Does your husband or boyfriend look at other women?
By kynni204
@kynni204 (2031)
United States
April 4, 2007 12:22pm CST
My husband has a natural eye(starring) problem. Not just women it is men to that he looks at. He says he likes to monitor his surroundings. The problem is women think that he is looking in a totally different way. Do you think it is still disrespectful?
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8 responses
@disvachic (10117)
• United States
4 Apr 07
When i was with my ex i really didn't have a problem with him taking a glance at other women because he wasn't being all disrespectful,breaking his neck and all.I really wasn't even thinking nothing of it really because i knew he had me as a total package.lol
@Erinlpx (179)
• United States
4 Apr 07
Yes he does. No, I'm not disrespected by it. It's human nature to notice other attractive people. I point them out to him sometimes for a joke :)
I think people who are bothered by this are insecure in their relationship. Just because he's looking doesn't mean he wants to sleep with them, or finds them more attractive than you. Years ago, when still dating - this used to bother the HELL OUT OF ME! I would get really upset and hurt. I broke up with a guy who used to do this all the time.
Later, I realized that just because a guy is looking doesn't mean it's a competition, it doesn't mean they are comparing or wishing "Gee, I wish Erin was thinner, or blonde, or looked like that" or whatever. Also, when being perfectly honest with myself, I have to admit that I notice other attractive men.
It doesn't mean my husband is unattractive - it's not a comparison. It's a "gee, he's cute" and then that's it.
@Erinlpx (179)
• United States
4 Apr 07
I disagree. I know I'm not the only woman in the world. I know I'm not the most beautiful woman in the world, and I know there are people more attractive, with nicer bodies out there. I don't want to be deluded. I don't want my husband to put blinkers on and think I'm the only person in the universe he's allowed to look at.
Just because he looks at other women occasionally doesn't mean that he doesn't make me feel special. It's me he goes to bed with at night. It's me he provides for, when he's upset or angry or needs to vent - it's me he turns to. When he comes home from work and comments on something smelling good in the kitchen, or how nice the house looks, or how nice I look - I'm the one who gets the benefits of that, and there's no price tag for it.
I don't care how many menus he looks at, because I know he's coming home to order - and I'm exactly the same way.
@steffylikewoah (1762)
• United States
4 Apr 07
I've never seen my husband look at another woman. Even when a really attractive woman walks by I'll look at him to see if he noticed and he's not even paying attention lol. But I do think it's disrespectful for you husband to look at other woman in from of you. Even if he doesn't mean to admire them, it can very easily be misunderstood.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
4 Apr 07
he looks, and he will even say babe look she is hot. do i feel "disrespected"? not at all. no one can disrespect you unless you give the the premission to do so. i don't mind him looking at other women, that is human nature. as long as he keeps his hands to himself
@kynni204 (2031)
• United States
4 Apr 07
The thing with my situation is that my husband is 6'8 and everybody notices it. I don't appreciate it. He acts a clown it I look at other fine men and I would love to look at them. Who doesn't love eye candy? ..lol It's out of the respect I have for him, I dont want to make him feel bad
@jjwatson28 (572)
• United States
4 Apr 07
NA Thats just the nature of a man. As long as he is not cheating on you i wouldnt worry about it.
@zing_i (269)
• United States
4 Apr 07
I guess he does not look at them with a bad intension but ofcource they do look at other women and I guess its ok for them to look also, till ur love is strong you dont have to worry about anything.
just trust in the lors and love ur husband with an unconditional love.
@Lauraleigh99 (4718)
• United States
4 Apr 07
That is just a natural thing for all men to do. My hubby will glance at them but he doesn't stare at the continously which is fine with me. You know the old phrase you can look but you can't touch. I look at other men when I notice they are very attractive to me and once and awhile sneak a peek at their butt So it is the same thing. As long as he is not touching them and telling you hey look at that hot woman there is no harm in it at all It is just human nature
@bad1981 (799)
• United States
5 Apr 07
Here and there, mostly when I point out a wierd looking woman or a way that a woman is dressed. It doesnt really bother me at all because I am very secure with my husband. We are all human and have eyes so to me it is just natural to look at others, males and females do it.
