Distance Makes The Heart Grow Fonder
March 29, 2007 11:11pm CST
Do you guys believe in the expression... "Distance makes the heart grow fonder" ? any experiences - good or bad?
30 Mar 07
We also say "absense makes the heart grow fonder." In MY case it's true, being in a long distance relationship. We miss eachother terribly, but we appreciate the opportunities we have to be together, because they are few and far between. Because we have so little time together, we know not to take eachother for granted. It's like the old song by Joni Mitchell says. Don't it always seem to go That you don't know what you've got till it's gone They paved paradise, put up a parking lot
30 Mar 07
Thx for the reply... I had that long distance relationship before and yeah it was killing and felt never ending.. guess trust and communication is a vital factor when it comes to long distance relationships.. should keep the communication goin.. but yeah well I quite agree that you wudnt appreciate something until its gone:)
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30 Mar 07
I think it depends. I think that if you're really in a good and loving relationship with the right person, then I think the expression is true, but otherwise, I can see how being separated might cause people to look elsewhere for affection. My husband is in Iraq right now, and I definitely feel like that expression has been true with our situation. I was really afraid that our bond might weaken because of the separation, but I've actually noticed that ever since he's been gone, I feel like we're the strongest we've ever been before. We both miss each other so much, and I think it's helped us to not take each other for granted, and going through such a difficult experience together has made our bond even stronger. Even though we're not able to talk that often, I feel more in love with him than I ever have, and I feel an even stronger connection to him somehow. Anyway, that's my experience! I think the expression can definitely be true! :)
30 Mar 07
i dont believe it. for me "distance makes teh heart go look for another. i have lot of officemates having distant relationships but there are engage in other women and men . we should always be there for our loveone and do donot leave them unsecured. you should marry first before going somewhere so they will feel secured
30 Mar 07
Thx for the reply...hahaha.. good ol flings :) I do believe that if ur not near each other or basically in the same town or city, its kinda difficult to get the relationship going.. but then again, sometimes we face facts like we gotta travel or be elsewhere for quite sumtime due to work or other reasons.. I mean its kinda difficult to just cut off ur relationship and go there right.. atleast not until uve tried I feel... I still feel the key is trust and communication to get the relationship goin.. hey funny abt getting married so that we or our spouse will feel secured.. I know ppl who are engaged in extra marital affairs..its a sad fact but then again, its true.. hehehe cheers mate:)
10 Apr 07
Yes I do beleieve in the expression and have had a good experience when my hubby had gone abroad for 15 days on an official trip but a lot of distance in terms of time is also not good for the relationship as there is also another expression which says "Out of sight is out of mind".
8 Apr 07
In some cases that saying might be applicable but to what i have experienced a year ago it's not quite true. my ex is working graveyard shift that time and i work on daytime and our house is so far away from theirs. In a months time we will see each other once or twice if she is not busy. After almost a year together I decided to end the relationship because i know it wont work.