what will you do if your close friend steals your boyfriend???

@austere (2814)
Philippines
April 1, 2007 5:18am CST
i know this is weird, but this is a reality to some girls. This is unfair, i know that is what you must be thinking, but it does happen. Should we hate our friend when that happen or should we understand that they have feelings and capable for falling towards our special people.. what do you think?
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@nanayangel (7862)
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
Yeah, I know that for a fact that sometimes, a close friend can act the exact opposite and steal your boyfriend from you when you trusts her and you open up to her all your feelings and secrets. I think that is a mortal sin where friendship is involved. I believe in respecting other people's relationship and that is other people. Now what more when the people involved are the people who are really close to your heart? I think that maybe, she didn't treat you as a friend at all. A close friend having a relationship with your ex boyfriend might hurt you but it can be understood because what you had before is all in the past now but stealing your boyfriend is another thing. I may be able to forgive my best friend but I will never forget and I will never trust her again. We can have a civil relationship but never again as friends
@austere (2814)
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
but can you think of yourself being in your friends shoes??? i mean, it's her boyfriend and you like him, and then unexpectedly, he will tell you that he is attracted to you? what will you do?? i mean, in a situation where in you are really falling for you friend's boyfriend too..:)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
I don't know but I know my priorities. And my response was about your close friend since that's what your topic title asks for. And in my comment above, to the post before mine says that I believe the boyfried and the close friend committed mistake of the same degree.
@rhea_lyn (199)
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
Hi,well its happen to me many times before,I really confront my friend and i ask her what she do this to me,i did forgive her yes,but she do it to me again second time around.I really did call her and shout her at the phone and i did say whatever i want that time i was out in control lol!.its not good that you will steal something from someone.
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
I think what you did was perfectly understandable. It is really painful to be betrayed with somebody that you trust and love. You thought that she cares about you and that she's honest with you then when you turned your back she stabs you. I think you're even calm when you do that because you didn't get violent. But I believe in Karma and I know that someday, she'll experience the same pain that you did when she did that to you. And then, she will realize how what she did was really a big mistake. So, have you forgiven her now? How ar ethings between you two? I know it all shouldn't be blamed to the girl but at the same degree, your boyfriend too. But this is my opinion about the close friend since that's the topic.
@austere (2814)
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
that's sad alright but you were really brave to do that because as for me, i dont think i will be able to shout at her like that.. i guess, i can only cry..:) that has always been my resort to such problems! wish i could be as brave and tough as you! go gurl!
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
Hey austere, I'm still young and hasn't been allowed to have boyfriends. But I know how you feel so i might be able to help you. Well, you should forgive your friend before any fight happens. Ask her the reason why she stole your BF. Listen and understand. You could also hate her if you want, but think of the consequences before doing it. You might have done something regretable if you haven't thought of the consequences. What she has done is wrong and you can teach her a lesson if you want to give her "sweet revenge". As what they say, we learn from our mistakes.
@austere (2814)
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
hehehehe yeah..:) but being in a relationship and feeling the intense emotion of hurt and deceit is something too much to be discussed here. words wont be enough to describe it. Just imagine how many people in general have committed crimes all for the sake of love? it's silly but definitely true.
• United States
1 Apr 07
I had this happen. Right after I was in a horrible car accident no less. I chose to forgive my friend, and later on I was glad, because she had to deal with his BS, and I didn't.
@austere (2814)
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
somethings are ment to happen, and i believe it's all for the better..:)
@mskzalameda (4036)
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
it do happen most of the time even your own best friend can steal your beloved boyfriend away from you. you are the loser in that case. you lost your best friend and of course, your boyfriend. this is a sensitive issue. i have a friend who had this case but she is the one who stole our friend's boyfriend. some things are not really meant to be that way. she just stole her friend's boyfriend just because her real boyfriend after making fun of her feelings, just left her and go on with his life like there's nothing happened at all. and so this girl who stole her buddy's bf is now at the end of her conscience trying to get rid of that dirty tactic she made. she now had a bad reputation so better think twice before doing a mistake you girls planning to wreck a relationship out there. Karma is just around.
