I'm fallin' in love Again

Philippines
April 3, 2007 8:07am CST
I'm seeing the signs. I see him sitting there in the moonlight, smoking and listening to ipod. He's too gorgeous for me. He's too white for me. He's not right for me. I can't stop mooning over him. I love the way he walks and talks, his style, his demeanour, his body, his mind. I can't have him. He's married and too foreign for my rich Asian blood. I don't know where he comes from, but he sure is a hottie. I especially like his humble nature. There were a couple of times I got the chance to talk to him. But I blew it. I removed him from my friendster list, and now he's even farther. He's about two or three years my senior, a married man, and a foreigner. He talked to me once when he knew I was alone and needing some company. His Filipino friends are a bit too arrogant for my taste, but this Caucasion just pops up and starts making friends with me from afar. I mean we talk two stairs apart. He's like a god waiting to be worshipped. He's a bit too out of reach. I want someone like him. Handsome. Nice. Humble. Good-natured. Foreigner. Do you think there's a chance I can get someone to replace his place in the corner of my heart? What should I do to have someone handsome and nice? I'm no exceptional beauty, and a bit too mousy, and on the verge of giving up on my prince charming.
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25 responses
@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
He's married? get him out of your thoughts. get him out of your imagination. believe me, if you hang on to that feeling any longer, you will simply break your heart. You will find the right person for you... take your time. He comes at a time you least expect him to. My Prince Charming came, and I never even dreamed he existed! Never in my wildest imagination did I ever consider a person from a different country and culture come my way... he just came! and he turned out to be Mr. Right for me! Wait and be patient...Patience is a virtue... and God answers prayers! good luck!
@Kaeli72 (1230)
• United States
3 Apr 07
If Jackie doesn't appoint you for the best answer, I will! What you just said was all I wanted to say...took the words right from my fingertips. *lol*
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@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
4 Apr 07
thanks! it looks like we're on the same wavelength!
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@rsa101 (20211)
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
Oh I guess you're quite infatuated with him right now. As they say love at the wrong timing. I would suggest to not nurture the feelings as he is already committed or married already. You wouldn't want to destroy a family are you? I am quite sure that if that person would show the same feelings you two would just destroy a family in there. Stay away and find someone to admire freely as want.
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
Your views are fine. I believe that what she feels is just infatuation. However, it could easily blossom into an affair if the feeling is mutual. This is why I see that her move to stay away from the guy is the right move to take.
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@whyaskq (7532)
• Singapore
4 Apr 07
It would be nice to fall in love again, but with someone who is available and the right one for you. If he is already married, I would suggest you can still be friends with him, not affairs. It wouldn't do anyone good. If you love him, let him go if you cannot have him. That's my principle.
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@amaine (2037)
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
It's good to fall in love again. But, maybe you have fallen in love with the wrong person at the wrong time. I mean, he is married already. Get him out of your mind. Do not mess up with a married man. Many people with be involved and believe me, you don't wanna do this. Get him out of your thoughts. For now, do not hurry. And why do you look so down to yourself? Everybody is unique and different in a good way. I am sure, that person is still out there somewhere, still looking for the right woman in his life. No matter how long it would take, your paths will cross, no matter where, no matter when. Just be patientt. And ask God for His guidance. For you to become strong and give the patience that you needed as you sail this thing we call life. Do not rush things. :) Everything's happened for a reason. Enjoy and live life to the fullest. You can still do some other things even without knowing the man of your dreams. (--,)
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• India
3 Apr 07
nothing wrong in falling in live again and again after all one cant control its emotions
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@ursfriend (218)
• United States
3 Apr 07
its good to fall in love but not again and again...[:)]
4 Apr 07
Man talk to me about that, i feel that its a trap that is set by every girl arround and i keep on falling on them. Well i did fall in love couple of times and am now i have fallen in it again and i dont have it working for me at times all.
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• Philippines
25 Apr 07
Man I've more sense than you would expect from every girl. I just find him a bit humbler than the rest of the guys I know, but apparently he is married, and I'm not going to insist myself on someone who tied a knot with a pretty and sexy woman who gave him a beautiful baby. I'm not that type of a girl who would set a trap for any man to conveniently and deliberately fall into. I'm not going to eat a humble pie because I've been doing that for more than four years. So if you think we women are trying to snare you gus, think again. I've been trying to keep my hormones at bay, and I'm not going to start now. There are better things to do than have an affair with a married man. I'm saying all that because I thought it's high time i found someone to preoccupy myself while waiting for something else to come up, not boys anyway. So if you think, I'm going to entertain this man if he starts giving me some signals, I'm not going to let him laugh behind my back and have fun with his friends, talking about how I drool and swoon over him. He's not that handsome, he's not that humble, and I'm pretty sure at this point, he's not the one for me. I'm going to find someone else who would accept me for who I am, not just because he thinks I'm leading him on. I'm not going to do, my dear. I'm more sensible than you think I am. This man may be all I thought he was in my discussion, but that doesn't sum him up. There's a lot of things I should I know before I sleep with a man, except him. He's not my type anymore. I found someone else worthy of a second glance and my love. He doesn't know I exist, and that shouldn't spin the rumor mill. I hate men who assume to know everything about women. I am a different woman, so you should assume differently. I don't take cues or signals. I don't follow my heart. I think and weigh the odds of winning him.
