my 8 year old sons behaviour problem......

United States
October 18, 2006 3:49pm CST
Hi my name is Eda I am a single mom with 2 children boy and a girl ages 8 and 5. I have been divorced for about 4 yrs. My sons behaviour is changing to bad, it seems what ever i do he will not listen to me at all, he is not behaving in school either, i realy do not know what to do anymore. Punishing him does no good, I AM REALY DESPREAT TO CHANGE MY SONS BEHAVIOR TO good. My daughter on the other hand is good ben the thing with her is that she does not listen to me at all, both my kids don't listen but my mean concern is my son. I realy need some help. I tried to get some councling for my son but financaly i am not capable of doing that. My ex-husband is not help at all, he says that helps but every time i punish my son when he was bad and i tell his father but he does not listen to me. It seams like no one is listening to me what im i doing wrong i realy do not know at all.... Please help me....
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• United States
18 Oct 06
I am just curious how long this behavior has been going on? Is it only that your children especially your son is not listening? Try one on one time with each child. Play games with them, read books, make pictures, do crafts or go outside and play with them. Do they have a structured routine? They get home from school and then what? If punishment is not helping it is possible that your son is in need of attention and your daughter is modeling your sons behaviour. When she sees her brothers behaviour improve she surely will too. Have your son list things that he likes to do and make a point each day to try and do at least one of the things on the list together with him. ROUTINE, ROUTINE, ROUTINE!! If a childs life is chaotic the child may very well be chaotic. Hope you find something you can use from this.
• United States
18 Oct 06
I agree with what you said. Routine and consistency are a child's best friends!
• United States
21 Oct 06
Thank you for your comment. I agree with you routine is a big thing, Our daily routine is they come home from school, they eat and then start doing there homework (which i am there working with them) by that time its about 6:30pm, they take a bath between 7 - 7:30pm, i put my son to sleep first we read a book together, then i kiss him goodnight and leave his room, my daughter and i share a room together and i do the same to her. On weekends when they are with me we always plan somthing to do sometimes i make it there day so we do whatever they want to do thats if they we good for the hole week. When they are with there father i realy don't know what they do. So like i said i try to do my best with my kids in all ways that i can but it seams like they still dont listen, but i am going to try hard from now on. I know that it is hard on the kids to have there parents not be together.. Thank you again.
@Karinne (1222)
• Australia
21 Oct 06
i would take him to a childs phyciatrist. There should be some sort of professional help out there for you. Try ringing social security, um salvation army have councillors. I am setting up a reward system for my daughter where she puts stars on the chart at the end of the day when she's been good and gets a reward such as chocolate or a toy up to $10 for being good. Good luck
• Hyderabad, India
18 Oct 06
every one in child hood have different charecter, as the day goes on it will change acocrding to condition don't warry about that one
@mona123 (911)
• United States
18 Oct 06
just be coool ... be smiling and ok with him. dont ever compare your son and daughter .. aprriciate what ever he does ..and see the difference ... also realize him that he is important member of your family