i love her but she hates me...

I Love Her But She Hates Me... - Well basically, as we all know, hate is now reigning in this world. So many wars, so many fights, so many anger. Love can't seem to win. But it's still worth a try. In my case, I love a girl but she's always avoiding me for an unknown reason. It's kinda unfair because as I said before, it's worth a try so I've tried so hard for me to be accepted by her. But still, she's so hard to please. Everytime I ask her, she always answers "I Don't Know". Frankly, I'm confused! The picture kinda symbolizes what we feel to each other right now.

- Ron Reyes
www.ronreyes.co.nr
@ronreyes (4724)
Philippines
April 3, 2007 7:27am CST
Sometimes I want to grab her by the hand and say "I Love You" directly. And I don't care if she slap my face, tug my hair, or even kick my balls. I won't mind and I don't care! I just want to let her know how I feel. But the problem is, she's just avoiding me. I ask her "Why?" and she said "I Don't Know!" I really think it's so unfair! Because I love her for so many reasons and she just hates me for no reason at all. It's really damn unfair! Do you think she's just avoiding me, for me not to know my own weaknesses?
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112 responses
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
Woo her right and woo her good. Just as what John Estrada did to Janice de Belen. It's just a matter of being patient. If you can't take it anymore, I am very sure that there is somebody else for you. Try to find the right person for you when, the time comes when you are finally convinced that, the case of running after her is hopeless. Give it a good try first before giving up. You might succeed in the end.
@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
24 May 07
Heehee! LOL! :)
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@marci3 (245)
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
Girls are like that--unpredictable. We say "NO" when we actually mean "YES". We say "I'm ok" even of we're not. So when she's avoiding you, it doesn't really mean that she hates you. Maybe she's just overwhelmed by the things that you do for her or she feels she doesn't deserve all that attention and she doesn't have the guts to tell you directly. Or she could also feel something she's not sure of, hence the distance. Think of it as a challenge. Who knows? She just might be in denial. ;) Good luck!
• Canada
3 Apr 07
But what if someone actually means 'No'. There was a case near here where a girl said 'no' and the guy decided that she meant yes and raped her. In court, the judge let him off because 'women often say no when they mean yes' and since then, women in this country have really emphasized that no means no.
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@marci3 (245)
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
Of course that's a different story. I know women are now asserting their right to say no, especially when it comes to cases like that.
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@marci3 (245)
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
Of course that's a different story. I know women are now asserting their right to say no, especially when it comes to cases like that.
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@cutepenguin (6448)
• Canada
3 Apr 07
I think you should show more respect for her feelings. Sometimes it takes a while for love to grow, and you need to give someone space in order to do that. Ask her what she needs, and listen to her response. Maybe she needs time - not everyone falls in love at first sight, for some people it's something that develops through common interests, fun activities together, that sort of thing. Or maybe she needs a bit of romance. Whatever it is that she needs, she won't feel like she's in lvoe with you if she feels like you're pressuring her. Because she'll be so focussed on how she's feeling and how you're feeling that she'll feel uncomfortable around you.
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
24 May 07
Well stated... :)
• United States
29 Sep 08
I don't know why but this post helped me understand a little of what I'm feeling with a guy I like. We were flirting a lot, then he became distant. You made me realize, maybe I need to back off for a little while. Thanks
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@akinad (448)
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
girls are really hard to understand..but you need to take a hint...maybe she doesn't really like you that much..no offense meant huh..just trying to make a point here..maybe avoiding you is the only way she can tell you to "back off"..some girls are really aren't that too forward as you would want them to be..especially if they dont want to hurt others feelings..maybe it's time to laylow..give her some space..if she does really like you..she'll be the one making the way to get to you..so lighten up!
@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
24 May 07
You're right! Girls are really hard to understand! :)
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• Australia
3 Apr 07
Dont worry too much about it man, you could possibly just think shes avoiding you, cause love exxagerates a lot of things ive found :P Its interesting that you think you could just get out there and say it, id find it really hard myself :P
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
4 Apr 07
It's just a figure of speech. Like you, sometimes I'm also scared of saying what I feel. But if that's the only chance, there's a 30% possibility that I might do that to her. No! make it 20%. It's a hard dilemma you know because I know it's rude.
