Men Or Woman

Canada
March 31, 2007 9:37pm CST
Who do you think is most rude Men Or Woman ? At one time I would have said that men where most rude but something happened the other day when we went to the drug store to pick up my prescription from the pharmacy. We got parked not in a handicapped parking spot but across from the handicapped parking spots, and my husband backed the truck in and I waited in the truck for him. I had nothing better to do but to sit there and watch people coming and going. Here came a lady pushing her half filled cart to her car. This was a beautiful day and it was a warm comfortable day. All we needed was a light jacket or sweater and in fact a lot of people didn't have jackets/sweater on. Anyway this was parked directly to the left of the handicapped parking spot, she put her groceries in the car and then she pushed her cart right smack dab in the middle of the handicapped parking spot. What was she thinking ? To me this is just flat out rude. So did she think when a handicapped person pulls into that spot what did she think that they could get in the wheelchair move the cart then get back in their van/vehicle the pull into the parking spot ? How rude. When my husband came back with my prescriptions I told him about it and I said it bothered me and would he please move the cart so he said sure and just did it. I have health problems maybe that's why I'm more alert or perhaps sensitive to this kind of stuff, but I'm sorry to say this considering I am female but I think woman are just as rude at times as the men. What do you think ?
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@tsgirl01 (900)
• United States
1 Apr 07
Hi Grandmaof2, how are you? I have to say that I find women to be very rude. There is a young girl who works in a 99 cent store near my home. She is always having arguments with customers. She is very rude in my eyes. She walks away from her cash register when customers are on the line. She puts your change on the counter instead of placing it in your hand although the customer has placed their payment in her hand. She did that to me once and I told her that she was rude and disrespectful. I see many rude women while shopping. The men are usually very pleasant. I have to say that women are ruder than men...That is so sad, because I am a woman. I hold the door for others, if a person drops something in the store, I will help them, I give pregnant women, children and older people a seat on the buses or trains. I am not rude but a lot of women are...
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• Canada
1 Apr 07
Why do you live in the US and I live in Canada ? LOL I need a good REAL friend like you !!! Thank You for being a good person. I should tell you that one day I had a very rude cashier in Wal Mart. I won't go into detail but I said this to her, "I'm so sorry that you're this unhappy here at Wal-Mart but last I heard they are hiring at zellers." She had the most stunned look on her face but she was nice after that.
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@Tetchie (2933)
• Australia
1 Apr 07
That was a fantastic thing to say grandmaof2, you basically called her on her mood and did it in such a way that passed both your concern and disapproval. Cashiers and shop assistants don't realize they can get allot of support from their customers, but instead chose to huff and puff and basically spit their emotional stuff all over your groceries!
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@wmg2006 (5383)
• United States
1 Apr 07
Its hard to say if it is men or women. I have found both genders to be extremely rude in the past. Women are very haughty and men can just be mean. I think men portray more of a verbal hurtful rudeness. Where women portray more of an action kind of rudeness. What that woman did was not only rude but down right thoughtless. I know people can not be going around without a thought in their head. I see some people who do things like this on purpose just because they are upset that they cannot have these privelages. Their attitude is if I can't park in the handicap then no one will park in the handicap. Our world is so rude today I try to not go anywhere there is a crowd. That was great of your husband and I know I would have done the same thing.
• Canada
1 Apr 07
You have very strong views and I really did appreciate your comments. You have given me something to think about. It's too bad people can't be more grateful that they don't need handicapped parking.
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@Tetchie (2933)
• Australia
1 Apr 07
So far in my experience I'd have to say it's women who are more rude, and they have grunt to go with it. I guess it depends on who you encounter more often and in general it's places like the supermarket, school, the bank queue, shopping malls, that you are likely to encounter dealings with women more than men. This is a generalization of course. I've often found men don't buy into most things that irk women, it's not their playground.
• Canada
1 Apr 07
I never thought of it this way but you're right. You're also right that men don't buy into things the same way. My husband has been humoring me but I know he didn't think it was such a big deal as I did. I appreciate your comments...
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• United States
1 Apr 07
That IS very rude! I can't believe that someone would be so inconsiderate as to leave a cart in a handicapped parking spot. I think that alot of people have gotten lazy, I have seen people leave the cart right outside of the cart corral. Like it was too much to put it in the corral!
