƱas
• Philippines
4 May 07
I see. your point. Well maybe you're right. Like what my teacher in biology said that it is not the heart that really decides who to love or how to get hurt, it is the hypothalamus. It is a part of the brain that controls our feelings. So, broken brains are the ones that indulge themselves too much with grief when they were left behind. hehe. Thanks for giving me self esteem. :)
• India
29 Mar 07
I am really very sorry and am with your pain but cannot share it. My suggestion is to keep yourself very busy on other matters. Try to not to remember that guy who has broken your heart. Keep always positive thinking. Try fro another good friend. There are plenty of good friends around you, actually you do not know them thats why you are engaged with only one. If he has left why you cannot leave him. Though it will take some time, but it is possible. After finding another good friend, it will be very busy. World of love is so big that you need not to end up your life. God has gifted it to enjoy it, please enjoy it, try to be on yourself.
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
Your right. I should still appreciate life for god has prvided me almost everything. I still have my friends and family,i'm doing good in school and people around me still loves me eventhough i failed to be loved by the guy i love.
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@superchook (1786)
• Australia
29 Mar 07
There is not a lot that people can say to make it any easier on you. All I can suggest is that you need to try and look forward to the future, in a few years time you will have probably met the right person and be very happy. Give your heart time to heal. Go put yourself first and do something you enjoy. I hope you will feel better soon. Just give it time!
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• Philippines
4 May 07
yah, i think time heals. thanks for that response. :)
@lpipe0240 (1161)
• United States
29 Mar 07
I think they last forever. But at lease they subside once time passes and you meet someone else. I'm happily married, yet I still think about past girl freinds and how I wish I could meet up with them again someday. Just to see how they are doing at least.
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• Philippines
29 Mar 07
That's great. I know maybe sooner or later, i'll forget about him.
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@repzkoopz (1895)
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
why be broken? you're a pretty angel! you don't have to find love. it'll come to you! and while waiting for it, enjoy yourself! love yourself! do things that you like! go shopping or something. hang out with friends. where you'll end up depends on you. you don't need to hurry. you're still young! just enjoy life! you only get to have it once in a lifetime. c",)
@repzkoopz (1895)
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
well then, if thats the case, ask yourself why they think that way. try to make some adjustments. you don't have to exceed other people's expectations. you don't need to please everybody. on the loving part, think of it this way.. its his loss, not yours. don'te be too hard on yourself, loosen up. feel free to love again. but this time, don't put everything on the line. don't give all your love just yet. leave some for yourself. you're very young, you still have a long way to go. don't rush things. it'll come in its own good time. c',)
• Philippines
1 May 07
Well thanks for that advice. I'll keep that in mind. You're absolutely right, i don't need to please everyone. I just need to be myself. I don't need to pretend just for someone to love me, cause it's not them that i'm fooling but myself. Honestly, im enjoying myself as single. I know that sometimes i feel like that im missing something, but hey, i got a lot of friends. :) And thay are the ones worth keeping:)
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
Well i think love doesn't look only at the physical aspects of the person. A lot say that i'm pretty but i had some problems regarding my attitude. They say that i'm a brat. =(
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• Philippines
4 May 07
there really nothing at all to worry about broken hearts. they get healed by time. time is the most miraculous thing in this world when it comes to healing hurt hearts. so just keep calm. very soon, you will be back on the road again with so much vibrancy.
@im2good4u (567)
• Philippines
1 May 07
Usually broken hearts are scattered in pieces, its up to you if you're going to pick them up, patch 'em up and keep on moving or just stare and leave those pieces be. me, i prefer to pick 'em up and go forward, learn from your mistakes so that you won't end up doin it again. if you have problems with you attitude then don't hesitate to tell to your partner, if he loves you he'll accept you as what you are and not what you look like. and you don't lack any physically coz you already look good so finding the right guy for you might be easier than you thought.
• Philippines
4 May 07
Hmmm, sometimes i find it hard to tell my partner about my attitude problem cause i'm scared to lose him. Have you tried to do it with you partner, i mean telling her that you had problems regarding you attitude? If yes, how did you do it?
• Philippines
4 May 07
go seek God first and ask for His help. then learn to accept that you were no longer with each other. forgive (whose fault doesnt matter anymore) and then forget. do things that can make you happy nor busy like chatting, cooking, readin, listening to music etc...do things that would make you busy girl. then go out with friends...start dating and entertain suitors. go out of town or even be with your family. make yourself busy girl...and one day, you'll never know youre enjoying your life and not broken anymore. just move on coz i believe there is someone meant for you...much more better than him. Godbless..takecare...goodluck
@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
When i feel empty and Broken hearted,I always run to my friends for comfort.they are not good in giving advice,but a simple hug and backrub will ease the pain that i am feeling..
• Philippines
4 May 07
Hmmm, nice response. It's true that a simple hug can ease the pain but trust me, friend's advice doesn't really works. Hehe. For me, it's better for them to just be there to hug me with their arms than to open their mouth and tell me what i should do. Like they would say, "stop crying, he's not worth it". Well, how can i stop crying if i feel hurt, right? And how can they say that the guy is not worth it if i love him so much. I mean, they keep on saying things like that because they don't feel the pain that you are in. But i go with your response, it's true that friends will always be there for you when you are in grief.
@ozzydee70 (465)
• Germany
1 May 07
i could say Time can heal all the wounds, we cant tell when but it'll definitely leave a scar in our memory. spending time with friends and family will help! how are you now? hope you moved on now..
• Philippines
4 May 07
Yuo're right, our friends and family are always there for us. As of now, im doing fine, cause i'm busy doing things that i almost forgot what happened. But at night, in my bed before i sleep, since i'm alone and not doing somethings, those memories keep on running in my head, and suddenly a tear would just come out of my eye. It's really hard to lose someone you love right? But i know that sooner or later i'll forget about it.
• Philippines
1 May 07
the answer, my friend, is blowing in the wind. but if there is indeed a place where they end up is would be in our head. as long as memories of former lovers are there, you always end up remembering those moments unless you really go ahead and move on with your life, particularly your love for that person. they say, in order to love someone else, you should love yourself first. now, do you love yourself enough to forgive and forget? judging by your post, two months are a long time and still the wounds are pretty much fresh yet. speaking of experience, i do have been in several heart breaks as well but my world does not stop spinning there. life is too beautiful to lock yourself in that room, crying for someone who doesn't deserve your tears in the first place. anyway, it is his lost in the end.
• Philippines
4 May 07
Wow, that's deep. But yah i got your point. You're right, if you learn to foget and forgive it would help. But of course the lessons learned should not be forgotten. Right? I just can't help it, getting hurt when you suddenly remember everything that happened as if it was just yesterday. And the hard part is, i can see that guy almost yesterday cause it's like we live in the same neighborhood.
@psyche49f (2502)
• Philippines
4 May 07
Don't find love, it will soon find you. . there is a saying that time heals. . .I can understand the pain you are suffering right now due to a broken relationship. Once you have already dried up those tears, start circulating and meeting friends. Be interested and interesting. I'm sure love will come in the most unexpected places. Cheer up...the world is full of happy surprises, and who knows, someone greater is really the one in store for you. . .
• Philippines
5 May 07
Thanks for the response. It cheered me up. You're right, love comes unexpectedly.
• Philippines
5 May 07
First, i dont believe that you got broken hearted having that GOD given beauty from heaven.. Second, its HIS lost.. third.. We cannot find love.. LOVE fins us in many ways!