Would you ever date your best friend?

Philippines
April 7, 2007 3:43am CST
We can never say where our friendship may end up.Whether to dating, to a relationship, to marraige or to just being friends. But if you were given a chance to date your best bud, Would you? Here are some answers of the people i knew. It's really nice to be good friends at first, but if it will develop farther, the friendship should not be affected along the way. For me, dating a friend is not healthy for the relationship. Stefan partick said. I tried before but it didn't work out so i'd rather not. I'd rather keep her as a friend. We're better of as friends. Mixx answered. Of course yes. I think that's how relationships turn out to be. You wouldn't end up with someone you like based on just physical attraction alone. It's actually a good thing. Answered by Miko. If your going to ask me, there's nothing wrong in dating your best friend. Even if things don't work out, the friendship shouldn't be affected. Actually, i think that's a better way to know whether you and your friend will continue your friendship in the next level or stay as friends. I would rather date a friend than to date a total stranger. I wouldn't be comfortable dating someone i barely know.
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@repzkoopz (1895)
• Philippines
7 Apr 07
yeah! if its my female bestfriends, why not? i'd love to go out with them. c",) actually, i have 2 female bestfriends. and i'd really really wanna go out with them.. its been years since we went out together. i guess its because we have our own priorities now. i have 1 real best friend, and he's the best of the best.. and i doubt if i'll ever date him! hahaha... lolz! c",)
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• Philippines
7 Apr 07
I see. But you never tried to date one of your girl bestfriends?
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@repzkoopz (1895)
• Philippines
8 Apr 07
you mean an intimate date? like "hey, lets have a date! but we're not supposed to be bestfriends in that date" kinda date? yeah, one of them, once.. but the brother-sister thing kept coming in. i guess we just love each other so much that way that it can't go any further than that.. but i have to admit, we do kiss lips. and believe me, i really can't tell if they put malice into it.. coz for me, they're still my sisters.. probably with benefits. i love them too much to think of malice seeping in.. c',)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
Kissing your girl bestfriend on the lips? Well that's nice, but i never did it with my guy friends. I used to kiss my girl "friends" on the lips but i never done it with my boy "friends". Yeah. You're right. The sister-brother thing will always be thought like for the first five minutes of the date. haha! lol
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• United States
8 Apr 07
I actually dated one of my closest friend. We dated for 11 months before I decided to end the relationship. After we had broken up he was not allowed to talk to me because his girlfriend at the time did not want him to continue talking to me, even though she was the reason why I decided to end the relationship. While they were dating he would still call me to like when we were friends but it started getting weird when I started dating other guys. He kind of got distant and then stopped talking to me. When I was getting married I asked him and a couple of my closest friends to attend but he decided not to show up. I found out that he recently got married a couple of months ago and he invited my family except me. It's been ten years since we went out but I still have not talked to him as of yet.
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
Well that's sad. I mean, you ended up with the feelings of hurt. I think he's bitter and immature. You see, i find friendship as something special. More specail than love because your boyfriend can leave you but your true friends don't. Well, actually it's based on my experience. Anyway, i think you don't deserve the treatment that he did to you. I believe that you just did the right thing, he can't date two girls at a time. Or he can't date any other girl if he already had a girlfriend, right? And regarding you dating relationship to with others, he shouldn't have take it against you. You deserve to find your happinness and he shouldn't be too selfish. Jeez! That's cruel.
• Philippines
7 Apr 07
I don't see anything wrong about dating a bestfriend. In fact, I like the idea. After all, when a couple dates, it doesn't mean that they are already committed to each other rather, they are trying to consider each other in a deeper relationship. If nothing comes out of it, fine. If it goes well, so much the better. Dating will not destroy a friendship, I would rather say that it makes the friendship shine all the more knowing each other better. Life is just merely a matter of attitude. It is best that we take the positive side whenever possible.
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
I agree. But you can't take away the bitterness if one of you hoped that it will work.
