Ever been hit on over the phone while at work??

United States
March 31, 2007 1:06am CST
I just got a call from a guy checking availability and room rates for a trip he's taking in April. I gave him the info and he asked about what there is to do in my area. I didn't really have many suggestions and he asked if I was married and how old I was. I told him and said yes, I am married. I told him that I didn't go out because I also work 2 jobs. He started talking about how hard that must be on my marriage, so I told him my schedule and that it works out ok. He kept bringing up how hard it must be to spend time with my husband. I agreed, but gotta make ends meet. Then he asked what my husband got me for Valentines day. I just told him that there was a long story behind things that I wasn't really comfortable sharing with someone I don't know. I think he got offended (I tried to say it nice!!) and appologized, saying he thought I sounded nice. I said thanks and he said Bye. So do you think I said too much to lead him on to pry more? I didn't mean to offend him, but he started digging too much. There ARE things going on in my marriage that have caused me to have to get a second job, and no, I DIDN'T get anything for Valentine's Day. But I didn't want to go into the whole story with some stranger over the phone! Should I feel bad for hurting his feelings... what do you think?
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@BunGirl (2638)
• United States
31 Mar 07
Generally, in a business situation, I find it's best to avoid personal questions entirely. I would have stopped after the what is there to do question. That would seem like a legitimate question to ask someone while booking a hotel room. Asking the person if they're married or what their schedule is crosses the boundaries into the personal realm. Once you start answering those questions, they're just going to get more and more personal.
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• United States
31 Mar 07
Yeah, I just have trouble finding a way to say 'enough' without coming across as rude or something. I guess he was just trying to be friendly, but I told him I was married, so I was surprised that he kept going. I wasn't sure how to politely end the conversation.
@estherlou (5015)
• United States
1 Apr 07
Good grief! What a pest! This guy just wasn't going to take no for an answer, was he. No! don't feel bad about not sharing your life with a complete stranger! Sounds like he was the type to have a date in every city, and the type that perhaps liked to hit on married women...they wouldn't expect him to make a commitment! ACK!
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• United States
1 Apr 07
Well, I've had worse before. When I worked at Papa John's a guy begged me to come to his hotel room. He said his dad was rich and could buy a high priced lawyer to get my husband out of prison, PLUS he would pay me ANYTHING if I'd come by after work!!! He called so many times during my shift. He said he was a model for Abercrombie & Fitch and I could check him out in the latest cataloge. And if I liked what I saw...
@Bell88 (370)
• Malaysia
1 Apr 07
No i havent'. would like to see that happen .
• United States
5 Apr 07
Why do you say it like that? Like this is something that would never happen to you.