Would you shape your kids career or you would let them handle themselve

United States
April 2, 2007 11:01am CST
hey folks what would you do ?
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15 responses
@KrauseHome (36689)
• United States
29 Nov 07
Well, if I had children of my own, I would help to instill in them a desire to want to be a Go Getter, and not stop until they reach the Goals in life they are so desiring, but there is no way I would insist they do or be something unless that is what they are so desiring. We need to remember not everyone can be Doctors, Lawyers or Teachers, so why should we expect that from them, unless this is what they are wanting to do so.
@Lifeless (2636)
• India
29 Nov 07
I wud certainly have him decide what he wants to do, but I wud ofcourse guide him thru everything he does.. After all, what are parents for.. They r there to think of their child's well being, so why wudn't I....
@camar_lyn (1028)
• Singapore
25 May 07
I will not shape the career of my kids. I would however, let them explore and make them aware that there are many careers out there for them. They need not need to conform to the 'norm' like being an engineer, accountant, lawyer, doctor, etc.. I will also help them with identifying their areas of interest. If they love the outdoors, they can be a coach with an adventure school. If they love numbers, they can choose auditing or accounting. If they love fine arts, they can choose graphic design or interior design or even sculpting. I believe that everyone is different. Choosing a career based on their interest will reap excellent rewards. - Lyn
@latsmom (824)
25 May 07
I would like my daughter to be responsible enough to choose a good career path, that is ot necesaraly one that earns her millions but one that she can live comfortable with and also not dreading getting up every morning. I left home at 14 and chose my own career path, it took me some time to decide what I wanted to do but in the end i got there. I'm not rich but my daughter and I have everythig we need and a lot more. I hope that I can have soem influence over what she decides to do but ultimately it' snot my decision to make. I can only give her the best start in life, with a loving home, an open mom, a good education and upringing adn hope that ultimately she does what is right. She has so many hobbies which she has choosen herself at only four and has stuck at them all even last week when she was really poorly she begged to go to musical theatre and I took her against my better judgement as she was not contagious, the poor love did all she could and only when she could not do any more did she come to me and sit in my arms, I still had to sit through till the end of the class as she did not want to miss anything. I admire her determination and courage and hope that it follows her into later life. That's the most a mom can hope for.
@tonyxxx (693)
• India
9 May 07
I will only guide my son about what he should do or what are the things that he should do otherwise he will shape his career himself.I will only provide my help in the form of guidence if he needs it.I will not force my views on him instead try him to act on his interests.
@mpshiva6 (65)
• India
3 Apr 07
I will let my daughter choose her career. While it is the duty of every parent to advice their children on the various careers they can choose from, the ultimate choice should be left to the children. I have seen many cases where the father wants the children to follow his career, the children fail miserably because of lack of interest in the particular career. Every person aptitude is different, their liking for things are different, even if they are father and son, or brothers. Nowadays the kids are so much exposed to things around them and they are quite capable of choosing their own careers. So it is better to let them choose heir careers and make a success out of it.
@rekhum (2423)
• India
3 Apr 07
I'd rather not shape their careers but help them decide what they really want to do in their life from their early childhood days.
2 Apr 07
I think that it is really up to the child what they want to do. However,saying that I know full well that if my children choose a career that I think is below them, then I would encourage them to do something else, as I think they should make the most of their talents.
@design (849)
• Ireland
2 Apr 07
Parents who pressure kids to do a certain job as an adult are the reason why so many professions are full of people who aren't there for the love of the job, IE look at our Doctors, most of them should be in some other profession, I don't think half are caring enough to the patient (although a lot has to do with hospital politics), Teachers, just because they know their subject choice doesn't make them a good teacher. I would never pressure my kids to work in a certain field, I want them to do a job that they love, one that interest them, challenges them and one that they can learn from.
@honeyangel (1992)
2 Apr 07
as a mum of two aged 5 and 7, ill let my kids shape there own career as long it is not illegal
@wolfie34 (26789)
• United Kingdom
2 Apr 07
I disagree with parents who expect their children to follow their footsteps in the career they have chosen expecting to hand their business down to them or because they worked in law expect their children to work in law too. I would give my child/children all the support they could want in choosing their career for themselves whatever they decide to do. Giving them the freedom to choose whatever path they take and respecting them and they know they have me to guide them if needed.
2 Apr 07
I don't believe any parent should force their child into a career, particularly if your child doesn't want to follow that course. My son decided at a young age that he wanted to be a chef, and is currently undergoing his training. I would rather he follows his own path, and would never attempt to force him into office work, for example
@joyce959 (1560)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
When my oldest son graduated high school, her aunties suggested that he take nursing course because nurses are in demand in the US, UK and other countries and get very good income. I also wanted my son to take nursing or doctor of medicine, but I dont want to insist it on him. So I asked my son if he wants to pursue nursing and he told me he doesn't like it. So I asked what course or degree he likes and he said he wants something on Computer Course and so I let him take what he wants. I know there are some kids that took courses which they dont like and just the liking of their parents and what happen is that, some of these kids got failures in grades, cant finish the course and would just drop out of college. I believe that it is best that kids will choose what they want for a degree/ course/ career to pursue with just the guidance of the parents, and not the parents choosing and insisting a career for them.
• United States
2 Apr 07
There is no way I would shape his or her future career. I would cultivate different interests, but I would focus more on giving my future children a positive set of skills, abilities, and morals that he or she can use in whatever field they choose to pursue. I never allowed what my parents wanted me to be to shape who I was or where I was headed. My mother wanted me to go into a number of different professions, most of them professional, white-collar entities. My father wanted me to follow the money, pure and simple. If they had an influence on me or tried to make me go to one career or built me up for it, then I probably would have resented them. I believe in giving a child the right tools to succeed, and then just letting them succeed. If my child wants to do something with their life, then so be it. I just hope that I can teach them the right skills and morals and ethics to be successful.
@bongmix (267)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
in my own opinion, i will shape the career of my kids. i ll lead them to were i want them to be. example i want him to finish law. now he is 7 years old . ill mold him and show him what or how a lawyer works so he will understand why i want him to be a lawyer and why he should be a lawyer. set that as your goal and your kid will be setting his goal according to yours. your the parent you shopuld take charge, but everything should be in the right pace...