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@net_chick (103)
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
You know Ron, there are gazillions of reasons why a person is avoiding someone, and avoiding you doesn't mean that she hates you, probably she is just shy or she's not used to those kinds of situations you are showing her. Don't lose patience, just keep on trying up to the moment she decides : GOOD LUCK!!!
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
I hate to say this but I have to admit that girls are really hard to please! I mean, "enough" doesn't seem enough at all to all of you. But somehow, I think you're right! Maybe I have to increase my effort until she'll notice it. Thanks for the advice.
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• Philippines
6 Apr 07
You are welcome! Ron you know, we take note of even the smallest deed guys do for us and even though it seems that we are hard to please (that's what we show the guys) we are really grateful for it... JUST REMEMBER... try to be romantic, like what you see in movies (girls will fall for that!), even if the girl says that, that is corny and she's not into those romantic things... tsk..tsk.. that girl is lying, every girl likes to be admired at ;
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
24 May 07
Heehee! Nice response! :)
• China
4 Apr 07
yes,it is damn unfair. but i think if the girl has no reason to refuse you ,it shows she donot hate you.it si only that she do not think to have a lover. you can try,but donot loose it .it needs time .
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@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
5 Apr 07
well, life is mostly unfair at times. we get more pain than happiness. it's on how we deal with it which makes us more fulfilled. yep, you can try but if she does not want to try and talk to you, then don't push yourself too hard. atleast you tried, right?
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
24 May 07
You're both right! :)
@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
5 Apr 07
us women are sometimes hard to understand. and you are experiencing it now. well, if she's not willing to tell you why she is avoiding you, then don't ask her anymore. in due time when she's prepared to open up to you, you'll know the reason why. it just hurts to know that you love her so much and yet you can't even have some time with her. atleast divert your attention into something else. you write songs, right? atleast focus on that first. one thing is, if someone does not want you, don't force yourself to that person or else, you'll just end up hurting yourself more. it's difficult, i know. but later on, you'll realize that it's the best thing you can do. it's her loss not yours. have a nice day!
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
24 May 07
hahaha! lol! :)
@ydiwan (448)
• India
4 Apr 07
OK tiger first calm down and think over it you must not let her think that you are pushing her into an relationship so now for a change for a few days give her the space and leave her alone and if she needs you she will come back and there is a saying that if you love someone let it go if she/she comes back she is yours and if he or she does not she never was yours and move on but still i think you should at least tell her that you love her cos she needs to know your feelings and as for avoiding you is concerned like i said first tell her that you love her and then give her the space she needs and if she loves you she will come back cos the guilt and your love will force her to come back to you so try friend all the best and i will pray for you
@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
24 May 07
True! :)
@ajay44 (17)
• India
4 Apr 07
Well keep trying for what you want to say, but make sure that it is done fast and don't just say you love but make her to marry and be happy. if u get chance to say ILU but u don't be together for u r life time then what's the use of straining u r self. If u think she don't want u to know u r weakness, but what if she doesn't want to her weakness. best of luck
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
24 May 07
Thanks! :)
@thanuarun (290)
• India
4 Apr 07
may be she knows ur weaknesses or she's mistaken ur charector..from ur face ,body language and talks she understood that u like her...may be she is prepared for reply too...so try to avoid sudden actions like saying i love u or something... it happence only in film i think..u can ask her friends why she hates u or anything like that..i think u got my point...
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
24 May 07
Yeah! Thanks! :)
• Philippines
4 Apr 07
you know what give her what she needs? try not to text her, not to talk to her or everytime you see her try to make it seem like you don't see her.. it really works.. believe me.. hehehe.. it always works for us girls. try to ignore us then we would wonder why.. i don't konw but others but it always works or if she doesn't like you then find someone else.. you've got the looks so don't bother however don't play with gurls ok?
