When is the best time to plan the second baby?
@dipasrisamanta (121)
United States
April 2, 2007 4:21pm CST
We have a two year old. A lot of people ask why we are not planning for our second baby. We are having quite a hard time raising him already and all sorts of advice keep on flowing in that we should have at least a gap of three years between the two children, which is supposed to be the perfect gap. We have no intention of having another baby right now. How do we stop people from invading our private life and lecturing about when to become pregnant again?
Please suggest.
thanks in advance.
5 responses
@sapphiresage (431)
• United States
3 Apr 07
*chuckles*
The following skill will become invaluable throughout your life.
1. Nod
2. Smile
3. Repeat
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
2 Apr 07
I absolutely know how you feel. I get it all the time, not only from family and friends, from strangers too! I have just the one child and he is four, and it just so happens I haven't been able to get pregnant again. Only you and your hubby can decide when the right time is for you and your family to have another child. I don't know the right words to say to people, but just tell it like it is, that your not ready and you would rather not talk about it, fullstop! I know its hard if its your in-laws but believe you me, you just have to tell them straight :) good luck!!!
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@mrsturner (518)
• Canada
3 Apr 07
It's amazing to me what some people think is their business. So many people ask you that even when your kids are so little that you don't want another one right away. I have a hard time telling people to mind their own business, but sometimes I just shrug and say - when it happens you'll be the first to know - and they usually get the hint.
@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
5 Apr 07
You can have a gap of whatever you like :)
If you decide it'd be easier to have a 10 year gap then you do that, don't let anyone force you in to having a 2nd baby before you're ready.
My daughter is 10 months old tomorrow & although i'd like 2 or 3 kids my hubby is happy with just 1 so there might be a few years before we have another but we'll just wait & see how things go once our daughter has passed 1.
We'll see if we're coping with everything ok - her behaviour, financially, mentally & emotionally before we start trying for #2.
Just tell everyone you'll have another baby IF & WHEN you're ready & no sooner.
Good Luck!
