If you suspected your best friend's parent of having an affair, would you tell?

gosh I don't know, I had a discussion on whether I would tell my friend that her husband was cheating and I would, but for the parent, I don't know, because I would be affecting more than just the life of the friend but the parents, people I might not even know, I don't know what I would do.

A promise is a promise. The dad asked you not to say anything and you said no you wouldn't. I think as much as I think the guy is a loser and if he propositioned your mother you know very well what he's doing and my advice is to just zip it and be there for your girlfriend, she'll need you and by time she finds out what her dad is up too the last and least important thing is asking you if you knew or not, and even if she did ask, unless you actually see them in the act...No you didn't know !!!

I've never been in that situation thank goodness. but I have to say I would never tell either. It would be killing me to tell her, but like you said it would hurt her and she probably would never believe you anyway and then you'd ruin your friendship most likely too.

Anytime someone asks you to not tell, you tell someone. That is the only way things are kept on the up and up. I have not however been in this situation. I do know that they would not keep me quiet since I don't ever do secrets. Such an example is that man. Too bad you had such a hard time and that a friend would not believe you.

I've never been in this situation, but I wouldn't tell my friend if I only had suspicions. It's only going to make her mad, and you don't have any proof. So you'd probably lose a friend, strain her relationship with her father, and not have anything tangible to prove your point. I'd definitely keep my eyes and ears open so that if you do find true evidence, then you can consider whether to tell or not. But I guarantee you that your friend will most likely be furious and not talk to you. If she's a mature person, she might call you up in a few years, but most likely, you'll lose your friend forever.

this is a difficult one. When i was about 17 i suspected my freinds dad was having an afair, i always thought this. Im now 27 and guess what? about a year ago they split after about 30 years of marriage. her mom found out he had been having affairs almost there whole marriage. I would have never said anything though, i wouldnt know how and i would hate to be the one to tell her. Soemtimes people are wrong and what a mistake to make. I dont think you should tell, not your freind. maybe tell the dad that you know..and that he better fess up or you will.

That's tough. I don't think I'd tell my friend because I wouldn't want to hurt her and her family. Sometimes it's better to let sleeping dogs lie. The worst thing is though that if the father was found out, he may mention that you knew and your friend may never forgive you for it, but on the other hand she may admit that she wouldn't have wanted to know.

I would probably let this one pass since you actually didn´t seen anything concrete. I do not know how I would react if I saw it with my own eyes though. It is really my mother who will be more hurt and it is my mother he is cheating on. If I got the information - would I tell her? Hard question - will have to think about this alittle more =)

That is a really really hard situation and I bet you feel awkward whenever you are with your friend and your friend's father. I think its best to keep it a secret. Your friendship has limitations and I think that is one of the limitation. It would be more complicated if you are the one to tell the secret.

well,,,as you said its past,,,so if theres nothing happened so you better forget it...its nonsense to tell coz its a past,,,that can destroy a present relationship.....

I don't know but I would have probably seeked advice from my own parents and maybe even let them handle it - tell the family or talk to the husband. It's not right that his issue was put on your shoulders without you asking for it. If he's going to have an affair, do it in a place where he isn't going to impose on someone else his deceit towards his family. I think when he caught up to you and told you not to say anything, I would have turned around and said "sorry but maybe you should have thought about that before you decided to meet a woman here in the middle of our local mall". It's hard to say though, you never know until you are in that position. You shouldn't feel bad about it though!

It's funny because I suspected my partners dad of having an affair a while back. I told my partner about my suspicions. My partner and I watched him for a little while and then, one night, while his wife was out of town visiting her sister, he never came home. The only reason we knew this is because we got up at 5am prior to my partner going to work and the bed hadn't been slept in, there were a pair of pants on the bed where they'd been laid the day before, and he most definitely wasn't at home. We have our suspicions even now, but we can't tell his mother for a number of reasons. Firstly, it would kill my partners mom, she LIVES for her husband. And what if we're actually wrong? There'll be a whole heap of trouble and it would completely ruin the relationship we worked so hard to have with her.

Unless I was 100 percent positive that he was, I wouldn't say anything. For one thing, if he wasn't, it could cause a lot of needless pain to his wife, and I wouldn't want to be responsible for that. And if he is, then he will be caught eventually.

even though i haven't been in that situation, but if i were you, i'll really tell my friend because it's for her own good. i'll not wait that situations would be worse,so as early as now, i'll tell my friend. even if my friend's dad will be angry it me, i'm not scared because what i'm doing is right and what her father has done is not good.

I don't think I'd tell just on a suspicion - there would be too much to lose right or wrong. Also, I think if I caught someone and knew for sure, I'd confront the dad (or mom) of what they were doing and tell them that if they didn't confess or come clean then I'd tell my parents (if I was a teenager) and let them deal with it!

In that situation I would wait until the problem becomes so severe and I have solid evidence. That way my friend would believe me. Otherwise the consequences might outweigh the benefits of telling.

No its none of my business. Even if you tell then your friend will not believe it or shoot you for being the messanger of bad news. Its only a suspicion anyway.

i would have never had the guts to tell my freind about this because i would have been too scared rto lose a feind if that doubt was only a doubt and there was nothing more to it!but yaa if you reallly damn sure about his affair i think you should tell yopur freind but have to deal with the situation very tactfully!else the best is to give her hints and let her find it on her own atleast this will spare you from her wrath and embarassement!

no, actually that's not my business

Things like this happen all the time. I was never in such a situation. But would I come across it, I by all means would not tell anybody. Because this would add more troubles for the person having an affair. And I guess there is already troubles (home, office or other reasons) otherwise the person would not have an affair. Now, the question is if having an affair is the solution to solve troubles?