purposely sabatoging my relationship

LOL - I'm with you in the league of evil women! I am similar -- except it's with my husband, and I don't pick fights...I just completely shut down and refuse to be nice. It's strange, because I usually go out of my way to be nice, but I just seem to be angry at him all the time. Personally, I'm not convinced it's purely evil on my side, I think there are some things in our past that I haven't emotionally forgotten. It's destructive and dysfunctional, but thats how it is, and I guess it won't change until I figure out what I'm so angry about (I'm pretty sure I know), and deal with it. Good luck with your boyfriend, I hope he's a tough one! :0)

I think both of you should talked about your relationship now.You are not getting any younger so better iron out things now so that you both of you will move on.If you both love each other then that must be a good sign of going into marriage and preparing for your future.Otherwise,if love fades already then there's no reason to last the relationship longer.

I can't help feeling sad for both of you. I don't want to be evil, but I just can't help not being evil :P Are you really enjoying picking fights with him? It is possible both of you could belong to a special breed that the more you fight, the more you get to understand each other. Perhaps you might want to analyse if you are enjoying the fight or is fighting to seek attention. Perhaps you are feeling insecured? You love your boyfriend, what about him?