See me for who I am

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Did someone ever judge by where you are from instead of who you are? I am currently trying to deal with this kind of situation. You see, my mother is like the “black sheep” in her family. And for a good reason, I think. She lies, she steals, she frauds, she got divorced twice… Her brother and sister are rich, they have good jobs, and they are both married and have kids. My grand parents are still together; they will celebrate their 50-year of marriage in a month or so. The problem is that, because my mother is so different from the rest of her family, they tend to judge us (my two sisters and me) based on her actions. They always say that we will never be good enough, that we can’t do anything right, that we are just like our mother, etc. They even keep their kids, my cousins, from seeing us or having any kind of contact with us. Because of that, I barely know my cousins. I only see them once a year, around Christmas. I find that very sad and frustrating. Every time I do something right, they find a reason to make me feel stupid, as if what I think is good is completely useless to them. I know I shouldn’t let it get to me, let it affect me so much, but I’m so tired of it. How can I make them see me for who I am? I want to prove to them that I am not my mother, that I never will be, but my efforts in that direction always seem to fail. So I ask of you, do you have an idea of how I could resolve such a problem?