How Many Children Must A Family Have?

Philippines
April 8, 2007 6:11pm CST
If somebody throws this question at you, what will be your answer? Taking into consideration the context of how the world it is now, most of us have a pretty good number to fight for.
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@ryanphil01 (4184)
• Philippines
15 Apr 07
for me 2 is enough to make a family of our own. with the income i am receiving and the increasing prices of all commodities in the market one has to think it twice that it's not that easy to raise another child this time. well for others this may be not be reasonable. but again, it depends on the couple's decision on how many children they would like to have.
• Philippines
16 Apr 07
I agree with your views. Having a kid alone is a burden that we must be answerable for in all respects. It is always best that we keep in mind our capacity and capability in raising them appropriately.
@luvreen (168)
• Philippines
14 Apr 07
Two to three children will do, as long you can give your children good education, Provide enough food, and you can attend all their needs and at least not to take all the rights of the children. You can give them the love and security they needed. here in our country it happens that over population is the number one problem that causes poverty.
• Philippines
16 Apr 07
I believe that you have brought forth very sensible points here. I agree with you all the way. Per my experience, it is best that the kids are spaced more than 5 years apart. It will not be so difficult to keep track with them this way, during their growing years. But we all have or own view on these things and I respect them.
@Galena (9120)
14 Apr 07
first off, there is no MUST about it. no one HAS to have children. I don't want any, and I'd be offended if anyone suggested that I MUST have any amount. and second, if people do want children, it's my opinion, they should have as many as they want to have, so long as they are able to support them emotionally and financially. in the UK there are a lot of people who just keep having children they can't support, so they get money from the government to raise their children. I don't think this is fair, that the rest of the country should have to pay for children they can't afford, but keep having anyway/
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• Philippines
16 Apr 07
With the way the world is going now, I should say that it is best that couples will consider not having kids anymore. I like your stand on this regard. But, as we can see, people will always prefer to bring forth kids of their own. This is understandable. But responsible parents will always consider keeping them to a comfortable amount. Government shall not be held liable to feed the kids which parents chose to have on their own. No, I am not sold to the idea of doing it the way it is done in the UK. It will bring forth more and more irresponsible parents.
@Sailor (1161)
• United States
14 Apr 07
There is no number in my opinion. It is just a matter of if the family is comfortable. Your family/household is what you make of it.
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• Philippines
16 Apr 07
Yes, I agree with you. Most of the couples now however, have already agreed on the number of children they want to have when the time comes that they get married. I have observed that most of them do their best to keep to it or cut it to a lower number when the time comes. The common denominator are financial and moral issues. Parents are more aware now about having to discipline their kids and to cope with the demands of the times about keeping track with their growing children.
@romel_ece (1290)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
I think 3 children at most for a family is my ideal number of children to have.We all know that the costs of living nowadays are already expensive and even all commodities are expected to increase there value in no time.Raising 2 children is enough already but having 3 is better in order to have more fun with them.And most especially having less number of children means you have more time and money in spending with them together.
• Philippines
13 Apr 07
Your observations are all true. I agree with the points yoou have raised here. Thanks, romel_ece.
• United States
11 Apr 07
How ever many the family wants to have would be my answer. I don't think you can put an exact number on it for every individual family. If the family wanted none then ok if they wanted 10 then that's their choice. So basically a family must have as many children as they want to have. My personal choice would be 1 or 2.
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• Philippines
11 Apr 07
Yes, your views are in the right perspective. But the answers I am getting here agrees with the results of a survey which was conducted sometime ago about how many children will parents want to have in the family. Parents who have had good education always yielded answers ranging from one to a maximum of three. Two is the most common one of all. Good education really plays an evident role in population.
• United States
9 Apr 07
I feel that there really is no "Ideal" number of kids a family should have. I was blessed with a boy and a girl and I am quite content with one of each. Not saying that another child wouldn't be a blessing but I think that a family should be financially capable of supporting the children they have and not having more kids that the government would need to support.
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• Philippines
11 Apr 07
Yes, I agree with you that, in having children of our own, the utmost consideration will be our capability to raise them to become good and reliable citizens.
