what is your reason?

@disvachic (10120)
United States
March 31, 2007 6:48am CST
What is your reason for requesting friends?I have noticed some people request to be a friend just to up their friend list and then you dont even hear from them anymore.If I request to be a friend,obviously I have found some type of interest in his or her discussion and I feel this person is kool!!!(Same goes for myspace.com) anybody else feeling me?
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• Saudi Arabia
31 Mar 07
For me to select a friend or even accept an invitation, the other person should have interests, background or even values that match mine...
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@disvachic (10120)
• United States
31 Mar 07
Thats what i look for on myspace but here there discussions had to be interesting.Have a great day also welcome to the community!!
• Saudi Arabia
31 Mar 07
Thanx.. yeah you are right i was talking about having new friends in general... :)
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• Saudi Arabia
31 Mar 07
Thanx.. Yeah you are right i was talking about having new friends in general :)
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
31 Mar 07
I dont' request friends often, but when I do it is usually because I found the person to have interesting discussions or answers. Something I can relate to or enjoyed reading. It doesn't mean that I will be responding all their discussions, but it certainly means that I will look for their discussions when I"m here and that I will read them whenever I can.
@disvachic (10120)
• United States
31 Mar 07
Same here.I cant answer each and every person on my list because its impossible.I do answer all types of discussions from new users,top discussions,no responses anything that i find an interest in.
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
1 Apr 07
Exactly what I do:) I do try to answer friends discussions but I will answer any that will catch my eye. I mean there are zillions of new discussions every day, some of them are really interesting.
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@disvachic (10120)
• United States
1 Apr 07
so very true!
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@charms88 (7540)
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
I know what you mean, disvachic. I can't understand either why some members bothered to be on my list of friends when they did nothing but to keep posting their own threads and forget about mine. Last month, I had no choice but to delete about 12 friends who are active. For those inactive one, I normally leave them as my list hoping they might come back any time soon. I also rarely requested myself to be on someone's list. I like to get a feel on one member before making my decision. :)
@disvachic (10120)
• United States
31 Mar 07
Im glad you feel me!!I think it boos their ego,i really dont know what the reason is.Some just want you to answer all theirs which i have no problem if its interesting,but to have me on your list i have no idea.I haven't deleted anyone yet.I think the members that haven't logged on since we have started i will.
@charms88 (7540)
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
That's exactly my sentiments. I don't feel any better deleting friends. I just thought the least that they do is to reciprocate the same support I'm giving them. :)
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@disvachic (10120)
• United States
1 Apr 07
yea,i do understand what you are saying.
@Polly1 (12647)
• United States
31 Mar 07
I totally agree with you. I do think some people want a large friends list. I have rarely put a friends request in, most of my friends have put request in for me. I have approved all of them. I spend most of the time here posting in "discussions my friends started", that way I will get a variety of topics from everyone on my list. I do have a few people that I try to keep up with.
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@disvachic (10120)
• United States
31 Mar 07
Hey there polly!!where ya been hiding? i havent heard from you in a minute!!! anyways yes the only the i will put in a request if i find that person's discussions really interesting not because I GOT a Big Friend list yALL LOOk at me now!!!lol okay take care,enjoy your saturday!!
@Polly1 (12647)
• United States
31 Mar 07
Hi, I have just been really busy. I haven't been on mylot that much this past month. I have only earned about $3.05 for this month, haha. I am still around, I won't be going anywhere.
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@disvachic (10120)
• United States
31 Mar 07
Don't feel bad i have only $6.02 im not making payout either.I have been very busy to so i can understand you on that note!
@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
31 Mar 07
Yes I do At the moment it is happening again that Friends are being requested from People with hundreds of Friends in their list not even reached 100 points and no Discussions I seem to have this determent Person who has no Discussions only 68 points and nearly 400 Friends in their list This Person is requesting once or twice each Day to me and I am getting a bit frustrated about it as this has been going on for a week Well they can keep requesting as I will keep denying.lol
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@disvachic (10120)
• United States
31 Mar 07
They must want to be your friend mighty bad!lol cause if somebody keeps denying me i will stop.lol Somebody gotta give in and you say it wont be you huh?lol but i haven't denied anyone yet,but its real tempting. haha Have a good one!!keep ya spirits up!
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
31 Mar 07
Hahahaha no it won't be me as I can be very stubborn lol
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@disvachic (10120)
• United States
31 Mar 07
lol,well he is determined!! one just requested to be a friend, now note this was my 1st time ever denying someone today.He had over 80 friends and 1 only 1 not 2 but 1 discussion.I didnt even feel bad about it because i knew right then and there he wanted to SPAM my pm.NOT gonna happen today!sorry charlie!!lol
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
31 Mar 07
i request for friends when I really knew them or he/she is a long lost contact/friend/classmate... but i accept friend requests just to satisfy their enjoyment.. it doesnt harm me either.. problem is we end up dont communicate with each other at all which i feel the same as you.. till a certain point i make the 1st move of talking to them.. then i realise some similarities or differences between each other...
@disvachic (10120)
• United States
31 Mar 07
I must be interested in one's discussion in order for me to request to be a friend.I dont care about the private messaging,its about discussions.I think they want to spam or something who knows!? Thanks for your reply!!
@ksherrie (891)
• Singapore
31 Mar 07
ic.. i never tot of it tat.. thats enlightening.. thanks..
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@disvachic (10120)
• United States
31 Mar 07
no problem!
@edyhome (10)
• Romania
31 Mar 07
My reason for friend requests are YES!
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@disvachic (10120)
• United States
31 Mar 07
Yes what??? hey but you good so you will accept friends,okay thats wonderful welcome to mylot!
