Are you a trusting person?
By tinamwhite
@tinamwhite (3252)
United States
April 1, 2007 10:06am CST
Do you always give a person "the benefit of the doubt" when you meet them? Or do expect them to "earn" your trust? Do you follow your "gut instincts"? I, myself, guess that I attempt to trust everybody, but do often follow my gut instinct and am usually right in that feeling. Unless my trust of a person was "broken" I would not expect them to earn my trust....just wondering how the rest of you feel about this????
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11 responses
@nonelemental (261)
• Brazil
8 Jun 07
to me the trust its only broken one time per people
and the people need earn my trust
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@tinamwhite (3252)
• United States
8 Jun 07
I can understand your feelings, my new friend....trust is a very touchy thing....this is when we allow that gentler side to become vulnerable....great care should be taken when dealing with another's trust...
Thank you for sharing with me, my new friend....
@awonderfullife (2893)
• United States
8 Jun 07
I like to think I am a trusting person. But once that trust is broken, it will take me a long time to trust again. I have become a bit more jaded over the years. I WANT to trust everybody, buit I know the red flags now. There are a few people in my life that I definitely do not trust and I spend very little time around them.
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@tinamwhite (3252)
• United States
8 Jun 07
Awonderfullife, I feel the same way....I really want to give everyone the benefit of the doubt....but my gut instincts do become active at times...when this occurs I always listen....I have learned the hard way that this instinct is in place for a valid reason.....
Thank you for sharing with me, I appreciate it....
@friendship (2084)
• Canada
3 May 07
In the past, I was like you. But some people had broken my trust. So, I am now more leery. So people need to "earn" my trust.
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@tinamwhite (3252)
• United States
4 May 07
I, too, have been "fooled" in the past...but in truth, I think I knew to a point but talked myself out of feeling that way until it was too late.....lesson learned...
Thanks for sharing, my friend.
@MagdalenaM (681)
• United States
3 May 07
Like you I tend to trust people - I use my instincs as well and a lot. I like to think that I get good vibes and bad vibes; many times I can feel when a person is not being himself/herself or if he or she likes or dislikes me.
However, if someone breaks my trust it is very hard for me to trust them again - they will have to work real hard at it.
Having said that I always try and be fair by judging the situation - after all we all have had to say a little white lie once and when...
Best wishes,
Magdalena
@tinamwhite (3252)
• United States
4 May 07
Having your heart broken will make trust a very difficult thing to repair...if it ever can be....the lack of importance that was placed on my feelings is really not easily forgotten....even if forgiven...
Thanks for sharing with me, my friend.
@Palace_Girl (416)
• Philippines
3 May 07
I do not trust a lot of people. I beleive that there is good in every person but i just find it hard to trust everybody. I do not expect them to trust me as well, i don't blame them after all, sham is everywhere. I do not follow my gut instinct as well, a lot of things happened before when i trusted my gut feeling and it proved to be wrong.
Yes, trust is something that a person need to earn and it only takes one mistake to lose it...
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@tinamwhite (3252)
• United States
4 May 07
Thank you for sharing with me. I appreciate it....there really are people out there who prey on others only for there benefit; I have been fooled a few times....fortunantely, though not often, my friend.
@Swtrose (3385)
• Canada
4 May 07
My experience in life has taught me that I'm too trusting. I want to believe that there is good in everyone. I wear my heart on my sleeve and often end up being hurt and taken advantage of. You'd think that I would have learned by now.
@tinamwhite (3252)
• United States
4 May 07
Swtrose,
I have been hurt before too, I have been taken advantage of many times as well.....but I really try to give people the benefit of the doubt!!! I LIKE people so it is hard to believe that someone would intentionally try to hurt me...however, the reality is that there are people out there who thrive on the destruction of others.....thank God, I will never be one of those people....
I would never intentionally hurt somebody's feelings....
Thank you so much for sharing with me, my friend.
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@jennifer611 (2514)
• United States
1 Apr 07
I used to just trust everyone until they gave me a reason not to trust them. but since so many people have just messed me around every which way they can, now I have a hard time trusting anyone. I guess now with me you have to earn it. I hate being this way but after what I have been through I dont want to give anyone a chance anymore...
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@tinamwhite (3252)
• United States
1 Apr 07
Thank you for your response. I am getting to where I question more and more what a person's motivation might be and what potential harm they could cause....so I guess, I am having some of the same issues. I do not understand how any person can look at themselves in the mirror everyday; if they prey on the others in the world.
I am sorry that it was so easy for you to identify with this question as that means someone out there has abused you to some extent. Guess it has happened to all of us at some point in our lives. Wishing you all the best.
@ester_tamisin (522)
• Philippines
6 May 07
I am not a very trusting person. I always have doubts about other people. But my problem is I can not say no even to those whom I don't trust. So in the end I always have no one but myself to blame for not following my gut instinct.
@Bizziebod (3497)
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5 May 07
I used to be a very trusting person, I used to dis any rumours and try and find out what a person is like for myself. Note the words 'used to'. I've now been walked over and been treated badly so many times now I've learned not to trust anyone and it takes me a long time to trust anyone anymore, which is really sad I suppose but that's life and self preservation.
@66jerseygirl (3877)
• United States
4 May 07
I know this may sound terrible,but I don't trust people when i first meet them,they have to earn my trust.I never used to be like that .I was very trusting and naive but I've made too many mistakes of trusting people that shouldn't have been trusted.How's hubby doing,my friend?
@tinamwhite (3252)
• United States
1 Apr 07
Kiss, thank you for your response. I am finding it harder to actually trust many people in this world anymore....I think that is a terrible thing to have to say about today's world.....
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