Abortion, pregnancy....

@stacyv81 (5904)
United States
April 2, 2007 12:35pm CST
So, I found out someone is pregnant...no its not me...but she is 51, has had back and neck problems for numerous years, she told me she was pregnant, and was thinking about an abortion...She asked me if she should...me being pro life, I say no,but that is just my opinion, she seems as though she is leaning towards the abortion, I told her I'd help her as much as possible, and I dont want her to get an abortion, but what can I do? She is worried about her health and her age, but I cant make her do something. It just hurts my feelings that she might do it, because I am so pro-life.
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2 responses
• United States
2 Apr 07
it might be in the best interest health wise for her. It can be pretty dangerous to be pregnant and give birth when youre that old, especially if she already has health problems. In this case its not just cuz she "doesnt want it" her body would have a hell of a time physically because of her advanced age.
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• Australia
2 Apr 07
I can totaly understand her wanting to have an abortion. At tat age, with all the risks to herself and the baby, and already having such health problems...it doesn't sound like she's really up to motherhood. She isn't excited to have the baby, she doesn't really want the baby...If I was in that situation, i wouldn't have the baby. Of course, there is always the option of adoption, but some women just couldn't do that. I think that if your friend thinks seriously about it, and considers all the options available to her and decides she's really sure she wants to have an abortion, there's nothing wrong with that decision. The important thing for you is to be there for your friend, and support her whatever she does. I feel bad for her, faced with such a difficult problem. How did this happen? At 51, most women have gone through menopause, and was she not using contraceptives or something?
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
2 Apr 07
Yes, but she already knew what I would say, she knows I am pro life, so, why would she even say anything to me, if she just wanted the abortion? We are family, and we told her we'd help her and be there to take care of the baby should anything happen to her, or if she couldnt care for it. If she truly wanted an abortion wouldnt she have done it without saying anything? She knows we are pro life.
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• Australia
2 Apr 07
Well, I guess she thought you're close enough to her to be able to talk to about it regardless of your views and you wouldn't judge her or something...since she hasn't made her desicion, probably she's wanting to hear points of view from both types of thinking on abortion. Maybe you outlining the reasons against it and other optios she can take and offering your help will convince her not to have one! perhaps she was partly hoping that the things you'd say would talk her out of it? Anyway, i hope everything goes well for her, and her baby if chooses to have it!
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
2 Apr 07
Thank you and thanks for the words...I am hoping things work out, I just have a soft spot for little babies, and abortion hurts my heart.
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