@marci3 (245)
• Philippines
7 Apr 07
Only if my best friend were a guy! Kidding aside, I would love to date my best guy friend because I love his company. I know we share a lot of things in common so I don't think we'd have first date jitters. I believe when you agree to date each other, you already know the risk you're taking. If it works out and you both want to take it a step further, then good for you. However, if you realize that it isn't the kind of relationship you want, then you could go back to being best buds. I know it's very easy to say but some really do work out and some either lose the friendship, maintain it or remain friends but not with the same intensity. Nonetheless, it all depend on how you value each other.
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
I see your point. Ending up with nothing doesn't seem to be easier. Like when both of you decided to go out on a date, then it's like both of you are expecting of something farther than what you have right now. Or maybe one of you. And bitterness is so cruel that even if you still want to be friends, it just won't let you. Then here comes the gap. Like you would seldom talking to each other and worse, he won't even share his secrets with you anymore. That's really a risk.
@ssshjah (109)
• Malaysia
7 Apr 07
I think there's nothing wrong in dating your best friend as you might be able to move to the next level if both of you have the same feelings for each other. If it doesn't work out, you can still be friends. I strongly feel so.
• Philippines
10 May 07
I also think so. Thanks for the response! have a great day.
• India
7 Apr 07
if that special spark is there than i would definitly date him!! it's not that often that you like someone coz of the person that they are and not just based on physical attraction...
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• Philippines
9 Apr 07
Yah your right. Besides most lovers started really as friends.
@asteriskec (1074)
• Philippines
7 Apr 07
I think this will be a touchy situation to be in. It's either you're friends or you're not. It's so difficult especially if the relationship didn't work out. But if by date you mean just going out and hanging out and spending time, then why not?
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
I think dating is different from just hanging around. Cause i find dating as a way of getting to know someone intimately and a little deeper, unlike hanging around, you just guys wanna have some fun without even bothering whom your going with. And you can hang out with anyone, regardless of the gender, but you can't date the same gender. lol. Anyway, it's true it's a little touchy, i think especially with a girl. But perhaps, if dating your bestfriend didn't work, the friendship shouldn't be affected. Besides dating is not a final cut. It's just a "try an error" stuff for you and best bud to decide whether your gonna go for a relationship.
@kerry1804 (214)
• India
7 Apr 07
yes.. i date my friend many times.. i am not bother what will happen tomorrow.. if she is my friend today then i would like to be with her as long as possible.
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• Philippines
10 May 07
i see. thanks for the response.
@web2samus (255)
• Uruguay
8 Apr 07
I'll just say this: "if you own a pet, let's say a dog you have to feed it and take care of it but if you later decide you want another one, a cat you will then have to feed BOTH and more important, since they're different they require different attentins and cares" ^^ just that, care about yourself and care about the other, don't forget to feed your relationships the way they need to!
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
Well that's deep. But i get it. Your right. There should always be considerations. And i think what your trying to say is that, friendship should or does grow? Is that it? So dating a bestfriend is agreeable.
• Uruguay
10 Apr 07
yeah! that's it, you can date a non-friend and have fun and so or you can have a friend and not dte it, but if you choose to have both, a friend and a lover you must take of both aspects of the relationship or else it won't work I think :)
@txwoman36 (173)
• United States
10 Apr 07
i have a guy best friend that i would love to be with. him and i have alot of things in common and see eye to eye on alot of things too. hes not ready for a relationship but when he is ready i hope he will give us a chance. im going to be seeing him next month and planning on having a talk with him. i think if we got together we would do good together. i have known him almost 12 yrs.
• Philippines
11 Apr 07
I see. So you like your guy best friend. Well i think your right. There's nothing wrong if both of you will give it a chance. I wish you luck.
@Maxturvy (114)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
I go with you. There is nothing wrong dating with a friend especially your best friend.But I don't believe there is no complications or aftermath in your date.We can be comfortable dating a best friend but after that I don't think so the feelings is still the same. On my part, I might be a little bit touch on that part. Whatever the outcome of the said date, someone will be hurt or someone will be happy. There is what we call a distance between you and your friend. If the feelings is mutual then you became lover and friends but if is opposite then the feelings is little bit different."A distance between us" is the aftermath of the date.
