Who is the most powerful one in your marriage?

United States
March 30, 2007 5:32pm CST
Who is the most powerful one in your relationship? Some psychologists say that the one who earns the most money and bring the most of whatever is important into the relationship, is the most important. What do you think?
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@kurtbiewald (2627)
• United States
30 Mar 07
its me I bring whatever is most important into the relationship. That varies all the time, sometimes dinner, listening, laundry, fixing the car, playing soft music, paying bills, unclogging the drain, etc. When there is $4000 in an account and those things don't happen, money is not the problem.
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30 Mar 07
I agree, sure varies. I earn the money, but my wife deals with the crises. She has her feet on the ground and deals with the day to day doings of life. However we share big decisions. The money doesn't seem important as it did. She earned when I went back to college. I supported her early in the marriage!
• United States
1 Apr 07
Maybe that psychologist needs to talk to you two men.
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@Anniedup (3652)
• Richards Bay, South Africa
1 Apr 07
Yes I think their could be some truth in their study. My husband is the most powerful one in our relationship, although both of us have strong personalities, because he brings in the most money, there is some superiority.
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@Anniedup (3652)
• Richards Bay, South Africa
6 Apr 07
Thank you for the vote xx
@Grillmama (294)
• United States
30 Mar 07
I think that both partners should be equally as powerful in a relationship. If they are not someone is doing too much of the giving and the other is taking too much from the other.
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• United States
1 Apr 07
I agree 100 percent.
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@daryljane (3437)
• Philippines
30 Mar 07
maybe on some instances..but in our case, we really made a deal not to argue over money..when you say whose more powerful, for me being a woman, i always makes my guy always the last one to decide or say on whatever issue..it usually depends on how you guys run the relationship, its either overpowering each other or respecting..for last year, my husband dont have work and im the one working, he is still the boss even if the one bringing in food in the table.
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• United States
1 Apr 07
I don't think that would happen in the USA.
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@jolmartyn (133)
30 Mar 07
My wife is the most powerful one the marriage because she cares more. Its not that I don't, she seems to be able to judge situations better than me!
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• United States
1 Apr 07
That keeps you on an even level. It keeps you feeling secure is what I mean.
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• Canada
30 Mar 07
We are individuals and have individual strengths and weaknesses. One of us (we're not married yet, but hopefully some day) is not stronger than the other, we compliment eachother. We are two, who work together, and no one leads, nor does anyone follow. We are equals.
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• United States
1 Apr 07
Sounds healthy!
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@lightningMD (5931)
• United States
30 Mar 07
ofcourse there are different forms of power within each relationship...but in our marriage my husband has the most power...my job is to take care of him ,our family.and our home...his job is to take cae of us and to povide for us
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• United States
1 Apr 07
Surely, what you do is very necessary.
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@SONALIKA (573)
• India
5 Apr 07
i in my heart and he in his soul.so that makes both of us powerful.as per decision taking who so ever is able to convince other by logic has the upper hand: we don't have issues over finances.
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@KarenO52 (2951)
• United States
1 Apr 07
I think that my husband and I are equal in that while he earns and manages the money, I take care of most of the other stuff that helps us to live a good life. We consult each other on the big decisions, and try not to do anything that would really make each other angry. Sometimes I feel like I don't have the power in this relationship, because I'm not making or managing the money, but when it comes right down to it, I don't want to be in charge of the money, and I usually get whatever I want anyway.
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