do you ground, spank, or just talk to your kids when they do something wrong?

United States
March 29, 2007 9:22am CST
i personally do all 3 but i know there are alot of people that only do 1 or 2. mine it depends on what the kids have done. like not doing chores is grounding or extra chore the next day. throwing rocks and breaking a window after being told no rock throwing they get spanked and grounded. fighting with sister they get talked to. i think i have spanked my kids 2 times there whole life they are 9 and 12 but they know i will. lol. i think that is why they try not to push something to that degree. lol. what ways do you punish your kids. do you have any new ideas that you try?
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16 responses
29 Mar 07
I do all the three.My daughter is 3.so obviously disciplining her means all three methods have to be used.But I don't use grounding as much as the other two.I mostly ignore her, and tell her not to come to me if she does not listen to me.That works most of the time.Shed also listens to what I say and understands it a lot.so I don't really have to spank her.But there are times when I am feeling low,or irritated, or just very tired.Then I have to spank her before I get her to do what I want her to do.I did not span her until she was 2 yrs old though.Only after 2.5 yrs of age,she has started getting punishments:)
@jsae29 (1122)
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
I do spank my kids but not always. Only if they do really really bad things. Usually I give them verbal warnings or punishment like not eating their favorite food for a day or two.
• United States
30 Mar 07
I do not spank my kids. I use to send them to timeout but that never really worked well. What I found that works for at least my kids is taking something away from them. For my son he gets one day of playstation and computer games taken away everytime he misbehaves. Usually all I have to say is "do you want to lose your playstation" and he is magically good again. I only let him play on the nonschool days anyway which makes it that much more special. He has only lost it a few times but I explain to him that everything has a consequence and he needs to think about what he is going to do before he does it.
@wachit14 (3600)
• United States
30 Mar 07
I believe in discipline with love, not punishment. I have two teenagers and I usually take away something they like to do like the computer or their cell phone for a period of time. Thankfully my kids are fairly well behaved, but they still need to be disciplined from time to time. Kids need to know there are boundaries. They need those boundaries, but they don't need to be physically punished when they do something wrong because I don't think they really learn anything from that.
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@cazman (23)
• United States
30 Mar 07
my mom just yells and groundes me but my dad just yells
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@inovator (603)
• Philippines
30 Mar 07
for me its better if you tried to talk to them in a nice way,,,,than hurt them,,,so that they are not mold an anger inside of them...
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• United States
30 Mar 07
well....i think the best way to teach a child is to infuse moral principles by constantly reminding him or her, these teachings when he or she does any task.my mother is a very mild person. she mever scolds me as such....but whenever i commit mistakes , she makes a sad face and "requests" me not to commit it again. this makes me feel ashamed of myself and i eventually end up doing what she wanted me to do most of the times...lol. so i guess, the parents need to show their feelings more than their authority.
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@Marie2473 (8519)
• Sweden
30 Mar 07
I do not have any kids however I could never see myself spanking them. Here were I live it is actually illegal and considered childabuse and has been since 1970´s. I will ground them though. My parents never spanked me, or my brother and we all turned out fine anyways =)
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• Canada
30 Mar 07
The only thing I haven't done is spank my children lol. I've grounded them, I spoken sternly to them, I've taken privileges off them and I've had them stand in the corner. Like you say, it depends on what they've done and how many times they've misbehaved. I think it depends on each occasion as to what punishment they get. My partner is generally not as harsh as I can be on them sometimes. Most of the time they're good, but there are times when all three of them make me want to rip my hair out LOL.
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• India
30 Mar 07
Talking to them is a good idea instead of spanking them i dont scold at them unless and until its a vey big mistake normally i prefer speaking to them ....
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@jv1979 (26)
• Philippines
30 Mar 07
Initially, when my kids do something wrong, I scold them. If it's something serious or a first offense (meaning it's the first time they've done it) I talk to them and warn them about its consequences and why it was a wrong thing to do. Now if they do it again, the severity of the punishment will depend on whatever it is they have done wrong. Severe punishment may include squatting or depriving them the privilege of something they love to do. Like playing in the park, watching TV, playing video games etc. They're 8 and 9 years old now. When they were younger, we used to make them stand in the corner, the length of the time will depend on what they did wrong or if they seem to already know they made a mistake and understand what they did wrong then the time spent in the corner will be shorter.
@angelmae (351)
• Philippines
30 Mar 07
I've only done the talking part to my kid. Coz she's only 18 months old. But when she gets over 3 years old, I will do the the spanking and the grounding part. I think it's necessary for her not to be spoiled.
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@avonrep1 (1862)
• United States
30 Mar 07
I very rarely do the first two, and try the last one the most. When talking don't work. I make them do push-ups, sit-ups, legs lifts, cherry pickers, and other physical exercise. I use to use other methods, but they just didn't work long term. When I started making them do physical exercise, their behavior improved. They rarely ever act out any more.
• Malaysia
30 Mar 07
i always scold & punish my 3yrs old son.. he's very extremly naughty..!
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@shane_07 (19)
• Philippines
30 Mar 07
actually,i dont have kids...im still single but im planning to have someday... in my own opinion,i wont spank my kids even if they had done something wrong...i'll just talk to them that what they did was wrong....making spank to your kids would'nt do anything good to them...:}
@KissThis (3006)
• United States
30 Mar 07
I practice all three but usually leave spank for something major, like when my son started palying with matches . The first time we just talked about why we shouldn't play with fire.The second time he was grounded from his gameboy. The thrid time I explained that the other punishments didn't seem to help him understand that a child doesn't play with fire before I spanked him.That was the only time I have felt the need. I am not saying that spanking is right or wrong but I felt guilty for doing it. I lecture my children about not hitting others yet what did I just show my son?
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