Has anyone else experienced an ectopic pregnancy?
April 2, 2007 1:24pm CST
I just wanted a place for others who have experienced an ectopic pregnancy to share their story. My story started on Friday, October 13, 2006, when I found out I was pregnant with my second child. Earlier that day I'd had the most severe cramps I'd ever experienced, as well as some spotting. A couple of days later I was still experiencing spotting and was in some pain off and on. I was sent for ultrasounds twice to see if they could see anything that way. I was then in possibly the worst pain I'd ever felt (the birth of my first child notwithstanding) almost a week later (on October 19, 2006). I went to my doctor, who then sent me straight to an OB specialist, who then sent me straight to surgery that same afternoon. They ended up removing my left fallopian tube (along, of course, with the pregnancy), as it had ruptured. The physical healing took a good couple of weeks, to return back to normal. However, the emotional healing of losing a child, losing a pregnancy, has taken a toll. I know I'll never "get over" losing my child, but the pain is not quite as intense now as it has been. Please share your story if you would like to, if you've experienced an ectopic pregnancy or any type of pregnancy loss.
2 Apr 07
I'm so sorry for your loss. I haven't personally experienced an ectopic pregnancy but i watched my sister go through it not once but twice, as her and her husband tried to conceive a few years back. After years of failed attempts, four failed ivf treatments and 2 ectopic pregnancies- she finally fell in naturally and had a beautiful healthy baby boy- who is now 3 years old. Better than that, she now has a second son who is 18 months old- also conceived naturally. As a mother, I can only begin to imagine how painful losing your child must have been, emotionally- as you said, the physical pain subsides and heals with time, but the emotional and mental aspects of the loss, are something that will always be with you. Perhaps some sort of memorial service on the anniversary would help you to let go. I hope you don't mind me responding even though it isnt something I have experienced, but I just wanted to offer some support (Ive been lurking round the sidelines after "retiring from mylot" so to speak, but I can't let this topic go unresponded to- not something so genuine, heartfelt and important, and something to raise awareness about ectopic pregnancies.) All the best, take care.
• United States
2 Apr 07
Thank you for your message. Of course I don't mind your response at all. In fact, I very much welcome it and I want to thank you for you support of my message and ectopic pregnancy in general. I'm very sorry to hear about your sister's losses, yet very pleased for her in that she conceived naturally not once but twice. I'm sure that fact makes her little boys that much more special to her. I've been thinking about doing something special, some kind of memorial, on the anniversary. I'm just not sure at this point exactly what would best suit this kind of thing, but I'm sure I'll think of something. Thank you again for your genuine concern and heartfelt message.
• United States
9 Apr 07
I had one back in January of 2001, and it was the worst thing in the world. I ended up having a miscarriage with it, which was the best thing in the world. Funny thing is, though, I ended up being pregnant after that. The baby had attatched itself to my uterine wall and made itself at home, instead of being terminated. I now have a beautiful little 5 year old that is the result of that ectopic pregnancy. She's my miracle baby, and I love her dearly. It's not fun, and it's very dangerous to have an ectopic pregnancy, and all you can hope for is that it will terminate itself so that you don't have to have a major surgery to get it taken care of.
11 Oct 08
Well, I have had a rather eventful last couple of days. I came home from hospital today after having emergency surgery yesterday morning for an ectopic pregnancy. On Thursday afternoon I had pains so bad I couldn't move off my bed and I was sweating, shivering and nearly passing out. My mother called an ambulance and I was taken to emergency where I waited for about eight hours to see two doctors. When the gynaecologist scanned me, she called the sonographer in from home, he came in at about 2am and confirmed the baby was growing in my tube, then they called in the surgery team from home. So by 3.50am I was prepped up ready for surgery. It was a shock as I did not know that I was pregnant, so to go from not knowing what was wrong with me, to having to have emergency surgery for a baby that's growing outside the womb was quite an experience. It is also a weird experience as I did not really have time to become attached to the baby, although when I had the ultrasound before surgery, I saw its beating heart. I must say now that it's all over, I am thinking about the little thing, and although it was probably just a blob of matter, its little heart was beating and it was my baby..it's a little upsetting. Of course they had to remove the fallopian tube that it had planted itself in so I only have one working tube now, so pregnancy in the future will be harder for me, which is also upsetting. However I must remember that there are plenty of people who can not have children at all, at least I still have a chance. So now I'm at home resting, in an awful lot of pain but glad I'm ok. Hasanyone else experienced this? I'd love to hear others' stories.
• United States
31 Jul 07
Yes, I've been through that not just once but twice. The first time was back in June of 2001. We had gone on vacation after my first doctors visit where I was told everything was good to go see ya when you get back and ended up three weeks later in a hospital in a state I never been too. The outcome was supposedly that I would be okay at first and able to have children, then it changed to no go on the kids, then I ended up pregnant again in May of 2005, resulting in yet another surgery. Once again supposedly it had been caught early enough...blah blah blah...and now more than two years later still no baby. It has put quite a strain on my relationship with my husband, as well as what I have gone through in my own mind. The worst part is that unlike so many miscarriages that are of a more common place sort, people do not understand this completely, can barely pronounce ectopic, and for some reason seem to assume that there was something I could have done to save the baby. That really gets me. I am still coming to terms with this as time goes by, you never do get over it truly. At least there are others out there willing to share - it's always great to feel that someone else understands.