what do you do if the one you love hits you?

Philippines
April 8, 2007 4:31pm CST
my hubby doesnt hit me not once... but what if what will i do? how bout you have you ever experienced being hit by someone you love like boyfriend or husband?
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@jenille (52)
• Philippines
8 Apr 07
i've never experinced being hit by a bf nor an husband and maybe if this will happen i will definitely end our relationship because if this thing happen once then it is very posible that it will happen again... so even if i love the person so much there is no reason for me to stay in the relationship because if he hit me it only means he does not care for me...
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@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
8 Apr 07
I use to be in an abusive relationship. I was his punching bag, and if I fought back, the abuse got worse. He always apologized and promised never to hit me again,but he always did and blamed me for making him angry. I used make-up to cover cover my bruises and I started to believe that it was the only love that I was deserving of. I stayed with him for a year, because I did not have the courage to walk away.If it wasn’t for one of my friends, I may not be here today telling you about this. One night I went out to the bar with a friend. I came home late and he threatened to kill me. Had I not gotten out then, he most likely would have. A month later I ran into him on the way to meet my date for he drinks. He ended up spraining my arm. I pressed charges and put him away for six months. I have not seen him for 18 years. I'm now married, but sadly it has taken a great deal of self-esteem building to leave my past behind. My physical bruises are no longer showing, but the emotional wounds never fade.
@Ravenladyj (22920)
• United States
8 Apr 07
If my husband ever laid his hands on me I would knock the everloving crap out of him and he knows it...I've been in an abusive relationship (and in the relationship AFTER that one I became the abuser) adn there is NO WAY a man will ever get away with putting his hands on me and holy hell if he were to raise his hands to my kids he'd best run for his life...
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• United States
8 Apr 07
Why do you fear this? Does he have issues with anger? Are you afraid of him? If so you should talk to someone you trust about it. Please don't wait until it's too late. As for me, I would leave if I was ever hit by anyone. I understand enough about domestic violence to know that the perpetrator will do it again. I value and respect myself enough to find a better life.
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@vebela (310)
• United States
8 Apr 07
For one of the psychology classes I took in college, we had to volunteer at a battered women's and children's shelter. It really opened my eyes to how prevalent abuse is for the immigrant community in our area. Of course, it didn't only affect the women/children in the immigrant community, but those were the most frequent new-comers to the community when I was volunteering there. The women showed me how brutalizing it was to be in a relationship where they were being physically, emotionally, and mentally abused. These were the women who were lucky, and who decided to leave before something worse could happen. After that experience, every relationship that I have been in, I made it clear from the start that if he ever hit me, even once, I would leave and never look back. Thankfully, I have never been abused, and my husband doesn't believe in hitting women either. I'm one of the lucky ones.
@lightningMD (5931)
• United States
8 Apr 07
if he hits me out of anger...then i would probably press charges...but since we are a 24/7 BDSM couple i love it when he hits me during a session...i especially enjoy the leather flogger
8 Apr 07
Are you planning to get hit by him anytime soon?