Does your husband/boyfriend surprise you with flowers?
• United States
15 Apr 07
My husband does surprise me with flowers but it's not often - because we just can't always afford it - so when he does bring them to me, it's a special treat and means more than if he did it on a regular basis. He tries really hard to buy me flowers on special days like my birthday, Mother's Day and our Anniversary. When I was working in an office, he would send me flowers on those days and on Valentine's Day too. I don't expect them so it's not a disappointment when he doesn't give them to me. When I worked, it seemed to feel like a contest to see who was 'loved enough' to get flowers on Valentine's Day. I hated that because our love and relationship isn't based on whether he sends me flowers or not. I know we do not always have the funds to do such things but he makes me feel loved in other ways, ways that are more important to me and mean more to me than getting flowers. I think he felt an obligation to buy them on Valentine's Day even if it meant spending money he shouldn't have - just so others wouldn't think he didn't love me. I'm glad we don't have that pressure anymore. We do something else that means 110% more to me - we leave each other the word SHMILY in little hidden places that we'll find when we are least expecting it. It means "See How Much I Love You" and he'll write it on a piece of paper and slip it into my coat pocket or leave it on the dashboard of my car or place it on my laptop screen or write it on the steam on our bathroom mirror while I'm in the shower. I do the same and it could be days, weeks or months before we find those little letters but it always brings a smile to our faces and warms our hearts. I imagine, long after one of us has passed - the other one will continue to find those little 'shmily's' hidden.. I think that would be wonderful. We do it with our son too and I hope he passes the tradition down with his own family one day. I'd rather find a SHMILY on a day when I'm feeling down than to get flowers. Don't get me wrong, I love flowers but they have never been a huge deal in our life. Maybe if we ever have more money to spare.
3 Apr 07
I specially requested my husband not to buy flowers for me as my house is always very warm and the flowers die very quickly. I feel it is a waste of good money so instead he often buys boxes of chocolates for me. I enjoy these and at least I can share them with him.