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• Canada
1 Apr 07
Yes that's pretty much my views too. Like they say it takes all kinds to make the world.
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• India
1 Apr 07
either men r rude or women the situation makes things but to my concernd men may be rude in may occations
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• Canada
1 Apr 07
I don't think rudeness is a characteristic of the genders, I think it's a characteristic of the individuals!! People just don't think. Were I a witness to such a thing, I would have gotten out of the car (in my case I'm able to do so) and walked over there, and told her how rude her actions were. Sometimes people just don't think, others don't know how to think. If she felt bad and apologized, moving the cart, I would have forgiven her and said "we all make mistakes," were she to act rude, I would have taken her licence place number and reported her to security.
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• Canada
1 Apr 07
You know I like your approach because sometimes if people got some negative feedback for their actions maybe they'd be embareased into cleaning up their actions.
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@raydene (9874)
• United States
1 Apr 07
I think it's not a gender thing.It's just that we live in a world that people expect others to pick up after them and manners are noy stressed the way they used to be.
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• Canada
1 Apr 07
You couldn't have said it any better. I was happy with your comment saying you didn't believe it to be gender.
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• United States
1 Apr 07
Wow. How rude! I never would do that. Even if I put my cart in the ile I make sure its nowhere near a parking spot! Especially a handicappted one. How mean is that?? I think woman can sometimes be worse than men. I have delt with more mean ones than mean men in retail that is as they are customers.
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@Modestah (11192)
• United States
1 Apr 07
I have encountered more nasty rude and hateful commentaries from women then men. Whether they are addressing or talking about a friend, or a stranger. Generally speaking women are more prone to emotional outbursts, and expressing their opinion in a loud demanding way, ironic because it is so contrary to femininity. I guess it is another sign of the times. We can be so conniving. As far as your observance, I do not find that women are more prone than men to be thoughtless in their actions like that. It is probably equal in a lack of consideration for the "next guy" I watched one woman as she carelessly left her cart on the walkway, near the curb in front of a store. She was on her cell phone laughing. It was a very windy day. The wind caught the cart and rammed it into a gentleman's car scratching it up. I got out of my car and went over to her (she was sitting in her car still talking on the phone) and said excuse me, and told her what happened. The sweet little old man who's car was injured - just smiled and let it go.
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• Canada
1 Apr 07
Yes and can we guess what the quilty party thought about you ?LOL
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@Modestah (11192)
• United States
2 Apr 07
I could only imagine! I know she was thoroughly embarrased, and I hope she paid closer attention after that, to what she did with her cart. She got lucky with the old man being so clement. Thank you for the B.R. It is greatly appreciated.
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@vanities (11401)
• Davao, Philippines
2 Apr 07
gender conclusions on the rudeness of some people or comparison on it wouldnt make any justification of ones actions here ...anybody could be rude if situations permit or if ones characteristic description rudeness is really in ones personality..therefore rudeness can be both sexes or gender...
• Canada
2 Apr 07
Your comments are important and I agree. Thank you for the response I appreciate it.
• Canada
1 Apr 07
Honestly I don't feel rudeness is gender related hun, unfortunately everyone is on a rude kick. Men, women, children, seniors, everyone! The only silver lining I have around my cloud is knowing that my husband and I aren't rude and we always use our manners and try to do the right thing. We will also teach our daughter to do and be the same. Manners are very important as are positive choices, we hope to "plant" these into our daughter so maybe their will be some hope for her generation too!
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• Canada
1 Apr 07
Most certainly true, and if more people felt the same way...Holly Wow... you are right it's important to plant the seed early in the minds of children and by doing so we give them the best start we can !!!
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• United States
1 Apr 07
I definatly agree with you. Many women are just as thoughtless as we have always said men are. It seem like some sort of epidemic. I don't usually take the cart back to the store or to the spot where they go, because I'm afraid that my knees will fold and I'll fall. But I do always make sure that they are out of the way of another driver. YOu summed it up prety well -- just rude!
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• Canada
1 Apr 07
I don't always return the cart within store either but where we shop the stores actually have students hired to go gather the shopping carts. At our superstore you have to put a dollar coin (loonie) in and you get the cart then when you return the cart you get your dollar back. Well a dollar is a dollar and at that store the carts are put back. They're kept outside, but you get your dollar back. This situation was a cart that only cost 25 cents. I too have pushed them out of the way like you've done. But to purposely leave the cart in the middle of the handicapped parking spot did disturb me somewhat. I appreciate your views.