@franxexces (1096)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
I don't want to have children but if I'd be asked I think my answer is between three and two. Two--1 boy and 1 girl. Three--2 boys and 1 girl.
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• Philippines
11 Apr 07
I believe that the reason why you don't want to have children is because, you may be too young to be considering it yet. Our maturity on this subject matter depends upon the coming of the time when we start considering getting married. This is not covered therefore, solely by our chronological age. It is good to know though that you are among those who have plans on how to go about having kids around in due time.
• United States
9 Apr 07
When we were first married I wanted four kids and then hubby told me that we could not really afford to give four kids what they really needed so we ended up with just two of them a boy and a girl. My family there is eight of us and don't know how my mother ever dealt with eight of us. I could hardly deal with two of them. I believe it is whatever number you think you can deal with and support.
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@aprilsong (1886)
• China
9 Apr 07
Well,i think two kids are enough for one family.And of course it is better to have a daughter and a son in one family.But we can't choose the gender of our baby.Someone like daughters but they just have sons.And someone prefer sons than daughters,but unfortunately they have so many daughters. In my country,according to the law,one family can only have one child.And it brings about so many problems.I think the only one child in the family is too lonely and sometimes he or she can become selfish.And i do hope the goverment to change the law to allow one family to have two kids.
• Philippines
11 Apr 07
It is true that it must be lonely to have one child only to a family; and, I agree with you that parents must not look at the child's gender. What is important is that we have a child. Before I got married, I made it clear to my boyfriend then, that I want two kids only regardless of their sexes. Two males or two females will still add up to two children. I was blessed though with a girl first then, a son came next. I have three kids in all, as of this moment, one came in just when I thought that it was all over (but that was 19 years ago). A fine addition to the family, another boy. I agree with you that it will be good for the government to allow two kids maximum to a family. I believe that most parents can tackle having two to support until kids become independent. Most parents from your country have expressed their desire on this matter. Let us hope that your government will consider this soon enough.
@lightningMD (5931)
• United States
9 Apr 07
nobody has to have a certain number of kds..people can chose to have no kids...or a dozen it is up to each family who many kids they would like to have...i have 2 children and a step-daughter i would love to have another baby...but my husband does not want anymore children....so that is that...
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• Philippines
11 Apr 07
Your husband must have a valid reason for having decided to put the coming of more kids to a stop. Most mothers nowadays want to have few kids, too. But if there will be more coming than what we intend to, mothers can very easily manage to give out more love from the well of their inner being. Mothers are always known to have boundless love for their children.
@maryannemax (12168)
• Sweden
8 Apr 07
i plan only on having 2. good that my boyfriend understands this plan of mine. maybe even if i am a millionaire, i will still want to have two kids. personally, it's not about how much my money can take... but how much time i can spend with them. the more children you have, the more divided your attentions are. so, for me, i only want have two children because i know i can take care of them and spend quality time with just two kids.
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• Philippines
11 Apr 07
Yes, two must be a fine number. Having only one child may make him growing up lonely. It is different to have a brother or a sister to share life with. The feeling of having someone we can rely on is very assuring, that is, in addition to the presence of our parents.
@tomatoe39 (298)
• United States
8 Apr 07
i always say 2
• Philippines
11 Apr 07
Most couples I know have the same figure as yours. Mine is 3 but they are all grown ups now. My contemporaries used to have four or more. For me, it has always been two, too. I just had a bonus of one more to the fold.
@serenae (161)
• United States
8 Apr 07
Personally I feel like there is no perfect number. It should be what ever the family wants. My number is four children because that is how many I have. I don't think that is the right number for everyone, but it is for me. Some people just want one or two children, and I think that is great. So I feel like the decision is left up to the parents not to what everyone else thinks.
• Philippines
11 Apr 07
It is true that most of us want to have a free hand at this. There are even some I know, who at first thought that six children will be good to have. But after having the first born, they will decide to make it two. They say that bringing up a child is no longer the way it used to be when their parents had them. It has become extremely expensive already.
@kishusia (1069)
• India
15 Apr 07
Two. Hum do hamare do. God willing, a boy and a girl.
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