Do moms back up their children and blame it on the 'bad company'?

protective mom - mom and child
@leanette (3002)
India
April 6, 2007 12:40am CST
I guess all moms tend to do that! They back up their children even if their wrong, mommy instinct I suppose! And worse blame it on the friends they hang around with. To what extent can you go to save your child? My ex- best friends mom just landed up at my place and interrogated me of my friend's weird behavior and blamed that I was spoiling her. It seems she hasn't been goin to school and was turning aggressive and repulsive and lying. Her teacher's called up her parents to tell them about her misconduct in class. The first few times I did (and her few close friends) go along with her to 'enjoy' bunking classes, we felt terrible and we advised her but she didn't listen but I stopped goin with her anymore. She has had a similar past, she never used to turn up at school and instead did drugs and loafed around with her friends. And her mom knows all of this and I know she knows its her daughter's fault, but to save her a$$, and not get her suspended from school, she blames it on all her close friends. Do ALL moms tend to do this? I know how moms can stand up for their children and I don't have no grudge on the woman, because I feel she's just doin what a mom does- save her child. I just feel angry at her daughter who had been hurtin her all the while with her damned behavior.
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4 responses
• Philippines
6 Apr 07
Believe me when I tell you that the one at fault here is the parent/s. Look at the attitude the mother is showing - she is tolerating the wrongdoing of her child. Instead of facing the facts squarely and outright, she goes around blaming others for the wrong things going. Her child never gets reprimanded the right way. She makes her child feel that going around with it is possible by putting the blame on others. Next time her mother comes back to you or some conversation to this effect comes up, tell her straight that she must confront her daughter on this regard, rather than the people around her. If she had taught her daughter how to pick good friends and be around them in the first place, this shouldn't have happened. Us parents, have the obligation to make our children see and follow the right path. In order for the children see which is the right path, the parents will have to guide their children through. Words of advises, of morals, of righteousness, of the right virtues will make them see very easily the difference between right and wrong.
@leanette (3002)
• India
6 Apr 07
You are right, the parents are at fault here. But none of her other siblings are like her, they are quite pleasant and liked by folks in school. I donno what went wrong with her, she couldn't have possibly had something lacking in her upbringing, her parents did not spoil her, they wouldn't encourage her to do unright things, but jsut trusted her actions a bit too much and she took advantage of the freedom given to her. Its hard gettting her back to the line now. But the mom, for the mom she is, is trying her best to save her. Thanks for responding!
@pengqing (218)
• China
6 Apr 07
The mother is the world's greatest!
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@leanette (3002)
• India
10 Apr 07
Yes indeed! :)
@samrat16 (2442)
• India
6 Apr 07
Yes, I have seen most parents backing their childern for nonsense they did. There are parents who doesn't realize that this kind of behaviour of theirs is going to spoil there childern career as they will be rotten egg whole of their life. My mom is exactly the opposite , she asks my friends to leave my company as she tells them that my son is drinks and smokes , you should stay away from him so that you don't spoil your life.
6 Apr 07
I would die for my children and do anything to protect them and keep them safe from harm. However they have to learn to take responsibility for their own actions as well. I don't think we do our kids any favours by allowing them to be blameless in these situations. Even if it were their friends leading them astray, they have minds of their own and chose to follow the crowd.