Do you put down your husband/boyfriend to your friends?

@muscare (3068)
Australia
April 7, 2007 3:57am CST
My wife recently told me, after being out with some friends, that she feels quite uncomfortable by the way the other women talk about their husbands. They pay them out and generally trash talk them as if they were dirt. I wonder if other women do this, or is it just some weird occurance in our community? Surely they knew what the blokes were like before they married them. My wife told me that she would never put me down like that, and as a husband, I know I would never put her down while talking to other people.
4 responses
Ravenladyj
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
7 Apr 07
I dont put him down by any means BUT I dont candy coat things for the approval of others either...However I NEVER say anything about him that I havent already told him to his face ya know...
muscare
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
8 Apr 07
That's fair enough, if you tell him. At least there's always a chance he can change something he's doing. Guess you give him praise when it's due,too.
Marie2473
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
7 Apr 07
Hmm, that sounds weird. Whenever I am with my friends I tell them how sweet and kind he is (coz he is) and I would never bad-mouth him - he´s my love =) I feel as if woman doing this are insecure women and that they probably need to bi*ch about something ..
muscare
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
7 Apr 07
Yes, I think you are right. My wife is so different from these women and I think really only associates with them because they have kids around the same age as our son.
natalie1981
@natalie1981 (1995)
• Singapore
7 Apr 07
I don't put my boyfriend down in front of my friends but sometimes when we're fighting, I share them with my friends so I don't know if it's called putting him down.
muscare
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
7 Apr 07
I think after an argument, some people do need to share their feelings and thoughts with their friends. If you're not putting him down just for the sake of it, I think that's a little different.
jmathen
@jmathen (112)
• India
7 Apr 07
I will never put down my husband in front of others.. First of all, I dont really try to bring any conversation about my husband when I am with my friends. I just try to keep answers short, if something comes up ! If I am in group, even if they are close friends, if the conversation topic is not much interesting and it involves "trashing" other people, I try to leave the scene ! I dont have to give my ears to it, thats the choice I make ! I was wondering how could someone talk about their spouse in a degrading manner in front of friends?? Arent we all in the marriage accepting the positives and negatives of the other person?? Love in a marriage also means that, right?? By the way, no person is perfect in this world..As we all know, when we point a finger to someone else, all the other fingers are pointing towards us !! So, whats makes us so perfect to have such a conversation about someone else, even if that other person is not our spouse?
muscare
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
7 Apr 07
Nice to hear, you sound like you have the same sort of relationship as my wife and I. I think some people have forgotten what the word 'respect' means. And I think my wife actually likes to call these women acquaintances rather than friends.