How long after marriage should one have kids ?

@jamie622 (508)
India
April 2, 2007 1:24pm CST
Given that I marry around the age of 25 , how lomg after marriage should I go for having kids . Is it ok to wait 3 or 4 years or the sooner the better ? Can you think of some advantages or disadvantages ? Scratch your brain !
6 responses
@wachit14 (3600)
• United States
2 Apr 07
I think this is a very personal choice. If financially you can afford to have children at an earlier age then that's fine. I don't think anyone should struggle though because children take a lot of time and money to raise. Also, marriages take time to grow and children can detract from that immediately. Having a solid marriage is better for the parents and the children. Also, if you have a career and you wish to have more experience working first, then delaying parenthood is probably not a bad idea.
@samrat16 (2442)
• India
3 Apr 07
I got married when I was 26 and my wife 22 , now I'm 29 and she is 25 and we are planning for a kid now . Yes, anybody should wait and decide that whether they want a child or not. Giving birth to childern is not a big deal in current world but to make them reach to heights of education and performance in all field of life is important.
@mtoxales (374)
• Canada
2 Apr 07
It really depends on you and your husband's priorities. If you still want to enjoy each other and do things that you used to do before getting married or concentrate on your careers, then you can wait for a few years before having kids. This would also allow you to discover each other and build a strong relationship. On the other hand, if you have kids at a young age, say 25 yrs old, you get to experience the joy and fulfillment that one gets from having a baby earlier and you get to experience growing with your children. After 20 years, you are only 45 years old and you can share doing things with your kids who are now adults.
• United States
2 Apr 07
This is a question only you can answer. I waited until I was thirty to have my first. Even though I felt like I really got to live out my younger years I still felt like I was giving up a lot of things I wanted to do. Some things get put on hold. Try to think if there are things you and your husband want to do now and what can wait. Having babies changes every aspect of your lives. When you both feel like you want babies, that is the perfect time. You'll both be excited and without regret. Babies are a wonderful blessing at ant age.
@magnet (2087)
• United States
2 Apr 07
It really depends on the couple. We waited 2 years. I did not want to have children as soon as we got married.
• United States
2 Apr 07
theres no better time, its all about you! It depends where you are personally in your life: financially, mentally, physically, etc. If you "feel" ready 6 months after marriage, go for it and if you dont feel ready for 4 years then thats fine too. If you wait a little longer then you have more personal time to just be a husband and wife and spend time together before the kids come and it can build a stronger relationship. But other people just really want kids soon, and they do just as well. I think when i get married, i'll wait 2 years before we start trying for kids.