• Philippines
10 May 07
You're absolutely right. We never know what tomorrow brings but we won;t lose anything if you try dating a friend. It's better to date a friend eventhough it didn't workout rather than not to date him/her than suffer your whole life wandering what could have been, right?
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
If im single, well dating a girl friend wont be a problem. Like the saying Goes, you'll never know until you dip you foot into the water. So if you really wanna pursue for something better tha friendship and you really dont wanna lose your best friend, why not teat the water and date her. for me, if my intentions are clear, i guess if anything bad happens I am not to blame. It's just that maybe we are better best friends, but if it turns out to be good, i'll thank God for giving my bestfriend as my lifetime partner too.
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
I like what you said. You'll never know until you dip your foot into the water. In short terms, no guts no glory. Am i right? You're absolutely right.
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
Yes definitely. if given a chance that i am truly in love with her why wouldn't i go for it. the question is! does he/she felt the same way as you did. but no matter what happened you two should really get along after the relationship ayt:?
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
I agree. That no matter where the dating may end up, the friendship shouldn't be affected. But i think it's not that easy.
• United States
8 Apr 07
haha. i wanted to but my guy bestfriend doesn't want me LOL! it hurts! so sooo baddd!!!!
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
Awww. That's awful. Maybe he's not the guy for you. Or he just sees you as a friend, nothing more and nothing less. Well it's not really not that bad. Come to think the good side of it, maybe he just doesn't want to ruin your friendship or he sees somebody else. Because if he doesn't want you then he wouldn't be friends with you, right?
@chavezrmc (5914)
• Philippines
8 Apr 07
there's nothing wrong in dating our best friend, if we feel that feelings so strong then we can go to the next level that is the man-girl relationship. I guess there's nothing wrong about this and i believe that relationship is better when you started as friends coz u know each other so well.
• Philippines
10 May 07
It's true. Best lovers started out as good friends. You can not love a person without knowing her/him right? Thanks for the response.
• United States
8 Apr 07
i would, and as a matter of fact i am. the best couples are those who begin with a friendship. i have been dating my best friend for 5 years straight
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
You're right. I know someone who been bestfriends for twelve years before they got married. I actually liked their story. It was so romantic, though friends, they never really really expected that they would end up with each other. And a strong foundation of a relationship statrs with a good friendship. Friends know each other more than anybody does. You've been dating your friend for a long time, haven't any plans of going farther yet?
@jaffyg (8)
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
no. i will never date my best friend because if the worst comes, we would just become strangers to each other. I don't want that to happen.
• Australia
12 May 07
Personally i would date my best friend yes. My best friend at the moment is a chick called Lys and i have tried to go for her before. We got in a bit of a confused situation before. Because we both had feelings for each other though we were both going out with someone else. In the end we decided that it wasn't worth ruining our friendship on it. Although the outcome wasn't quite what i expected i think it worked out for the best in the end :P I think that it is easier to gain feelings for your best friend, as you are around them all the time and you know lots about them and you trust them etc. In my opinion that makes them a lot easier to start liking than someone you know nothing about.
@chi0ng15 (46)
• Philippines
11 May 07
sure i would date my bestfriend if i were given a chance. i know if you want it and if you really like your bestfriend to be your boyfriend or girlfriend why not go for it. well i can say from experience that i like my bestfriend and we've gone out on friendly dates when we were in college watching movies, eating just the usual things, but definitely not an intimate date. and our friendship hasn't been affected. but i haven't seen her in a while after our graduation because of work. i totally agree with you on that one i'd rather date a friend than a total stranger.
@xenybb (168)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
my bestfriend is a guy, till now w/ our 10 yrs of being together we never ask ourselves if we will be geting to be lovers..Well, i thought he is a great guy but i also believe we will not be getting on that situation. It's different from loving a person which you reallly have "magic"...i never felt that w/ my bestfriend... But there's nothing wrong dating out w/ a bestfriend..