@austere (2814)
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
as the song goes..:) what goes around, comes around!hhehehe yeah... she must be very sorry for what she did.. but too late.. damage is done!
@classy56 (2882)
• United States
1 Apr 07
if you lost your boy friend to a friend."then you never really had him to begin with"..so dont be mad at your friend.just be mad at your boy friend for leading you on.an be thankfull your friend got stuck with him.
@austere (2814)
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
i get your point!:) that's a positive way at looking at things, but it could b very very painful when you also love your boyfriend to..:)
@kerry1804 (214)
• India
1 Apr 07
i think if my close friend steals my gf then i will never talk with him again and i will remove both of them from my friends list and will forget them forever.. its some sort of ditch with true friend..
@austere (2814)
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
but can you really not forgive them? like even if that friend has been a close friend since childhood and you have shared most of your life together?
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
There are some things which are out of our control. If you are going to hate your friend you should first hate your boyfriend by being unfaithful. It takes two to tango always. Find another, there were many fish in the ocean. Anyway, have you graduated already? I fetched my niece at the dorm last friday, their last day in school.
@austere (2814)
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
hello there!:) our graduation will still be on the 26th of April..:) am excited..:) just keep encouaging your niece..she needs that!:)
• India
2 Apr 07
it's ok , but after that never talk to them anymore....never...ever...
@samrat16 (2442)
• India
2 Apr 07
I have faced similiar problem some years back. My friend stole one of my girlfriend and slept with her without her permission. I was real upset about it but gradually I have forgiven him. Feelings are there and we can't control them , that's too happened with me too . But we should have a big heart and try to understand the whole problem.
• United States
2 Apr 07
A true friend would never betray a friend. Period. Maybe down the line I would forgive her because holding on to anger isn't healthy. Friends again? I don't think so. I would not be friends with someone who betrayed my trust.
• United States
1 Apr 07
If you are a girl then you will probably face this problem at least once in your life. Even your best friend who you think you know can stab you in the back. I do not think you should just go and hate your friend for what she did, but you should definitley take a step back and reevaluate your friendship. You should also not only blame your friend, because it is just as much your boyfriends fault as it is hers. A lot of times girls don't get mad at their boyfriends, but just their girlfriends who did it, which is not right. Let both of them know what they did was wrong and it will take a lot out of them to earn your trust back.
• United States
1 Apr 07
well my closest friend is a gay guy and I've seen him take the boyfriends of friends of his..so if he takes my man, I am going to know that his selfish nature has spreaded to straight relationships and I will know for sure that he is a a****** that can't be trusted..I will be done with him and whoever he took from me..
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
i think...i will feel fine...i'll keep thinking that we're not really for each other and hey!we already broke up
@navtech (1776)
• India
1 Apr 07
My best friend was in love with a Girl and they were maintaining good relationship for 4 years from school days onwards. The girl used to talk to me over phone since I am friend of her boyfriend. One day she said that she was actually loving me. I told her this is something ridiculas and absured. Never talk to me again. I said Goodbye to her. I never mentioned this point to my friend. Within a few days she left the city and got married to another person of her family choice.
@BreeLee (28)
• United States
1 Apr 07
Well, If it was a reall good friend, I would still be mad, but I would probley forgive them. It would be a huge problem though, and things would never be the same between us, because the trust would be gone.
• United States
1 Apr 07
there are so many men out there in the world. i would be so mad. i wouldnt even consider that friend a friend anymore. even if she dumped the guy to have my frienship back, i wouldnt want anything to do with her. as i said, there are so so many men out there, why would she have to come and try to be with the one i am with? i would think that she is doing it to prove something. i dont know exactly what that would be, but maybe, just maybe she has low self esteem and wants to prove to herself that she can take a guy away from me. i dont know, but i wouldnt be able to forgive a "friend" for doing something like that. not only that, i wouldnt want to be with the guy anymore either. to me, this would show that he is very quick to leave me for an open opportunity. not cool.