@disvachic (10120)
• United States
1 Apr 07
yesterday was my last day denying somebody,watch out for spammers
@aqiang (38)
• China
31 Mar 07
What is friends????
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@disvachic (10120)
• United States
31 Mar 07
People like you and i that are in this community.They are the one's listed on your profile and you can respond to their discussion or they respond to theirs.You all can communicate in the private messaging to.
@Stiffler07 (1356)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I request a person to my friends list after doing a little investigation. I like to observe for awhile, get a feel for what a persons about. Simply see what they are working with in the brains department. I make sure I read profile and all he or shes Q&A posts. I like a person who knows how to hold a good conversation. I enjoy a good healthy exchange:-) Oh, & if a person is on my freinds list, I do my best to keep intouch, other wise whats the point. (Great Question)
@disvachic (10120)
• United States
18 Apr 07
That really makes sense.I read a persons discussions and check out their profiles also before I request to be a friend.Thanks+ for everybody!
@wmg2006 (5383)
• United States
1 Apr 07
Well I only request friends when I want them in my circle. I relate to their discussions and I know they are loyal and they will support my discussions too. However, I am always trying to up my friends so I can have more of them to respond to my discussions. I also go to my friends list when I can not find any good discussions and start looking at what they have written that I may have missed. My goal is to have 1000 active friends, but so far that is a little hard to control. By the time I get 500 friends I start checking their activity and end up deleting a lot. I think it is very important to run your friend list up for future discussions, but you can't always respond to all of them when they get high. I have had people request me just because of my avatar, which I think is lame. I accept all friends request, because you just never know who might be a good friend and who might not be.
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@disvachic (10120)
• United States
1 Apr 07
Hi there wmg,because of an avatar now that is lame.I feel you some people just request to spam,spam and spam.I can't believe it was first tim denying somebody ever and the only reason was cause he had one discussion and over 80 friends and that one discussion was talking about a website. NO not interested.Thnkyou for responding.
@Lavera1 (897)
• United States
31 Mar 07
I usually select friends because I've read something that I like in their discussions and thought that we had something in common also, Disvachic. But afterwards I don't hear from them anymore either.Even if some one has equested me to be their friend. So I ask the same question. "What's going on?"
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@disvachic (10120)
• United States
31 Mar 07
Its like they are missing in ACTION!lol but thankyou for your reply!!
• Singapore
31 Mar 07
It's always nice to have one more friend than enemy. So why not? Besides, if we are friends, you might be more inclined to respond to my discussions right? ;-)
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@disvachic (10120)
• United States
31 Mar 07
well yes,but today was my very first time denying somoeone ever!He had one discussion with over 80 friends so i knew right away what it was all about.That one discussion did not interest me at all something about his website.NADA! thanks for your reply!!
@gegegelay (934)
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
I add up friends not just so I would have lots of friends here. Well, it's nice to have lots of friends here.. but I add them up if they have the same interest like me. If we share the same passion or likes, dislikes, favorites.. etc..Ü
@disvachic (10120)
• United States
31 Mar 07
Thats what im taking about,well some people do it just to Up their friend list.Thanks for taking the time out!!Have a good one.
@borzack (597)
• Malaysia
31 Mar 07
the more friends you have the more you can respond to their discussion, and ath the same time they can respond to your discussion, hence gaining more from both sides. if let's say you have 2 friends, this means this 2 persons only can see 'your' discussion in their 'discussions my friends started' section. you get only so much for their response. but if you have let's say 500 friend, imagine 500 person have the ability to respond to their 'discussions my friends started' and this includes your discussion... this is just my opinion. cheers
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@disvachic (10120)
• United States
31 Mar 07
Yes this i know,but some dont even respond to discussions so what is the purpose,i guess to get you to respond to theirs only.thanks for dropping by and welcome to mylot!
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@teison2 (5924)
• Norway
31 Mar 07
I have not asked to be put on someones friends list many times. When i have done it it is because I found the person interesting. I either liked the questions or answers the person gave, or I find their interests really interesting.
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@aliasad (1567)
• Pakistan
31 Mar 07
Well, I think if somebody is requesting for friendship, how can I deny. I personally feel it as my moral duty to behave like friend as we are gathered to encourage the others and on the other hand having some discussions & replies. The money is a bonus ;) Sorry if my opinion contradicts..But I think one chance should be given to others before denying.
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@disvachic (10120)
• United States
31 Mar 07
Hi there,i didn't say i deny people!! I do accept everybody who request to be a friend.Its that i have noticed they have tons of friends and hardly no responses not even one of mine to make them even want to be a friend.What is the purpose?To get to know me what?I can't tell!! Thanks for taking the time!Have a LOVELY day!!!
@krayzee (1161)
• Romania
31 Mar 07
I usually request for friends when I find a person interesting enough that I'd be interested in finding their future discussions easier (if they are my friends their topics are listed in the discussions my friends started page). I do that even if I have nothing in particular to tell to that person so I usually don't send a private message.
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@disvachic (10120)
• United States
31 Mar 07
Same here,thats why i will request a person to be a friend if their discussions ar interesting.Not just to up my friend list,please!!Thanks for taking the time!!!Have a good one!!!
• India
31 Mar 07
My selection of friends here is mainly to get good friend from various countries. Know their culture, ideas etc. I do not make friend just to upgrade the list. There are many who says Yes to each request. I am not so. I also see all the topics started by my new friends to have general idea about new friend. Respond some of them. See comments on my response next day.
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@disvachic (10120)
• United States
31 Mar 07
Okay i can get with you on that one!! Some always requesting to be friends? For what why do you want to be my friend and dont even respond to nothing not one thing!!They try to get their friend list large just for GP (General purpose)