Why do people speak before thinking?Are they just rude?

United States
April 4, 2007 10:53am CST
I was in the grocery store with a friend that uses food stamps(independence card),she was in line and had some shrimp on the counter.The cashier said loud as can be"must be nice to buy shrimp with you food card".So my quick witted friend said."Oh!These aren't for me they are for my cats"I was embarresed and thought it was funny at the same time.You should have seen the cashiers face.It turned blood red.I guess the cashier thought that it was wrong to buy an expensive food item.I was so upset about what the cashier said I reported her to the manager.But she should have kept her comments to herself.She did not know the bad situation of this person as to why she was reciving food stamps. She deserves to be treated once in a while to something nice.Any way I was going to give her half of the money for them because she had no cash to buy laundry detergant.Are people that mean to make fun of someone that is less fortunate than them? Or are they just plain rude?
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8 responses
@osy2ng (9)
• Nigeria
25 Apr 07
Most people are like the cashier you encountered, sometimes I think it is plain stupidity or meanness that cause them to look down on people they think they are better than.Because they have, they find it difficult to make allowance for those that have not. I like your gesture of financial assistance to your friend, it shows you care and understand whatever situation that led her living on food stamp. Here in Nigeria, people will very much welcome govt provision of food stamp to help the needy because many go through the day without food in their stomach.
• United States
26 Apr 07
I am glad that we do have a program for help.But There are alot of people who abuse it.When my friend and I were filling out the paperwork you would not believe the amount of people who had cell phones.When you looked in the parking lot their were alot of really nice cars.The people were dressed well with their hair and nails done nicely.It makes you wonder how they have money for this.It is a shame that so many people are in need of food.You know how much food is thrown out by restaurants a day.Why can't they start an organization for people to pick up the food and deliver to the needy.
@happymommy3 (2013)
• United States
19 Apr 07
Goodness! Shame on that cashier for making such a comment! Good for your friend for sticking up for herself. People like that are just rude in my opinion. People like that really do need to think twice before making such remarks because they might find themselves in that same situation and be just like your friend on the other side of the counter having to use a food stamp card. Just because you're on food stamps doesn't mean you have to eat like a poor person, and doesn't mean you're poor, which is what most people think when you are on food stamps. I was once in her situation and had to be on food stamps and I thank God that I was able to have that card and there's nothing wrong with being able to get what you want. That's what the rules are, to buy whatever food product you want, as long as it's food! So I'm sure that cashier felt bad after that, I hope.
@stormygrl (763)
• United States
5 Apr 07
They're just plain rude ! I'm glad you told her manager and hopefully something was done with her. If the cashier can't say something nice the she should smile and shut up. She had no right to comment and lots of people can receive the food card and still be working.
• United States
5 Apr 07
The girl who had the food card does work.Her husband left her with 2 kids.She owns the house and has to make house payments by herself.After she pays for babysitting there is hardly nothing left.I don't think this woman ever sleeps.It is hard with a 3 year old and a 5 year old.And then go to work full time? I commend her for taking all this on herself.
@shakeroo (3990)
• Malaysia
4 Apr 07
Those people whose mouths are faster than their brains are normally not that bright. Since the brain is too slow to react, then the mouth takes over and what you get is some stupid remarks that does not wort a single cent. That is what I think.
• United States
4 Apr 07
This is very true!Well put my friend.
4 Apr 07
Good for your friend to be so quick witted, the cashier should be ashamed for making such comments. Who is she to judge anyway, there are so many people in this world who need help, she has no right to be so rude. I had a similar situation in a local chemist where I was waiting for my medication, and the young lass in the pharmacy commented to her friend "why doesn't she buy the medication instead of scrounging them with a prescription" I leaned over the counter and said "Because unlike you I do not have a well paid job and can't afford the basic essentials" boy did she shut up fast.
• United States
4 Apr 07
I am glad you stood up for yourself.My husband gets embarrased when I do something like that.If a person in a store is rude to him he looks the other way.I always tell him he is too nice sometimes.
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
19 May 07
Well, I agree that the comment was rude and uncalled for and you did good to let the manager know about it. At the same time, I have seen ppl at the store with a cartload of cases of soda, frozen pizza's, chips, candies and so forth. I do believe that if they had to pay for those things with their own actual money they would be less inclined to buy it. For a short time, my husband and I had to use Food Stamps and I hated it but I always tried to buy things that would stretch for more than one meal. Even now that we have gotten things straightened out, I still shop that way. LIVE IN PEACE
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
14 May 07
I agree with you. Im glad you reported her. That was just plain rude. Its really none of her business. If she had said that to me I know I would have told her to mind her own business and along with some other choice words.LOL
20 Apr 07
Thanks for the best response hun