What would you do
@littlefranciscan (18327)
United States
April 8, 2007 4:47pm CST
Way back I told you of my niece coming down and how nothing worked out..
My brother promised on another occasion to send some money to cover the trip I made to his house and back.never did and in another situation borrowed 100 dollars from me and never returned it back..
He is wanting me to send at my expense my nieces belonging..He said he would send the money..but I don't trust him. .He has yet to follow up on any payback he owes.
Is it wrong for me to tell him to make a visit and gather up the belongings or to send the money first rather then me sending it with my money and never getting it back..
My family never speaks to me only when there is some money or favor..other then that I don't exist..
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@kgwat70 (13387)
• United States
9 Apr 07
I would not send him the money since he has not ever paid you back before. It is not likely to change from the things you told me and the other members about your family. He either needs to pick up the belongings himself or send you the money to have the items delivered there. I would not trust him one bit. It would be a different story if he had paid you back before and was honest and treated you better.
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
9 Apr 07
Thanks Ken...I value your input very much. I agree..Not one of them has even so much as emailed me today..I guess I must just pick up and start a new life..and let what's behind remain there..
It still hurts..as people want to put stipulations on you ..if you don't do this then we wont speak to you anymore.
Some decisions have painful results..but I will just have to go through them.+
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
10 Apr 07
He would tell me that we shouldnt expect money back from our relatives no matter how much..I can overlook it once but not many times.. I think relatives if anyone should be the ones you can trusts;)+
@marciascott (25529)
• United States
8 Apr 07
If he did it once he will do it again. I would tell him the only way I will send it, is he has to send the money first. since he didn't send what he owed you before.
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
9 Apr 07
Some people...think I am being cold and unsisterly to him..but I don't think just because someone is blood that they should take advantage of you..Previously I always handed out money left and right..but I am not getting any savings this way..I thank you for your advice;)+
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
8 Apr 07
I don't think 25.00 will cover it Ruby..at least 60.00 as it is no small amount: keyboard, karokee, guitar clothes..then have to insure it etc..It's not a few things;)+ Happy Easter Ruby!
@estherlou (5015)
• United States
9 Apr 07
Sounds to me you wouldn't be out of line telling him the things are packed up and waiting for them to pick up if they want them. But, it is hardest to be "strong" for family, even if they tend to take advantage of you. Just do what you can live with. And know you have a little "extended family" of people here who care for you!
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
10 Apr 07
Thanks ..I surely do need some kind of support and I am glad I have so many nice friends like you on mylot; it really makes a world of difference in one's life;)+
@emeraldisle (13138)
• United States
9 Apr 07
I agree with the others who have posted. He's shown in the past that he won't pay you back. There is no reason to think he will this time. So you should tell him plain and simple that either he has to send you the money first or come and get it himself. If need be explain to him why and if he doesn't like it too bad. He made decided in the past not to honor his word and now he has to deal with it. You should not have to put out the money for things when it's their expense. You work hard for your money and deserve to have it. Let them pay their own way.
@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
9 Apr 07
Thanks for your kind support in this matter..I hope you had a happy Easter..I will take to heart all of your advice..:)+
