telling the truth to a child that is not your biological one?
By AlexanderS2
@AlexanderS2 (66)
Brazil
April 8, 2007 7:35am CST
if you have a child, that is either adopted or one of the parents is not his biological father resp.mother, do you think its best to tell the child about it right form the beginning? or its etter to wait until he is older, so he might understand better? Or maybe the best for him is that he never knows about it? For a sesansible child this message can be quite shocking and traumatic. But on the other side, is it ok to dont tell the truth to him?
1 response
@smartmom (826)
• United States
8 Apr 07
I think it is best to make a point of letting the child know early on, but in a casual manner, and in a way that does not make it seem as if it is a big deal, or as if the child is any different from any other child.
I think a good way to do this is by taking pictures on the day that you get to bring the child home, and then talk to your son or daughter about how lucky you were that you found each other, and that you were able to bring her/him home to love.
To often I have seen how so many issues come up, when the child is being mislead, even if it was for all the right reasons. This is such an enourmous issue for the child, and I really do believe that the key in this kind of situation is disclosure, honesty and pride. Pride in regards to the child being proud of being part of your family, and you being proud to have the child with you.