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
24 May 07
Text her? I have no cellphone! Heeeheee! :)
• Indonesia
4 Apr 07
Well, I DO NOT know what you feels because I am a cheerful guy. I never show my heart breaking in front of a public. I have a family problem and thats makes my father and mother separate for a while. Even for that, I always show my smile like there's was nothing wrong. In your case, looks likes you are a sensitive guys. You must be running to that girl like a hunter with a deer. She must be avoiding you, because you doesn't stop your feels with her. And she can't explain his act, because there was nothing word in his mind to express she's feels. So, keep what you do, but in slowly step, okay ?
@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
24 May 07
Okay! :)
@grobust (114)
• India
4 Apr 07
This is really difficult for me to figure out as i don't have much experience in love and relationship.But one thing you did'nt mention was is she your girlfriend or your wife.If she's your girlfriend you should try to find out why she's avoiding you.Maybe she's having an affair for which she is more interested in or maybe she's not interested in you anymore ,if she gives no reason.Im just trying to give you some possibilities okhay??i dont want to make you feel bad but i'll tell you one thing,if you really love her go to her and tell her clearly that you love her and want to be with her,if she doesnt respond just let her go,if she comes back to you,she's going to be yours forever,if she does not she is never going to be yours.
@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
24 May 07
She's neither one. HAHAHA! :)
• Philippines
4 Apr 07
You know what..always remember the saying that THE MORE YOU HATE THE MORE YOU LOVE...who knows she likes you and she is just shy to accept the truth for some reason..Just be always kind to her...one day she will change im sure.
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
24 May 07
Thanks for that saying. :)
@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
4 Apr 07
That is so very sweet that you are brave enough to say I love you, no matter what she does to you. I couldn't begin to wonder why she is avoiding you. Maybe you are coming on to strong? She might be intimidated by this strong feeling you have. Give her some time and back off a little bit, stay friendly and see what happens. Tell her you would like to get to know her better and that you really like her. At this time love is a very strong word.
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
24 May 07
cool! :)
• India
4 Apr 07
actually i think she had came to know about your feelings and she had not taken up you as her boy friend,love is really a great feeling,even i was once in the same situation and i asked one of our common friend to help me out in this situation then i was lucky that now she is with me.but the common friend should be a trust worthy ..
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
24 May 07
Right! :)
@ackars (1942)
• India
4 Apr 07
I can understand your emotions as I ve gone through such a situation a bit long time back...I think she is trying to avoid you..But she will have her own resons...She may be loving you but there is something which restricts her from saying so..May be she is scared of her parents or the people around her...If she is a kind of jolly gal,then definitely no doubt she is really trying to avoid you...But if she is a silent type,its the above reasons or similar reasons which keeps her mouth shut...So depending up on which type she is,either go back or move front...
@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
24 May 07
Heehee. You're right! :)
@Talha22 (384)
• Pakistan
4 Apr 07
well its not all the time that you love some one and someone loves you too like maybe some other girl like you but you dont love her maybe she is also afraid just like you are if i tell my story that i also love someone when i was in my scool i even has her in my dreams and aways wanted to tell her that i love her but was afraid of what will happen after that i even tried and succeeded in getting her phone no even in farewell i snaped her photo so that i will always remember her after scool i decided to call her and tell her the truth but failed due to her brother and father picking up the phone everytime i even tried to call like a girls voice and try to call her that i am her friend but still they got me they even tried to recall me afterwords then i decided to leave her and still today in my university life about 5 years past i still like her and thinks that if its in our fate then one day we will surely meet or maybe we will marry each other through our parents i know you all will be having tears in your eyes after reading my true and sad story but think about me that i am living without her with just her thoughts.
@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
24 May 07
Lovely response! :)
@subha12 (18452)
• India
4 Apr 07
Try to talk to her clearly. ask for definite reasons of her hating you. May be I thuink she wants to test whether your feelings are true or not. I may be wrong, but its my guess. If she continues to hate you, you need to avoid her and try to live without her. May be she was not worth you.
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@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
24 May 07
Maybe you're right! :)