do you trust your partner?

Denmark
October 18, 2006 6:15pm CST
after some situations involving cheating,and a bad experience with my other relationships,i am having trouble trusting my boyfriend ,and that affects our relationship pretty much..do you trust your partner?
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@simmer (70)
• South Africa
19 Oct 06
No unfortunately i do not trust my bf either!We met thru my ex and wel sure you can figure out the rest!We are also on the rocks permanantly about our trust issues!
• Denmark
19 Oct 06
i dont know if he is really a different personality than me but he isn't the jalous type,it sometimes makes me think that he doesn;t even care,he only gets mad if he really finds out about something bad that i have done,but less about what i could have done..i can;t say i would like to fight with him over small unimportant things,maybe i like the freedom that he gives me and i dont realise this,but sometimes i wish he would be more careful,because i might even find interest in someonelse someday,what would he do then?
• Denmark
19 Oct 06
who knows,indifference can lead to many things..
@simmer (70)
• South Africa
19 Oct 06
I understand what you mean!I think the person you really dont trust isnt him but yourself!If you love him enough you wont get into situations where you will cheat on him?
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@ladyheart25 (1815)
• Philippines
19 Oct 06
trust is a must in a relationship...though its really hurting once u had this bad experience before leaving u hard times to trust again, not all people are the same. If u dont trust, u wont get trust from others either, thats my philosophy..
• Denmark
19 Oct 06
it is hard to trust again when he already dissapointed once
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• Denmark
19 Oct 06
i just don't wanna make the same mistake twice..maybe it sounds silly for some
• Philippines
19 Oct 06
yes its hard i know..but why not giving a person a chance? Just be aware enough of the possibilities that u might be cheated again though its really hurting just to think about it.
• United States
19 Oct 06
yes i do, because i have come to relize something lately,if i cant rust him how should i expect him to be faithful? i used to accuse him of cheating on me a lot but then he started telling me "if you think your so right about me cheating, ill go cheat, because obiously your more worried about being right" plus if you want him to trust you, quite accusing your man,because they'll start thinking youve got a guilty conscience....good luck and remember not all men are like the ones who have hurt you before, think about that and your relationship will get much stronger
• Denmark
19 Oct 06
unfortunately,he already dissapointed me once,and that was when i really trusted him and gave him freedom,at the begining that was..after that i started to worry about anything suspicious,and made me become a jalouse person..is it really only my fault ?
• Denmark
19 Oct 06
yes,i realise we are all humans,and that is why i forgave him also,because i have been in that situation myself..maybe in fact it is me that i don't trust first of all..thanks for your response and goodluck to you too
• United States
19 Oct 06
you're not wrong in any way, but you have to relize a few things. he's very human, if it werent him cheating it could easily ahve been you, because you too are human, im not inany way saying it was right or even tellingyou to get over it, b/c i know its a hard thing to let go of, but the only thing you can do now is forgive him and start rebuilding that trust and relationship back up, or relize the facts...you may not be able to forgive him and a relationship without forgiveness while never work,you need to be completely honest with yourself and with your man. tell him you cant help but think hes doin you wrong again, that you dont like the way it feels but you need him to understand and hel-p rebuild that trust there. good luck
@exodamus (1625)
• India
19 Oct 06
Business partner or life partner?
• Denmark
19 Oct 06
hehe good question indeed,i was talking about life partner..but i guess any other social relationships count also,so..do you trust him?
@exodamus (1625)
• India
19 Oct 06
Well as long as it s life partner trust is the most important thing between the partners. No matter what comes up trust should not be lost . Yes I do trust my partner unconditionally
• Portugal
20 Oct 06
I trust my wife, and she in me. But we give some average of untrust because it´s important, everybody needs attention and a litle jeaulous makes good. It´s a proof of love. We all in life makes mistakes, forgiveness it´s a gift. I just don´t loose time chasing gooses. I´ll try my best to be the best and so does she.
• Denmark
20 Oct 06
i totally agree with you on this matter,no matter how much you trust your partner or yourself it is always good to let him know that you still care and you are still afraid of losing him..me for example,i feel good knowing that my partner is a but jalous,cause that means he cares..
• Portugal
20 Oct 06
The rest is the power of love.
@ddsully (1062)
• United States
20 Oct 06
after your last bad relationship did you rush into the next? cause if you did you will bring in all the bad feelings from your last relastionship. you need time in between relationships for yourself to reflect and learn from the past and learn to also let go of the past.
• Denmark
20 Oct 06
no,cheating happened in my present relationship also,that is what makes it hard now
@ddsully (1062)
• United States
20 Oct 06
after my husband cheated, i couldnt trust him after as much as i tried, so we split. my theory is once a cheater always a cheater and us woman deserve to be treated with RESPECT. good luck and follow your heart.
@shubhvani (275)
• India
19 Oct 06
100%
• Denmark
19 Oct 06
wow,how can you trust someone that much,i don't even trust myself 100%:P
@psmohan (1877)
• India
20 Oct 06
I trust my spouse more than anybody. I donot want to enter into any other relationship as it is harmful and spoil the harmony of family.
@vipul20044 (5794)
• India
20 Oct 06
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Well yes i do trust her but then tell me where there is trust there is a sense of closeness and possesiveness and it leads to a bit of mistrust! But that can be resolved by understanding
• Denmark
20 Oct 06
i agree:)
• United States
20 Oct 06
I trust my husband fully. I have had some pretty bad relationships in the past with cheaters and such, but when I met my hubby, I knew he was a good guy and had faith in him, so I trusted him. In all honesty, as long as he doesn't give me a reason to distrust him, I won't.
@terriann (4450)
• United States
19 Oct 06
I trust my husband, and i was in a bad relationship before, but he is not nothing like the other person I was with.
@tvnaresh (1581)
• India
19 Oct 06
no i dont have any partner...i already mentioned...remember...i cant tell anything about ur bf(boy friend..)without knowing much...
• Denmark
19 Oct 06
i know enough about my partner,i wanted to know about other people's partners:)and by the way,why are you single?
@getjimmy (2242)
• India
20 Oct 06
I dont have a partner so do not need to worry bout trust and all.I may b considering it in coming days.
• Denmark
20 Oct 06
sometimes i think it's better on your own.there are so many things that you don't have to worry about:P
• Romania
20 Oct 06
i have the same problem with my girl,it does no good to much gelozy in ur relation
• Denmark
20 Oct 06
did you ever think that maybe she has reasons to doubt you?;)