do people press you into marriage and parenthood
By nietske
@nietske (199)
Belgium
April 3, 2007 3:26am CST
Well, it has happened yet again. I am at a family gathering and of course people can(t help but ask me when I'm going to get married and start having babies. I am only 23, but i've been with my partner for 7 years, but i do feel pressured, and i hate it. I don't want to get maried, I just don't see the point, and i am so not ready for parenthood. What is this obsession with marriage and children? Do you get these feelings? Are you a person that creates these feelings? Comments?
4 responses
@rb200406 (1824)
• India
3 Apr 07
i can fully relate to your situation dear.i also went through the same situation.I was married when i really didn't wanted to .Now after one year everyone is pressurising me to have baby except my husband.I am not ready for that & i really not interested in having kids.Why there is so much pressure on us.& why people think that you should start a family so soon?
@nietske (199)
• Belgium
3 Apr 07
I am sorry to hear that you were/are stuck in a marriage against your will, that must be awful! I am glad to hear that there are other women that don't feel the urgent need to be a mom. I just don't know if i want to have kids at all. And if i do, I would seriously consider adopting a child, giving one poor soul a happy home.
I do not know why people do this, they just expect that it's the normal thing to do i guess. I do understand that it has something to do with the fact that I have a long lasting relationship, but still, I would prefer it if people would mind their own business.
@rb200406 (1824)
• India
4 Apr 07
i also feel the same.What is the need for having your own child.One can adopt one & give home & happiness to that child rather than bringing one .My Husband understands this & if i don't want he does not pressurises me to have child.This way i have been lucky.
@venkyvenky (621)
• India
4 Apr 07
yes.I have seen this and I am able to see a part of my life being described.yes, people do press others like you of this age to parenthood and marriage.
My friend and I experience this almost everyday and we share our experiences.I would like to tell you the following tips to keep away from all this.
1. If somebody presses you asking certain questions related to marriage and parenthood, try to avoid them by asking why do you want to know?
2. Even if they press you more, say ok yes and then have your own self opinions on all this. Do not go by others' opinion. Discuss with your partner and you both have to decide on this and noone else.
3. But please remember, dont postpone too much on these 2 things. Being a bit experienced in both, am telling you from self experience. plan well.there should be someone to help you when you ahve kids.remember that.Person who would assist have to be in good health to assist you remember all this and then decide for yourself