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@amj616 (14)
• United States
1 Apr 07
Both can be pretty nasty when they want to be!
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@gabs8513 (48712)
• United Kingdom
1 Apr 07
Yes I agree with you and actually sometimes Women are worse then Men I am in bad Health to but I have always respected the Fact of People not being able to do things and I brought my Kids up that way to Their Grandma was in a Wheelchair and when ever we went to visit they would do things for her and that was from a young age so they grew up knowing they have to respect People specially disabled ones.
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@bkfuels (1605)
• Canada
1 Apr 07
I have worked in restaurants all my life and I can tell you I have always found women to be more rude and more demanding then men. I would much rather serve a table full of men then woman any day. They are always nicer and do not expect as much. This is just my experience through out the years.
@kelly60 (4548)
• United States
4 Apr 07
I do not always take my cart back into the store either. With the problems, I have from my injuries sometimes the extra walking is too much for me. I could never imagine being so rude as to leave it in the middle of a parking spot though, much less a handicapped parking spot though. I sometimes do leave my cart in the parking lot, but I always make sure that it is in a safe, out of the way location such as next to a light pole or such where it will not be blocking parking spots. I cannot believe that anyone, male or female could be so rude.
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• Canada
5 Apr 07
Yes I have had to leave a cart for the same reason but like you said in an out of the way location. Thanks for your comments, I appreciate that very much !!!
• Philippines
4 Apr 07
Hi! I think that rudeness cannot be pinpointed and stereotyped to any gender. But we can generalize that majority of a certain gender tend to possess this trait. I would have to say that majority of WOMEN excell in this department. From my experience, I think it is the women who tend to be rude most of the time. There are just some people who have little consideration to others. And to think that we women are the more sensitive gender. Would have served that woman right if security caught her. Thank you for this post. Have a great day. Happy posting!
• Canada
5 Apr 07
Thank You for your comments. Hope to see you back.
@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
2 Apr 07
Hi there grandma2. I don't think rudeness can be based on gender for I have met both men and women that are rude. Society has sadly taught both men, women and children to be both ignorant and rude.
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• Canada
2 Apr 07
Yes I think your right. I appreciate your response Thank you for your time to comment.
• United States
2 Apr 07
People can be so inconsiderate at times that is for sure. I think men and women are equal in this. I know sometimes I don't stop and think what I do but I work hard at not doing things that will make it rougher for someone else. People just don't care to walk an extra step for anything anymore. I have even seen people parked in handicapped sites and they should not be there. I think they have parents car or something. Just someway to get in store fast and get out with out thinkng of someone else.
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• Canada
2 Apr 07
Yes good point and it's done all the time. Not fair but it happens.
@crickethear (1420)
• United States
2 Apr 07
Unfortunately I don't think that it has to do with men and or women. People today only think of themselves, and are oblivious to people around them. I am handicap myself, and have run into that. What I find more amazing is when another handicap person comes out of a store, and sees you are waiting and you have your placard hanging, and they just sit in their car balancing their checkbook, or doing whatever. It amazes me that someone who is also handicap could do that knowing there aren't a lot of them, but don't have the courtesy to leave so that you can get it. But then again, I have witnessed people without handicaps do the samething to others. I don't understand why people can't get out of their own way, to be thoughtful of others around them. For the few who do, I am eternally greatful that you are on this earth. I think it is great Grandma, that you were thoughtful of that, and had your hubby move the basket.
• Canada
2 Apr 07
I really appreciate your kind remarks and I did like this response. A lot of the readers think as you indicated that men or women is not the issue and I appreciate that, because after reading everything I tend to think the same way. Take care
@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
1 Apr 07
I think that men would have to be the rudiest, oh no how rude was she certainly should not of done that what about the handicapped people this woman certainly was not thinking about them was she, and you are right not just because you have a health problem but the lady was very rude, and some women can certainly match or even are a lot worse than some men.
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• Canada
2 Apr 07
Doesn't it just make you think, would she be thinking and doing the same things if someone she loved was in a position where they had to use handicapped parking stalls ? Take care