Should Fathers take on a more responsible role around the house?

@kynni204 (2031)
United States
April 2, 2007 9:08am CST
Here lately I have really letting my husband have it. I have been doing no house work I lett his butt see what it is like to have to take care of the house and a lil girl. For the past month he has been washing dishes, washing clothes, cooking and cleaning the house after he gets off work. I think he has had enough. He has changed his attitude. I think I will go ahead and help out now
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27 responses
• United States
2 Apr 07
I also think it depends on what you two mutually agreed on. My husband is still in school and so I work more than him (not that school is not really tough on him). As a result of that, he splits the house work with me. Usually he is doing more than me considering that I'm so tired when I get home. Now in the future I want to get a part time job instead of having a full time and I won't mind taking on the bulk of the house work then.
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@kynni204 (2031)
• United States
2 Apr 07
Yeah as long as you have that understanding up front.
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• United States
3 Apr 07
It so funny as soon as i got home last night from a long day at work...I was immediately expected to cook. That normally does not happen and so I was actually surprised, but I made him promise to clean the kitchen if I cooked.
@zotopec (307)
• Pakistan
2 Apr 07
Actually I can't say that a father should wash dishes, wash clothes, cook and clean the house and still want to get back to home after work. After all, generally speaking mother is the ultimate source for every household everywhere. But if he has been adamant to help you out then it was the best thing and dont forget to ask him if he has learned his lesson.
@kynni204 (2031)
• United States
2 Apr 07
Yep he has learned his lesson. I am not saying all men deserve it but he butt did. Or else he would have to hire a maid
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• United States
2 Apr 07
Okay first off I want to tell you how lucky you are to have a hubby like him. Most men would have just sat in the middle of the mess like it was not even there. I am happy of you that he has gotten a taste of what your life is like and will appreciate you all that much more. I just want to remind you to appreciate him for doing it in the fist place. What a good guy. I have tried the "moms on strike" in my house and guess what the stuff does not get done until mom gets sick of it and starts it up again.
@kynni204 (2031)
• United States
2 Apr 07
That's funny! He cant stand a dirty house so he has to get off his hine part.
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@dlkuku (1936)
• United States
2 Apr 07
Both my husband and I work, and I do most of the housework. He works way more hours than me though and his job is a lot more physical so I don't expect him to do a lot. However, on his days off, he will help, he will sweep and mop, take the garbage out, do the dishes, and laundry, which helps me. Now if only I could get my teenager to help out. Huh, like that's going to happen.
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@kynni204 (2031)
• United States
2 Apr 07
Teenager work now that is hilarious, let me know if you do. I will buy your recipe from you
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@cher913 (25865)
• Canada
2 Apr 07
absolutely, my hubby was like yours and i ended up leaving for about 6 months and now that i am back, he does a lot around the house, he is much more considerate to be sure!! He makes meals, i do laundry and we both deal with kids (13 & 10)
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@kynni204 (2031)
• United States
2 Apr 07
Yep sometimes you have to show them.
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@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
2 Apr 07
wow, he actually does it if you dont? Good man, Nothing gets done at my house if I dont do it, but I am a SAHM, so I cant expect him to work come home and do it all while I sit on my rump. But, I see where you are coming from...Seems like you made him appreciate you a bit more...Good work =)
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@kynni204 (2031)
• United States
2 Apr 07
Yes he appreciates what he used to have when I did everything. He is more grateful now as a result.
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• Canada
2 Apr 07
I personally feel it needs to be a partnership, i work from home but I also do most of the regular housework, my husband does help with dinner and usuaully the dishes more so than me...He will do laundry especially his own work clothes...he is always doing outside chores as well as the list I always have for him...I think we teach others how to act and this is one that holds true..If you let them get away with doing nothing and we seem ok with it then of course it is human nature they will not do it... anyways I am thankfull that my husband is involved with the kids and the running of the house
• India
2 Apr 07
yes , he is the one who take care.
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@kurtbiewald (2628)
• United States
2 Apr 07
hmmmmmmmmm maybe if he it hittin it or maybe even a nice letter stating intention then maybe he is doomed being a slave, teacher, therapist, husband, dad, and whatever else 'till then, he is jus a player remember that
@kynni204 (2031)
• United States
2 Apr 07
what!!!???
• Canada
2 Apr 07
Wow. More women should try your approach lol. I must admit that I can't complain, I do the cooking. cleaning and the lunch making through the week, except for one night or so where my partner tells me not to do dinner for myself and him because he'll cook when he gets home which is very sweet of him. At weekends, if I leave a note for when he egst up, he will do dishes and scoop the litter tray as well as feed the cat, and he does the obvious things such as breakfast for the kids (He lets me sleep in because I'm an insomniac) He sorts the kids out for school during the week too, and he wakes me about 10 minutes before he drops them off on his way to work so they can spend 10 minutes with me before they go. I think a lot of men don't always realize that it's hard work keeping everything running at times. Things have to be done in a certain way and manner in order for everything else to run smoothly. They don't get that. Good work on making your man appreciate you more.
@kynni204 (2031)
• United States
2 Apr 07
Your husbands sounds like he is pretty good with helping out. We must appreciate these men.
@zing_i (269)
• United States
4 Apr 07
Yes fathers should also take up responsiblities as the house is made with the help of both the people the man and the women. It should never be that the women are taken for granted for what ever they do and are make for the house work.
@diannebcrs (1549)
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
that's a good one, that way he'll realize that managing an entire household is not that easy. but i guess the responsibility should be made as chores shouldn't really choose gender and i think both mom and dad should know how to cook, clean, and do laundry. it's an even greater idea if the couple does these together.
• India
3 Apr 07
Father as well as mother has to take equal responsibility in the matter of household and children. You should not relieve him entirely from doing household work. Ask him to help you in your daily house works. That will be helpful to create a better understanding between you and him
• India
3 Apr 07
as far as family is concerned is a joint effort by all the members of the family... everyone should take equal responsebility in the family, should help others in the family... thats what family is all about... to love your ones, to care your ones and to help you ones equally... if only one person is taking more responsebility, you can't say thats a family... that'll be tearmed as living with others without any co-operation... well thats what i think and your response is neccessary... so that i can know whether i am right or wrong...
• India
3 Apr 07
yes I think that the fathers should take on a more responsible role around the house since he is the main head in the house. he should take responsibilities upto the time when his children are able to take the responsibilities. then he should give the responsibilities one by one to his children......
• India
3 Apr 07
yes I think that the fathers should take on a more responsible role around the house since he is the main head in the house. he should take responsibilities upto the time when his children are able to take the responsibilities. then he should give the responsibilities one by one to his children......
@aissha (2036)
• India
3 Apr 07
i am happy for you and i don't think my husband will do something like that ,but i wish.... lol
@justinus (1110)
• Karawaci, Indonesia
3 Apr 07
agreed ! But it doesn't mean that he (husband) must do anything himself at home otherwise you will send him to hospital ...and spend more money .....
@manzician (4733)
• India
3 Apr 07
Well, it totally depends on family to family. Every family has different circumstances and it depends on that. In ideal cases, yes fathers should take the responsibility of the house.
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
actually kynni my husband also do the household in our home though he works from mondays to fridays as cook from a reputable restaurant, during weekends he do all the household like washing clothes, cleaning the house, washing dishes, cooking and even taking care of our children plus our adapted son. this is because i work from mondays to sundays. i wish all the husband in the world can also do this for his family.