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
I think and weigh the odds of winning his heart, not his body. I don't want anyone who doesn't love me back. I have to be loved to love. All the same, thank you for the response.
@ursfriend (218)
• United States
3 Apr 07
but if you fall in love again and again it no longer means love..it means lust or satisfaction....
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• India
4 Apr 07
Hey buddy i agree falling in love again & again is no longer love but it is not always true,i mean if in a particular pair of a couple if one is doing time pass then it doesn't mean that another one is also wrong.if he or she leaves you in the middle way without caring for our heart how could he or she live with us the whole life how???? In fact i would say she was never yours.So i would agree with you only partially because its correct that love is not a game to fall in it again again but we should always wait for our true love,the one who would love you honestly.So don't always search for love sometimes you can also wait for Love.
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@sidoney (1033)
• Jamaica
15 Apr 07
well I alway think that if you can think it you can have it but alway remember that the grass is alway greener on the other side only in our minds falling in love is a very possibility you just have to be read for love when love is ready for you
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@acquaria (719)
• Italy
4 Apr 07
The right person - Who is the right person?
We always falling in love with the wrong persons.Be patient and I think you'll find the right person for you.
@diannebcrs (1549)
• Philippines
4 Apr 07
Easier to fall for someone taken, right? Like they say, the best ones are always taken.. :(
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• India
4 Apr 07
well jackie,i felt so sorry for this, plz dont be mind.my heart is broken.well it happens some times in life,dont be sad.if this is happend to u . u just think this for my good sake,and just take it easy, relaxed, and try to spend some time with urs friens thats all dear.............
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• Philippines
4 Apr 07
yuo have mentioned he's married already...in my opinion, you dont have to force yourself on him coz he has already a partner...y dont u look around? there are many other sure guy hotties
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• India
4 Apr 07
"Love is not finding someone to live with but love is finding someone you can't live without".In fact i would say that always love the one who loves you & cares for you.so according to me love never ends if you love somebody and she has no care for you then you should step forward for finding your true love......so again i had fallen in love the after the one who left me....but now the with whom i had now fallen in love cares for me too much & cant live without me & because of her true love even i cant live without her.She is simply gorgeous,good looking,good natured,kind,caring,beautiful.....in fact she is really a special person for me.she never leaves me alone and always shares every joys & sorrows with me.the most good quality in her is that she a very friendly nature,talks very politely with me and is very honest with me.I m sure she will never leave alone.Ohhh!!! I Love her too much.So you guys & girls don't worry if first love is not successful,you just step forward start searching.....as it is well said "If u love somebody set her free.....if she comes back she's yours,if she don't.....she's not yours".
@ansaris (26)
• India
4 Apr 07
I would like tell you that donot try to destroy his married life. Contol your your feelings towards him. There might some some reason why god has made you wait for such a long lime. God might have found a better person for you. Pray to god ,he will help you.
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• China
4 Apr 07
You are a romantic gril. But frankly speaking, your love is so dangerous becasue he has got married. It seems that your love story is no result. Therefore, I want to suggest you to give up. Or else, you may hurt yourself. If he is a responsible man, he would refuse your love. If he is a non-responsible man,he may accept man. But he may give up you if he find a gril that is more pretty than you. Do you think so?
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@nic_knick (741)
• China
4 Apr 07
love is so sweet for you, and it is amazing that you could fall in love again. and it is pretty cool you love the boy. and i could sense from your words you love him really lot. good luck. keep my fingers crossed for you two.
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@hoghoney (3749)
• United States
3 Apr 07
I dont understand what you mean by he is to white for you I dont mean to be dumb about it but that should not matter. but anyway he is married so you should get these thoughts out of your mind and try to look at someone or someplace else for love and just keep him in that corner of your heart for yourself. if he is out of reach keep him that way.
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@Phoniex (74)
• India
3 Apr 07
well since he is a married man you should let it go otherwise you will ruin your's and his life.
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@atramesil (685)
• United States
3 Apr 07
Something for you to think about. He's married right. If you were to "steal" him away from his current wife, would you ever be able to trust him and be sure that the next cute little number that drifted into his area might "steal" him away from you? Living in a relationship where trust is an issue is really, really tough. There are plenty of good guys out there. I advise you wait for yours.