Can your past affect how act and think?

United States
April 3, 2007 3:11pm CST
My fiance thinks so, we have been fighting a lot. It's mostly because of me, and how I act and think. He says I'm a child and I need to grow up. If thats so, he wants me to go get help. I don't know what do do, I love him so much. And I love our children. So I'm asking what should I do?
2 responses
• United States
3 Apr 07
Oh, there's no doubt we behave the way we do because of our pasts. Things that have been said to us, done to us, happened to us - and how we reacted to them - help shape who we are, and give us a framework by which to process new things that are said, done or happen. Everyone comes from a different frame of reference, as all of us have different experiences. If he thinks you are such a child, then why is he your fiance?
@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
3 Apr 07
Of course our past affects how we act and think...particularly IMO when there is any type of trauma in ones past....it puts a whole new spin on our thought process and reactions and actions etc....My question to you is this....Do YOU think you are immature? (to answer that you need to take a good cold hard look at yourself though which isnt always easy)...Do YOU think you need help?