friend requests and the (im)possibility to message them before asking to add you
By web2samus
@web2samus (255)
Uruguay
April 6, 2007 4:42pm CST
hello, I'm quite new around here but there is something about the site that is giving me some uncomfort, it's not possible to message someone who haven't added you as a friend and that seems really stupid, I mean, I don't like to add someone who I haven't even talked to yet and even worse, to ask with a unexpressive request. What do you think? I should be great to let people send messages before adding them as friend to actually "ask" about the request don't you think? or at least allow to send some text along with the friend request just to say "hi I want to add you, is it okey?" or something like that. Dunno perhaps there is some way I'm not familiar with, if so please let me know :) thanks
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4 responses
@nicolec (2671)
• United States
6 Apr 07
The reason you can't do that is to prevent unwanted spam emails. Imagine 85,000 people trying to send you private messages. Some might be good, but I suspect the majority would be unwanted junk. If you get a friend request, check out their profile. See if they have started and responded discussions that fit your interests. Or if you happen to be in a discussion and share the same view as some one else, then request their friendship. Chances are they may remember you from the discussion.
good luck
@web2samus (255)
• Uruguay
6 Apr 07
yeah I've supposed that this was the reason it's just that I find very impolite to send a friend request to someone before even talk to him/her perhaps a little text along with the request will do
@kiiizu (1901)
• Estonia
6 Apr 07
Other people told you already about avoiding spam that way. Unfortunately it's right, myLot has more than 85000 members now, and even in a very good company may be some ... er, not very nice persons. If someone asks me to become his friend I'm always looking at his profile at first. Where he's coming from, his age, his discussions, his responses, his websites etc., i.e. I make a little research. That is usually giving a quite good picture about a person. In fact, until now I have rejected nobody.
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
•
6 Apr 07
no, i am afraid you can only message people who are already on your friends list, so they have to accept you first
blessed be
@dusty1020 (174)
• United States
6 Apr 07
yeah i thought that too. i just figured you could do it but i didnt know how.
