Being in the family you could't understand your family members. We are outsiders and we know nothing about your family and how can we comment on your family members. CaTCH HOLD of elders in the family, they will solve the matter.
What is it you can't understand about them? Are you communicating with them? Is there just one problem you're dealing with or many? Please give us some more information so that we have more to go on to give you an answer.