the ups and the downs of being the eldest

Philippines
April 3, 2007 1:55pm CST
i have so much to share about being the eldest child that i don't even know where to start. well, first of all, there's this sort of unwritten rule that you're the second father/mother when your parents are away. sometimes it's ok since you also get some authority over your siblings. you get to be in charge and tell them to do this and do that. you get to be boss and decide what they should do and what should be done first. you just have to be careful though, coz when something goes wrong, your siblings point their fingers at you and you face the consequences alone. when you're the eldest, you usually get to be the first one to experience having a job. therefore you're the earliest one to share your parents' responsibilities as well. take me for example. i'm only 21 and i already feel like i'm feeding my very own big family. when i got my first paycheck, i thought i'd go "wow, i'll buy this and that..go do this and do that". but no, i had to split it in two and send the other half home so i could contribute to my folks' expenses. it may sound like a burden, but if you ask me, i'm proud to say i'm helping my parents out. it feels good when you occassionally receive text messages from your mom saying thank you for making their loads lighter. overall, it's more of an honor than a bummer. hehehe... what have you guys got to say??
1 response
@towongfoo27 (2989)
• United States
3 Apr 07
I do not like being the eldest of five children, because the pressure put on older children is unrealistic. In short, you are expected to be an adult at age five, yet you are a kid needing magic kisses and frogs. Part of me even thinks putting some of the responsibility for one's affairs off onto someone else, especially their own child, is manipulative and neglectful, because then the parent(s) have less committment to their own kids. In short, the older child is convinced by mom or dad that he or she is a responsible adult by taking care of everyone else, but yourself. Last but not least, the older child needs a life of his or her own with his or her own money.