seeking a way of love

China
March 29, 2007 3:12pm CST
love may comes to everybody.so do I. I love my boyfirend very much ,but I realy don't know how to love him sometimes.he wants more time to do his own things, but i just want to stay with him so that it takes his time .i don't know how should i do? maybe my love so selfish .can you give me some advices?
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• United States
29 Mar 07
First welcome to My Lot. I am new myself. Now for your post. First off in order to love someone else you have to start by loving yourself and in loving yourself you need time for yourself to understand who you really are. I have been with my husband for 18 years. I am 37 years old. We all need time apart. We all need time to miss one another and that just makes it so much more wonderful when you are together. Everyone is an individual. You are an individual first. I don't know if you feel the need to be around someone all the time is it love or is stalking. (not saying you are a stalker) But hey we all need our space, our own time. You can run a person off with that type of needy behavior. I can't live without you there every minute of the day type of attitude. I cant think of anyone I want to be around 24/7.
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• United States
29 Mar 07
I forgot to add that I really don't mean any harm to you and I hope you don't take it that way but just sit back and think about it.
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• China
1 Apr 07
"We all need time to miss one another and that just makes it so much more wonderful" thank you very much ,my friend. I become happy again now. Thank you for your advice.
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• Pakistan
29 Mar 07
I doubt that it is YOU who is selfish and him who is not. The situation that you describe, it shows that you are not selfish at all. The reason being the fact that you want to spend more time with him, while he does not have time for you, which means that he is not as interested in you as you are in him. However, jumping to conclusions wont be good, so i wont assume anything or conclude anything for now. Just sit with him, and tell him, that you love him, and want to spend more time with him, and that he should realize that. THings will hopefully work out for the best. Good Luck
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• United States
29 Mar 07
In my understanding of the post is that "She just wants to be with him" Not healthy and if I am wrong please let me know.
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