My Cousin Never Said A Thank You After We Gave Her A Congratulations Gift
By coolchic101
@coolchic101 (848)
United States
April 2, 2007 1:49pm CST
My cousin had her 3rd child in January and me and my family mailed her and her family a congratulations card and a box of fine chocolates.
It's been 3 months and she never emailed us a thank you note. I know she emails because she always forwards pictures of her newborn baby in a blind copy email at her work. She also forwards funny emails at her work. So it's not like she doesn't have time to email.
How do I tell her in an email that isn't offensive if she got the package we sent her? Who knows maybe it got lost in the mail or maybe she did receive it and forgot to say thank you. Help!
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3 responses
@joyce959 (1559)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
I think it is better that you write an email to your cousin asking how is she and her baby. Then you can state in your letter if she likes the card and the chocolates that you sent. From her reply, you will get the answer if she received the gifts you sent or not. If she implied that she like it then, its just that she had forgotten to thank you.
Anyway, I think its better that when you give a gift, just dont expect that you will receive a thank you. Gift giving is voluntary.
@coolchic101 (848)
• United States
2 Apr 07
My cousin who just had the baby is named Joyce too! And she is also filipino! How coincidental! Yeah gift giving is voluntary but "thank you" is nice to hear too and not much to ask, if you would like to continue receiving gifts. I'm sure I'm not the only one who feels like that.
@joyce959 (1559)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
Oh what a coincidence! But I am sure I am not your cousin...hehehe.
I myself also give or say thank you to those who give me gifts or favors. But when I give gifts, I just dont always expect to receive a thank you note.
Anyway, there must be a good reason why your cousin has not sent you a thank you note. Better send an email.
@stacyv81 (5903)
• United States
2 Apr 07
All I would say is I know you have been busy with the new baby, but I sent you something and I just wanted to make sure you received it...That way it doesnt seem as though you are pushing for a thank you, but maybe she did just get really busy and recieved a lot of cards, and presents and just forgot in the hustle and bustle to throw a thank you your way. Who knows, just casually bring it up as it is no big deal, you just wanted to make sure she got it.! =)
@coolchic101 (848)
• United States
2 Apr 07
My cousin lives in another state so we often communicate via email.
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@wachit14 (3595)
• United States
2 Apr 07
The best way to approach her about it is to ask if she did in fact receive the gift and card in the first place. You can say that you hadn't heard anything from her so you just want to make sure it was received. One reason why she may not have had a chance to reply is that she's simply too overwhelmed. If you do think it got lost in the mail though, then you have every right to check and ask.
