Nightmares

Canada
April 7, 2007 7:23pm CST
When my son was born I made the mistake of letting him sleep with me ever since it has been a constant battle to get my bed back he is almost 4 now. We are at the point he will go to bed in his own bed but he wakes up in the middle of the night and sneeks into my room and when I say sneak I really do mean sneak, like mission impossible. I caught him one night he gets on the floor and does a low crawl with the blanket covering him if hears any noises he retreats and waits until he thinks you are asleep again. When I get up to take him back to his room and put him to bed he starts crying and says hes scared and he's having bad dreams. I know this is another ploy to get to my bed but I feel so bad. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to get my bed back
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@lightningMD (5932)
• United States
8 Apr 07
yup...starting tonight when he comes into your room tell him you understand he's scared but he is to big to sleep in your bed...tell him he can sleep on the floor beside your bed...let that happen for a week or so...then move it to the doorway...after a week there move it to the hall..until eventually he is back in his own bed...i have had 2 different friends do this and it really worked but you have to be firm about it..if you give in even once you will have to start all over again..good luck
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• Canada
8 Apr 07
thanks I'm gonna try this right away there's only one thing I have a big bed and if my husbands gone I wont even notice that he came to bed until the morning. I guess I'm gonna have to be sleeping with one eye open.
@mememama (3077)
• United States
8 Apr 07
My son was cosleeping until recently. I don't think cosleeping is a mistake, millions of parents do this, it's just a cultural thing here where there's a timeline to have a kid in his/her own bed. I didn't pressure him, I just had the bed available in his room. One night he decided he wanted to sleep in there and we've had no problems. I think he did so well since there weren't any pressures. Let him know where you are, and that if he needs you, you're in your bedroom. We leave our doors open so when he wakes up, he can come into our room. Sometimes I've had a glimpse of him checking in on me lol, then he just goes back to bed. Tell him he'll be fine. I hope something works!
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• Canada
8 Apr 07
I'm sorry I guess I should have worded that differently. For some people it is acceptable but for me it was a mistake it wasn't something I wanted to happen. I lost a lot of blood and was really weak, sore and tired that I wasn't thinking about the future. In many cultures this is a very normal way of life but not for me. I need a bedroom free of kids to be able to do whatever it is that a person might want to do in their bedroom.