I lost it this morning. I am tired of doing it all by myself.

Oh my friend, do i ever sympathize with you...See, i've had a back injury in the past, and now that i'm back at work, it's killing me, but i still go to work everyday. The only thing i ask of my hubby, is that he at least pick up after himself, puts his dirty clothes in the basket we bought together, just for that purpose, empty the ashtrays, hang his jacket, and put away his boots, little things like this you know? Does mister do that? Not even!! It's like i'm his slave! I pick up after him, i clean the whole house by myself, i do laundry alone, dishes, don't even go there! And when i ask him to take out the trash or the recuperation bin, he tells me, why don't you take them out? Like OMG!!! Why are some men this way??? It just infuriates me, i so understand your situation. When i ask him to please bring me a glass of water, or something, cuz i just sat down, after cleaning up the house, after a whole day's work, with extreme back pain, he sights, as if i'm bothering him!! Can you believe the guts these men have?? They think we have to clean up after them and they don't even give anything in return?? Ok, I'll have to stop writing, cuz i'll take the whole place, i'm so upset!

OMG it must be the day. My son is really on it. He had the chore of cleaning the bathroom. NOBODY loves this chore. DUH! Well he did a half a$$ed job and actually made it worse then it was! So now he's ranting and raving around the house. He goes through these fits and I'm telling you if I don't kill him it will be a miracle! So now the fight is, clean or you don't leave. Well he's carrying on even more now. My girls are sleeping over at friends' houses and the oldest went to work from there. They clean regularly and I rarely have to get on them. But my son, I swear to God, cannot for the life of him figure out what the word CLEAN is. I actually close his bedroom door to keep it from the world. AND he will actually take friends in there!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! UGH! I guess we can take some comfort in knowing we're not alone in the "I'm tired of doing it all myself" world?! LOL

I know how you feel! I have chronic pain also, and need help sometimes. When my pain is ignored and I have to do painful activities anyway, I write little notes, "I'm NOT Cinderella!" It doesn't change anything, but I feel better venting.

I know for a fact that in every marriage there comes a point where this problem presents itself. I can tell you from personal experience where the problem is. A man is raised by a woman and most mothers do not insist that their son's do housework. I am not sure why but one way or the other the boys find something else to do and the mother let's it go. So these boys grow up. They marry. And that wonderful girl they married begins to assume the role there mother had. The more you take on the more your husband will let you because that is what has always been. Now you are sick and of course he should help. But he will not change overnight just because you don't feel well. Housework is like a foreign language to him. It may be very easy for you to speak it but they have no understanding of what to do next. And, I hate to admit it, we are very good at justifying our actions even if in our own heads. What you take for grated because you have done it so long he looks at like he just stepped into a new city with no road map and of course you can't ask for directions. The more you make him take on when you are not sick the more he will be able and willing to do when you are. Try to remember why you married him. Hard as that is right now. I wish you luck.

I hate it for you that they don't understand. I just had to put my foot down in way I never wish I had to, but my little "lost it" moments never worked.. so we're over (that's the ex-fiancee and me). NOW he wants to help more around the house. NOW he wants to get the better paying job. NOW he wants to show emotion. I hope you don't want to go to that extreme, but when you need help you need help. Ever try counseling?